Both times my husband and I got a dog I ended up being the only person to take care of the dog. It would start off that I would be the provider and the dog would form a bond with me and obey me readily. Then my husband just wanted to be “pack leader” without any work in training and care (meaning he ends up competing with me for the dogs attention when I’m trying to insure consistency and respect) and not have to do any of the dirty work. What I’m assuming is happening is that he convinces the dog that he’s pack leader and that’s why it becomes a lot more difficult for me to take care of the dog because the dog quits following my commands after my husband becomes pack leader. What do you take from this? Does this sound solely like a problem with me... a problem with my husband? I think of course the dog picks up on the power struggle and it weakens his ability in trusting my leadership... as I’m the one who waters, feeds, takes him out, walks him, bathes him, washes his stuff, trains him, everything. This makes life so much harder for me when the dog quits obeying me. I’m just now realizing with this second dog and suddenly things are starting to change just like with the first one we had... and I’m realizing after closer examination that both times my husband was actually trying to convince the dog that he’s pack leader when I’m trying so hard to train him, get him to respect me, and give him consistency in training/ and my husband doesn’t always support the consistency I’m trying to create. Husband gets him to come to him and commands him to stay with him right after I ask the dog to come to me as an example. I don’t know if we can have a dog unless my husband takes over most of the dog care (which he would never do any of it). What are your thoughts. There’s no way this can work without my husbands cooperation right? Can a dog have several alpha pack leaders in a family or is there typically just one main alpha and is it the one providing most of the care normally or not?