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First, I just want to start by saying that my roommate (who is also a good friend) impulse bought a male Boston Terrier who was about 8-9 months old at the time.

I'm just looking for ANY kind of advice I can get at this point because I seriously don't know how to approach the situation anymore.

So I've been having a really hard time trying to deal with this whole situation and I have hit this low point, which brought me here.

For the sake of not having to type out the last 5 1/2 months of my life I'll just list off the issues at hand first.

- He takes the dog out a MAXIMUM of 3 times a day (just to let him go to the bathroom) The dog will even be begging by the door, and I'll tell my roommate hes begging to go out and he will just say "No, I let him out not that long ago" when in reality it was probably over 3 hours ago.

- The dog is neglected overall. He won't put the effort in to even train him to sit, etc. the only thing the dog slightly has a grasp on is "no" and "off". My roommates schedule is waking up at noon, and going to bed at 2am. He doesn't work, nor does he go to school. So it's not that he does not have the time to spend with his dog and play with him at all. The dog also does not receive any exercise besides the short amount of walking he does when going to the bathroom.

- I just found out that he has been overfeeding him since he got the dog. He has been feeding him about 2 cups of Iams a day. I read the bag and the recommended food per day was 1 1/4 - 1 1/2 cups.

- The dog also refuses to eat some days. This becomes more frequent when my roommate decides to leave for like 4-5 days and leave me to watch him. There have been times where he won't eat for up to 2 days no matter how hard I try to even get him to nibble.

- He doesn't even have a brush for him or take him to be regularly groomed.
or even bathe him often. The dog has received 3 baths in the 6 months that we have had him and one of them was me because he sometimes pees on himself because he lifts his leg too high, and my roommate wasn't going to give him a bath after soaking both of his front legs in urine. Also, he FINALLY took the dog in to get his nails clipped after 5 MONTHS! I had to HOUND him about doing it.

- The dog has very high anxiety and is unhealthily submissive.

- frequent vomiting possibly from eating too fast, or acid reflux?

- Very untrained on the leash, he pulls constantly.

- My roommate said he saw worms in his feces and went and bought dewormer from PetCo. Not only did he not read the instructions which said to consult a vet first, he also gave him both pills over the coarse of 2 days when the box said only to give one. Now he refuses to take him to the vet to see if he still has them.

- He occasionally bites his feet

- Constant groin licking (but doesn't show any side effects like browning)

- I don't know if this is really an issue but when the dog gets excited he sort of spasms in a motion like if you were to hunch your back and flex your stomach really fast.


I just don't know how to handle this anymore. I have tried talking to him and educating him from all the things that I have looked up on forums and other reliable sources. I've even started a fight with my roommate awhile ago about him being irresponsible and neglecting his dog and he refuses to see his wrongdoing. I don't have the money, or the time to take care of this dog like he deserves.
 

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Poor pup! Def a tough situation for you.:(

You're certainly welcome to call humane law enforcement but very likely there's not much they will be able to do... not that they don't want to, it's that they can't...
In many areas, none of the above would be illegal. He's not a great dog owner, but the dog is fed, has water, adequate shelter, etc. So if you do go that route, just be prepared in case they can't help.

Personally, I would look for and find a different place to live. It would be too hard for me to see this happening and I would need to separate myself from it for my own well being.
 

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Maybe it's time for an 'intervention', does he have any family or friends that also feel upset about how he treats his dog that you could gather together to confront him? It doesn't sound like he cares about the poor guy, so maybe he could be pushed into rehoming him or ideally giving to someone else to rehome him like a good rescue. Hate to say this but just for the sake of getting the dog out of there, perhaps offer him money? If that's not an option you could document the treatment of the dog and report it to authorities. Tough to think of a way to help the dog that wouldn't likely damage your relationship with your roommate. I feel for you I have had friends that just neglected their pets and I often regretted not doing more to help them but its difficult when doing so could affect other aspects of your life. Maybe just moving would be the best, it's probably what I would do too.
 

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I never really understood those people who would get a dog and offer no real care or affection despite claiming that they love dogs. Actually, my parents can be considered to be one of these people who believe that the dog can just be left on its own devices in the backyard all day. Luckily, I own my dog and have the capacity to take care of him. It has gotten to the point that I would rather pay more money to send him to dog resort than to let him stay home during the days I can't get home to take care of him. There were people I knew who only let their dog out for a walk once every few weeks and never had the dog's nails clipped.
If you are concerned about bathing the dog, you can purchase those bath wipes that I use on a daily basis for dogs. They only take a few minutes. I take my dog to the groomer for a bath and full groom every 3 months. He also gets a full bath in between these times at the dog resort but I wouldn't bath my dog too often for the sake of their natural oil.

