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What dog breed would be best for me?

2.9K views 6 replies 7 participants last post by  Madra Anamchara  
#1 ·
I’m 25 years old and a relatively small gal. Lf a dog breed that would suit me.



  1. Will this be your first dog? If not, what experience do you have owning/training dogs?
  • No, i’ve owned many dogs throughout my life. As an adult, though, i’ve only ever had one: Disco, a very lazy bully mix.
  1. Do you have a preference for rescuing a dog vs. going through a reputable breeder?
  • I would prefer a breeder
  1. Describe your ideal dog.
  • Enough energy that i can take up to 1 hour long daily walks and occasional weekend hikes, preferably typically likes the water as i love my boat and would wanna take the dog with me. i like dogs that are super affectionate and clingy, but because i work full time, probably no velcro dog breeds. i love cuddly dogs tho, just not one that will flip out when im at work (im aware i have to crate train and stuff.) also preferably a small-medium dog: anywhere from 10-50 lbs would suffice.

  1. What breeds or types of dogs are you interested in and why?
  • labs, though they are bigger than what i’d like. maybe a basenji? though i dont know how affectionate they are. i dont want a dog that will think its a cat.
  1. What sorts of things would you like to train your dog to do?
  • Lots of fun little party tricks along with practical tricks, would even consider agility if i have the times. sit, heel, down, spin, stay, leave it, etc.
  1. Do you want to compete with your dog in a sport (e.g. agility, obedience, rally) or use your dog for a form of work (e.g. hunting, herding, livestock guarding)? If so, how much experience do you have with this work/sport?
  • maybe agility, but not competitive, so i guess no, i taught my old lab/dutch shepherd mutt to jump over things and weave between poles.
Care Commitments
7) How long do you want to devote to training, playing with, or otherwise interacting with your dog each day?
  • on workdays, around 6 or so hours as i stay up pretty late lol. that whole time will not be exercise, or training. maybe about two of that would be devoted to training and exercise. the other four hours would be petting and cuddling and relaxing. weekends i got pretty much all day unless i have plans, about 50% of the time, so on the days i have plans it would be about the same as a workday.
  1. How long can you exercise your dog each day, on average? What sorts of exercise are you planning to give your dog regularly and does that include using a dog park?
  • 1-2 hours a day of walks or hikes, 30+ mins of indoor play.
  1. How much regular brushing are you willing to do? Are you open to trimming hair, cleaning ears, or doing other grooming at home? If not, would you be willing to pay a professional to do it regularly?
  • i can devote time to brushing one or twice a week. I would prefer not to take the dog to the groomer as much as i can because i can do most of the stuff myself, though i will still go to the groomer maybe once every two or so months.
Personal Preferences
10) What size dog are you looking for?
  • small-medium
  1. How much shedding, barking, and slobber can you handle?
  • Minimal slobber. shedding and barking are okay, though preferably not too yappy
  1. How important is being able to let your dog off-leash in an unfenced area?
  • semi-important, but if it is one hundred percent necessary that i get a dog with a high prey drive keeping it leashed would not be an issue.
Dog Personality and Behavior
13) Do you want a snuggly dog or one that prefers some personal space?
  • Snuggly
  1. Would you prefer a dog that wants to do its own thing or one that’s more eager-to-please?
  • eager to please, mostly, but i am willing to work with a stubborn dog if it matches all my other needs.
  1. How would you prefer your dog to respond to someone knocking on the door or entering your yard? How would you prefer your dog to greet strangers or visitors?
  • Mostly just barking, but will be friendly and settle when i greet the visitors, if that makes sense.
  1. Are you willing to manage a dog that is aggressive to other dogs?
  • No
  1. Are there any other behaviors you can’t deal with or want to avoid?
  • cat-like dogs that don’t like to be snuggled.
Lifestyle
18) How often and how long will the dog be left alone?
  • I work a 9-5, so 8 hours 5 days a week at minimum
  1. What are the dog-related preferences of other people in the house and what will be their involvement in caring for the dog?
  • I live alone.
  1. Do you have other pets or are you planning on having other pets? What breed or type of animal are they?
  • No, but i’d prefer that the dog is generally friendly or indifferent to other dogs.
  1. Will the dog be interacting with children regularly?
  • Yes, i have family with kids.
  1. Do you rent or plan to rent in the future? If applicable, what breed or weight restrictions are on your current lease?
  • i live in a one bedroom apartment, and there’s no breed restrictions besides pitbulls.
  1. What city or country do you live in and are you aware of any laws banning certain breeds?
  • USA (Tn to be specific)
  1. What is the average temperature of a typical summer and winter day where you live?
  • Summer high is like up to 90 degrees and the winter low is around 25 degrees. anything between that is average for different times of the year.
Additional Information and Questions
25) Please provide any additional information you feel may be relevant.
  • nothing that i know of, but i will answer any questions!
 
