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I'd first like to introduce myself. I'm Chris from Georgia. Thanks for allowing me to post here. I have a chihuahua male, one year old and his name is Joey. He has been under my feet since the day I brought him home almost a year ago. I feed, water, bathe him, brush him, treat him, I house trained him, he sleeps with me, he watches everything I do. He's the one companion that has helped with my depression more than anything. He has kept me from feeling so lonely. I love him so much.

But I can't help but think at times he doesn't love me. At certain times he'll lie around in the living room with others. When I notice that he's not with me I get sad. I don't mean too, but like today he was lying with my brother, which I don't mind at all, I want him to be friendly with everyone. But it just broke my heart. It threw me into a almost full blown panic attack. Almost like he abandoned me. Crazy I know. :-(

I do suffer from anxiety, social problems, and depression. But I was wondering if it was just me that felt this way, or have others ever been in a situation where they've felt this way too? I'd love to hear your stories of what you felt like. I feel so embarrassed even talking about it, like why would I be jealous of my dog. I don't know, just stressing a I guess. That's what I'm best at.

Hope someone has an experience to share so I don't feel so alone in this.
 

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Don't know the answer to this, but someone on here will. Great that you posted and didn't just go on stressing about it.
You've obviously done a great job bringing your dog up to be sociable...perhaps it's just a bit like very sociable children(not that I'm suggesting that dogs are like children) and visitors have novelty value, or maybe staying close to them is your dog's way of checking them out for you. Bet he wouldn't want to go home with them, anyway!
Either way, you will certainly be THE most important person in his life.
 

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Aww don't worry about it, most dogs are just social and friendly with people, it's good you've raised your dog to be like that!
I admit I get a little hurt when my dog completely ignores me for other family members. He usually wants to spend all his time with me, but then sometimes will ignore me talking to him, ignore me inviting him anywhere and just wants to cuddle with somebody else. It's annoying but I've learned not to take it personally anymore, because he does still love me, he's just hanging out with the other humans for a bit :)

But just know he does love you, you're the most important person in his life! He may not spend EVERY moment with you, but you're still the most important!
 

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Hi :wave: I think your dog is a credit to you! You have obviously trained him & socialised him well, I think the fact that he is happy to go to other people means you have instilled a confidence in him, he trusts that you will not leave him. My dog is totally devoted to me, follows me everywhere, sleeps in my room etc... but when anyone visits, she wants to be all over them, so I kind of know what you mean. I think you should be very proud that Joey loves & trusts you so much that he he also friendly to other people :). I would look at it as a positive thing, at the end of the day, he is yours & when others aren't around he is your companion & he knows this. He sounds like a great dog with a very lovely owner :)
 

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I think you should be happy that you have a secure, confident and socially adequate dog ;) Really, what he is doing shows that he is not insecure and knows how to make friends - be proud of him!

Dogs are like humans - they like to spend time with different people, need different social interactions to learn, grow, have fun etc.

It does not mean that he doesn`t love you. At all. At the end of the day he will choose you.

My dog is a total social butterfly - when a guest comes over or when we`re visiting she`ll happily spend time with them and ignore me more. Just as she shows more interest in the person who spends less time at home :D Think about it - we do the same. When one family member is away for a long time, it`s natural to want to spend more time with them than with those who you interact with every day. It does not say anything about love.

I have a very independent dog but when we`re hiking with a big crowd and I lag behind, she stops, looks back and waits til I catch up. They do care and keep an eye on you even if it does not seem like that :)
 

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I agree, very good job socializing him. This is a very normal thing in happy, confident dogs. Toby is a real Velcro dog as well but if we have a guest over... Oh boy is he pleased! My boyfriend was over today and he buddied right up to him, bringing his chew toys over to his lap and settling down with them.

Sometimes Toby's 'BFF's are just trying to be polite by letting him hop into their lap and lick their face but that doesn't stop him ;) If a houseguest ignores him though or doesn't 'ooh and aah' over him enough he gets highly offended and mopey.

Like JudyG said, dogs are a lot more like toddlers than we give them credit for. You can bet that the confident, gregarious little fellows will be thrilled to have the company of someone who's somewhat novel to them. As for loyalty... I wouldn't really worry as ultimately chi's are fiercely one-person dogs. And it sounds like you are definitely his 'person'.

Again, welcome to the forum. I too have issues now and then but I've had a good time lately learning about dog behavior around here for these past few months. I guess that having had a dog for ten years I thought that I knew pretty much all there was to know but discussing and applying dog behaviour in real life has been really rewarding and confidence-boosting for me. Stick around, I think your relationship with your chi will benefit hugely from it!
 