Aside from physical exercise, is there a possibility to get the dog some extra mental stimulation to compensate for the limited physical exercise like a kong or some sort of puzzle? I hope a kong isn't too much to ask for from your room mate. It doesn't require much effort.
 

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I never really understood those people who would get a dog and offer no real care or affection despite claiming that they love dogs. Actually, my parents can be considered to be one of these people who believe that the dog can just be left on its own devices in the backyard all day. Luckily, I own my dog and have the capacity to take care of him. It has gotten to the point that I would rather pay more money to send him to dog resort than to let him stay home during the days I can't get home to take care of him. There were people I knew who only let their dog out for a walk once every few weeks and never had the dog's nails clipped.
If you are concerned about bathing the dog, you can purchase those bath wipes that I use on a daily basis for dogs. They only take a few minutes. I take my dog to the groomer for a bath and full groom every 3 months. He also gets a full bath in between these times at the dog resort but I wouldn't bath my dog too often for the sake of their natural oil.

Aside from physical exercise, is there a possibility to get the dog some extra mental stimulation to compensate for the limited physical exercise like a kong or some sort of puzzle? I hope a kong isn't too much to ask for from your room mate. It doesn't require much effort.
 

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:( Roommates can be a nightmare. I don't know what to say to you or what I'd do in your sitaution. Animal control most likely will not do anything. I will caution you that if you report him, he'd likely know exactly who probably reported him which could lead to all sorts of drama for you. That's especially true after the arguments you've had with him. In his mind, he may dismiss you as "reading too much" on the internet. I've gotten that from people regarding a variety topics over the years. Talking to relatives would violate personal boundaries for me and this could also be how his family raised their dogs as well. Some of the stuff you listed are personal choices and others are neglectful, IMO, but not necessarily illegal.
 

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Poor doggy. :(
If I lived with my best friend and they were doing this to their dog, I'm not sure I would be their best friend anymore seeing as how they treat animals. If I was in this situation and the lease was in my name, I think I'd tell them to either start caring for their dog properly or move out and I would happily take the dog from them if they didn't want it anymore after they left. Since I wouldn't want them to abandon the dog for whatever reason.

As for the worm situation, if the dog has heart-worms, the dog could die if he gets too excited. It constricts their heart. So be careful not to get the dog too excited and go on very short walks until he gets to a vet for treatment.

Sorry I don't know if this is really much help. I second roommates being a nightmare. I quit with roommates after my first bad one. You could contact a local animal shelter and ask them for advice, because they probably deal with similar situations all the time. They would know what the laws are for what's illegal and who might be able to intervene and get the dog help.
 

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What a horrible situation :(, I highly recommend that you take action against this by calling animal control or a local humane society, because this isn't just simple neglect, it's cruelty to the poor puppy:( If none of this could help then personally I would seriously consider moving as it would just be to hard to see the poor puppy suffering
 

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because this isn't just simple neglect, it's cruelty to the poor puppy:(
Some humane societies won't get involved with dog fighting rings, animals left outdoors in freezing weather / snow or half starved in their own backyard. I know someone who was actually charged for "trespass" for feeding a husky mix that was skin & bones in their neighbor's yard ... did humane society do anything, not a thing.

Cruel as it seems, the dog is better off than 90% of dogs in real abuse situations that are overlooked by humane societies. As mentioned previously it is housed, I have heard of dogs who are left outside & can only be "buried" once the bodies thaw enough to be lifted from the ground without coming to pieces; it is fed, the husky mix above is just one of countless dogs & cats that are starved by their "owners"; and although limited it is exercised, I don't believe dogs in puppy mills get exercise yet some states say these are "legal".

Calling the humane society is a tad much. They may not even respond. And if the guy has problems - obviously not exactly a "winner" [noon to 2am, some "lovely" individual] - he might just think of getting even for the OP causing him trouble.

Best thing - try an intervention like mentioned, made even prod the roommate into considering to sell the dog. Maybe buy the dog off of him?

There's many ways of getting around this - if he potentially has mental issues maybe he has never had a pet, "train" him how to be a owner - without needing to get authorities involved. Authorities should be last resort.
 

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Unfortunately there are people that should never own a dog. Dogs are not stuffed animals, they are living breathing feeling animals, and frankly are a huge responsibility. Having said all that, maybe confronting your room-mate, and perhaps surfacing the possibility of re-homing the dog to someone who really is willing to put the time and energy in that is required. Can only hope your room-mate is smart enough to understand that dog ownership may just not be for him.
 
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