#2 ·
How often and how long will the dog be left alone?
  • I work a 9-5, so 8 hours 5 days a week at minimum
This is the red flag in your post.

What provisions can you put in place for your dog while leaving it for eight hours a day?

And what about time that you aren't working, getting groceries for example?

I suggest this to a lot of people in your situation.

For the next month, act like you have an adult dog. Get up an hour earlier than normal, take an hour long walk. Do the same in the evening after work - and come straight home from work; no shopping, gym, socialising. Do this every day, without fail, regardless of the weather.

Be aware of the season, and remind yourself every morning that for several months of the year you will be doing this in the cold and dark.

Also put away what you think a dog will cost for food, insurance, vet bill excesses, toys etc, then add 10% because we always underestimate these things.

That will give you a good insight into some of the commitment you will need to make.

Don't think about what a dog will bring to your family, think about what your family can offer to a dog.
 
#3 ·
Well, a lot of dogs could fit. And a lot of your preferred are more individual dog than breed per say. So, what are some things that are "dealbreakers" for you? Besides not being too large, vocal, or agressive/reactive? For example, I'd cross Basenjies and huskies off the list.

And as another piece, is there a particular reason you want a dog from a breeder?
 
#4 ·
The Reddit "checklist" is a good starting point, but only looks at one half of the human-pet relationship: it doesn't address what's in it for the dog.

Puppies shouldn't be left alone for 8+ hours per day.

I work a 9-5, so 8 hours 5 days a week at minimum
And how long is your commute?

In my opinion, 6hrs a day up to 6 days a week - is there any way you can reduce weekend plans so that you spend more time with the dog?
 
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#5 ·
In my opinion, if you’re even considering using a dog crate, then you might want to reconsider your choice in pet companions. I advocating for the animals. You don’t wanna be the king of your castle and put your loved ones in a lock box when they’re at convenient for you. Make sure you have time for the Animal make sure you exercise him properly so he’s not compelled to use his energy tearing up the house. And if you have to leave him alone, you also wanna make sure that he’s on a feeding schedule and bathroom schedule. If you do that, that will be the beginning of a good relationship. When dogs act out or soil the house we get angry and they can sense the disappointment. And building relationship is not good when one person is angry and the other is scared. I’m not saying that you’re gonna do that. I’m just stating my opinion. All the talk about what dog is right for the individual seems like a backwards topic. You could ask what dog are you right for but the real answer is any dog is going to be a product of your leadership. I have two large male Presse Canario’s, who are supposed to be very stubborn and difficult. I’ve never had a problem. I also have a female Newfoundland who’s never been a problem. The difference is the males needed a lot of work. The female is an automatic well behaved breed
 
#6 ·
Thanks for being so thoughtful and detailed in your post — it's clear you've done your research and genuinely care about getting the right dog for your lifestyle
Working full-time indeed poses a challenge, but it’s not impossible, especially if you’re prepared to invest in crate training, enrichment toys, and maybe even a dog walker or pet daycare a few days a week to break up the day.
Based on what you’re looking for — affectionate, small to medium size, water-loving, trainable, and not overly clingy — you might want to look into breeds like the Miniature American Shepherd, Boykin Spaniel, or even a Whippet (surprisingly snuggly and lower maintenance).
You mentioned Labs might be a bit large, but a field-bred Lab tends to be a little more compact and still full of love and energy.
I recently wrote about this exact situation on my blog, focusing on picking the right breed for busy young adults and managing care routines realistically. If you’re curious, feel free to check it out here: The Paws Journal
You're already miles ahead of many future dog owners by thinking through things this deeply. Whatever you choose, your future pup is lucky to have someone this committed!