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It fades, and it does get better. What helped me with my dog Jersey (she passed away unexpectedly I'll spare you the details), was to remind myself that I did the best I could, that she knew I loved her, that I gave her the best life I could. I had to actively stop myself from playing the what if game. What if I did this? What if I did that? What if......? That game just made me feel 100% worse. I'd stop myself from playing it and remind myself that I did the best I could do with the knowledge I had at the time.
It took me a good year to really start to get over her death, BUT it did slowly start to get better before that.
What you do is forgive yourself, and you learn what you can from what happened. Dallas loves you, and he'd not blame you for what happened. He knows that you'd have been there if you could, just like my Jersey knows I'd have been with her if I could. When you get home, tell yourself I'm going to open the door and they are going to be fine. Tell yourself that even if you are not feeling it, and you'll find that with a bit of time that's what you will come to expect.
It took me a good year to really start to get over her death, BUT it did slowly start to get better before that.
What you do is forgive yourself, and you learn what you can from what happened. Dallas loves you, and he'd not blame you for what happened. He knows that you'd have been there if you could, just like my Jersey knows I'd have been with her if I could. When you get home, tell yourself I'm going to open the door and they are going to be fine. Tell yourself that even if you are not feeling it, and you'll find that with a bit of time that's what you will come to expect.
