[fawkese1]

so, i had some friends over for a few days and they brought their dog with them, a 2yo neutered male golden doodle. He is a great dog, but he has some behavior issues that I wasn't really prepared for and I am wondering how you address a dog's behavior when you don't know him? Moki was dominant toward my dog, Clover, which was fine with me, I feel like dogs need to work out their own relationships. Then I noticed that Moki was starting to boss his people around a bit. Nothing very aggressive, but he solicits attention, on his terms, will take toys/food if he wants it and from counter tops/tables etc. Moki also has some possessiveness over toys and chew treats. I let my friends know my observations and they were somewhat open to them, but insisted that they had been consistant with training Moki. I made a few standard suggestions about his behavior that they said they would try out. For the most part, Moki was a great guest, but how do you handle it when someone else's dog needs to be reminded/corrected/ or distracted from something? Do think it is inappropriate to do so yourself? I gave both dogs chewie treats and they were very good with them until Moki finished his first and then took Clover's away. At the time, I decided that Moki had been making enough decisions about who got what so I calmly took the treat back and did some body blocking without saying anything to Moki. It only took him a couple of tries to realize that I was not going to allow him the treat, and he gave up, it was very calm...but should I have suggested that my friends do this instead?



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[pawzaddict]

I have a friend who is on the same page as me with training but I have "corrected" her dogs while at HER house even. So I can only think that if they are at your home you can tell the dog "off" or "down" whatever they use for commands but do it nicely. If they arent even on a page then I would do it with a "joking" manner, like "Oh moki off the counter, thats a no no" something like that with a more happy voice. If your dog is being bullied tho in her own home I wouldnt allow the other dog over anymore.

so, i had some friends over for a few days and they brought their dog with them, a 2yo neutered male golden doodle. He is a great dog, but he has some behavior issues that I wasn't really prepared for and I am wondering how you address a dog's behavior when you don't know him? Moki was dominant toward my dog, Clover, which was fine with me, I feel like dogs need to work out their own relationships. Then I noticed that Moki was starting to boss his people around a bit. Nothing very aggressive, but he solicits attention, on his terms, will take toys/food if he wants it and from counter tops/tables etc. Moki also has some possessiveness over toys and chew treats. I let my friends know my observations and they were somewhat open to them, but insisted that they had been consistant with training Moki. I made a few standard suggestions about his behavior that they said they would try out. For the most part, Moki was a great guest, but how do you handle it when someone else's dog needs to be reminded/corrected/ or distracted from something? Do think it is inappropriate to do so yourself? I gave both dogs chewie treats and they were very good with them until Moki finished his first and then took Clover's away. At the time, I decided that Moki had been making enough decisions about who got what so I calmly took the treat back and did some body blocking without saying anything to Moki. It only took him a couple of tries to realize that I was not going to allow him the treat, and he gave up, it was very calm...but should I have suggested that my friends do this instead?

 

[Criosphynx]

Personally...if the dog is in my house I expect manners. If it can't behave, it can't come over again until it learns manners.

I've learned you can't do much with other peoples dogs without A LOT of work OR offending the owners. If they are openminded I suggest a class and then offer my help if they have questions.



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[fawkese1]

thanks, luckily for me, Clover didn't take more than an "aah-aah" to keep his nose and mouth off of things he wasn'tsupposed to have. We also worked on "leave-it" from day one. I don't know that Moki has had any consistency here. I think I was also taken aback because I am not used to dogs not responding to me...almost every dog I have ever met has taken to me right off. Sometimes they seem to like me more than their own people. Anyway, when I tried to take something away from Moki the first time, I didn't feel like he was aggressive, but just seemed challenging. By the time they left however, he was behaving much more appropriately and even managed to lie down and stay for a bit. I just felt like maybe it is bad etiquette to correct someone else's dog, like telling their children what to do. thanks again



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[UnDeadKnight1]

The way I see it: your house your rules. If people don't like it, they can go away.

 

[Criosphynx]

The way I see it: your house your rules. If people don't like it, they can go away.

your my hero lol



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[fawkese1]

The way I see it: your house your rules. If people don't like it, they can go away.

I did say that these people were my friends....it's not about whether they are okay with the rules, but some people don't understand how to enforce them. You are correct though, if the dog had really been that bad, he'd have to go. I just wonder, should the enforcement come from me or his mom? What is the most tactfull way to approach it etc. thanks for the input



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[Criosphynx]

I did say that these people were my friends....it's not about whether they are okay with the rules, but some people don't understand how to enforce them. You are correct though, if the dog had really been that bad, he'd have to go. I just wonder, should the enforcement come from me or his mom? What is the most tactfull way to approach it etc. thanks for the input

I have a very close friend who I very bluntly had to tell that his dog was never welcome at my house again. Som'times because people are friends they tend to blow off what you say thinking your kidding around.

If the owner is trying to control the dog, I let them, but I've had moments where their control is lacking and I give them 3 seconds to control their dog before I control it for them

Keep in mind I'm talking about VERY rude dogs. It seems the dog that visited you was just excited so you obviously would not have to be so stern with the owners. Perhaps just smile and nod



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