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When I lived at home I constantly had to remind myself that each family member has a different, but special relationship with the dogs in the household. For me, both of thr bichons were content to sit on the couch with me, but not really cuddle. The female would occassionally be affectionate toward me, but that was rare.
With my dad the female would sit in his lap all day while our male doesn't seem to care to be near him much.
But my mom has a very different relationship with them because she is the primary care giver for them. They love, love, love her and practically sleep on top of her most nights.
To me, I would get my feelings hurt when one or both bichons weren't interested in sitting with me on the couch or even sleeping in my bed with me. I even remember telling my mom that they didn't love me anymore. Once I moved out I realized that they do love me, I was just ignoring all the signs. Now that me coming home is an exciting event, it's obvious both dogs love me based on how they react when I come home and that makes me feel better.
I definitely do get a little jealous of my puppy when he drcides my friend is more interesting than me, but that's just the novelty of that person being over. At the end of the day my dog still loves me and depends on me for everything.
All of this is to say that what you're feeling is definitely not something people have never felt before. I'm glad you joined and posted, it's better to share these things with people, especially somewhere like this forum because most everyone here is very understanding. : )
 

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Casanova4u,

Just wanted to give you a BIG WELCOME! I hope you'll stick around, share some stories about your little darling chi, and make some friends here. :)
 

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I've felt this way too, when I was depressed. Then I'd get mad at myself for being petty, and ignore her right back. Totally not productive, and I have a more independent dog, too. I'd also panic when she was near my old roommate (he's left the stove on, etc) so any time she went near him I associated it with her getting badly hurt-which is a big stretch, but knowing that didn't change the feeling of panic.

It's good that he is able to be separated from you, though-and for you to take time away from him, too. Dogs get separation anxiety but so do people xD Once you start feeling better about everything else in your life, it won't feel like such a big deal. Regardless how long the depression/anxiety etc has gone on for...you WILL have better and worse days, and you WILL get better with some willpower. :)

Either way, you're not alone, welcome to the forum, and there's loads to learn here with a great set of people.
 

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I want to thank each of you for making me feel so much better. I see the clearer picture now. I've done a good thing without even realizing in a way. I've raised him to be a good sociable dog. I knew I had in a way, but then I thought well, I've done all the work and now he doesn't even love me. But I see what each of you mean now, it's a good thing. I surely wouldn't want him to be mean to other people.

When I first got him, I was kind of worried. He was a puppy, but snappy toward anyone who came near me. I thought it was cute that he was so protective, but I knew it would lead to trouble. My kids couldn't even hug me goodnight without him growling. I let him know that was a no no, and now he just loves every soul that comes around.

Thank you all so much for sharing your stories and taking the time to read mine.
 

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My old boy Harley would 95% of the time be by my side. But when someone came to the house he had confidence in, he would go sit by them, all the while looking at me for approval.
It made my friends feel special, and made me feel proud.

Feel proud of your little guy, and feel pride in yourself for what a wonderful job you have done with him.
 

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I'd first like to introduce myself. I'm Chris from Georgia. Thanks for allowing me to post here. I have a chihuahua male, one year old and his name is Joey. He has been under my feet since the day I brought him home almost a year ago. I feed, water, bathe him, brush him, treat him, I house trained him, he sleeps with me, he watches everything I do. He's the one companion that has helped with my depression more than anything. He has kept me from feeling so lonely. I love him so much.

But I can't help but think at times he doesn't love me. At certain times he'll lie around in the living room with others. When I notice that he's not with me I get sad. I don't mean too, but like today he was lying with my brother, which I don't mind at all, I want him to be friendly with everyone. But it just broke my heart. It threw me into a almost full blown panic attack. Almost like he abandoned me. Crazy I know. :-(

I do suffer from anxiety, social problems, and depression. But I was wondering if it was just me that felt this way, or have others ever been in a situation where they've felt this way too? I'd love to hear your stories of what you felt like. I feel so embarrassed even talking about it, like why would I be jealous of my dog. I don't know, just stressing a I guess. That's what I'm best at.

Hope someone has an experience to share so I don't feel so alone in this.
My dog is a total cling dog. He's seriously a mama's boy. He has eyes for me and me alone, he has a fit if I leave him, he listens to me best. I can't even take a shower or use the bathroom without him. He won't stray more than usually 10-20 feet away on hikes.

Yet...At last months flyball meet, he totally ditched me during our practice time because he saw somebody's child had a sandwich, and he wanted to go steal it. :eyeroll: I swear, he will be anybody's best friend for food.

That's just how dogs are sometimes. I'm sure your dog DOES love you, just as mine loves me. But loving us doesn't mean they're not going to do their own thing once in a while. Tigger would be heartbroken and would probably suffer greatly if somebody tried to take him away from me, even if they did have food. And I'm sure your dog would too. Chihuahuas usually bond very closely with one person.
 

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You are so lucky to have a nice, sociable dog! Chis have a tendency to be clingy, overprotective, and dislike strangers. My chi mix hates strangers (better once he gets to know them) and still has a problem with my stepson, even after 9 months! It is a real problem for me, as I'd like to be involved in agility and other dog activities. Keep up whatever you are doing, as obviously it is working well for you!
 

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I have an emotional support dog who is with me most of the time. We live alone and he also doesn't have a very high tolerance for people so all in all I don't usually feel like he ditches me...
But every so often he meets someone that he really gets on with. It's so rare that I find it an absolute joy to watch him be happy and confident around another person. I suppose me and my dog are just very alike in terms of social anxiety and when I see him enjoying someone else's company it actually makes me really happy :) Unfortunately although we love our dogs unconditionally they can be a bit 'fickle'. They love us because of the lives we provide for them but it doesn't mean they would want it any other way :)
You should feel very proud that you have such a friendly, calm dog to help you through bad patches. Because actually, dealing with social issues in your dog while you are dealing with your own issues can be very overwhelming :/
 
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