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So basically we adopted a dog on Sunday. The rescue group has a 7 day foster to adopt agreement, where you can return the dog within 7 days no questions asked to make sure the fit is right.

We got our new dog (6 months old)- a border collie/lab mix - after careful consideration. I was particularly worried about energy levels, because while my spouse plans to run with the dog every morning, and we are very active on weekends, we both work full time. So the plan was to hire a dog walker every day.

However, 5 days in, some issues have arisen. We live on a busy city street. The dog is freaked out by city sounds and I guess wasn't exposed to it earlier.. Hates going out for walks because of loud noises. I'm supposed to desensitize him through careful exposure, but it's difficult, because I also need to exercise him, take him out to pee etc, and don't have a car to take him somewhere quieter. I don't know how I will possibly use a dog walker - he won't go out sometimes and has his tail tucked between his legs. It really pains me to see it.

He also has some mild separation anxiety- freaks out a bit when we leave, even if brief. Not sure if this is just a time thing, and he needs to settle in. Worried this will become a bigger issue, which is not great with our work schedules.

I don't know what to do. I love him already. He is otherwise a wonderful dog, already housetrained, responds to training. Only things are some jumping and leash pulling, which are no big deal in my book (am totally willing to work on that).

However, it is these bigger temperament things that I am worried about. I want him to be happy. He is so adorable and wonderful with people and other dogs I think he will get snatched up by a family if I return him, and could do really well in a suburban environment. At the same time, the thought of giving him up breaks my heart. Any advice? I can't afford to do doggy daycare every day, maybe once or twice a week.
I don't want to give advice here, I'm just saying what I would do, which is not the same thing.

Once a dog steps foot over my doorstep I can never bear to let it go, so I can understand why you feel the way you do. Perhaps I'm too stubborn, but I always refuse to believe a dog won't love me enough to give in and behave eventually, and they always do. But I also believe you must know in your heart if this dog would genuinely be better off somewhere else, and if that's the case then you should take him back before you and he get any more attached to each other. If you keep him, which I hope you do, I think you will gradually find ways around the problems. It takes time and patience with some but even the most annoying dog (see Rakia's story elsewhere lol) can end up as the most lovable. They may always be annoying, like a child who won't stop talking (I have one of those, he's 30 now and still makes my ears ache every time I phone him - there were times I considered having him adopted) but they really are worth all the effort you put in. The more love you give them the more you get back.

I really wish you luck with this - keep us posted - but if you do decide to take him back to the rescue don't blame yourself, you obviously have his best interests at heart.

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