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I feel bad when my family scolded my dog. I asked them first before getting him and they agreed and are excited they cuddled him and played with him but as time went by they got tired and they couldnt take responsibility of him especially when he does poo and pee. They dont have enough patience how playful our puppy is. They yelled and left the puppy alone as punishment sometimes even how many times I told them thats not the right way of training a puppy. They thought owning a dog is all about cuddling and playing. It hurts me a lot. One thing I hate the most is when my sister said "He is your dog!" Why is it MY dog? He is OUR dog. Cause they are the reason why I got a dog in the first place they are the ones who kept on saying to get a dog but it seems like they are regretting it now. But I'm not. I decided to take care of him I cant just back out just because its hard. Im not like them. I just really feel bad to my poor puppy. But I cant raise him alone I need them. Does anyone have the same situation with me? Or what are your thoughts about this?
 

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I feel bad when my family scolded my dog. I asked them first before getting him and they agreed and are excited they cuddled him and played with him but as time went by they got tired and they couldnt take responsibility of him especially when he does poo and pee. They dont have enough patience how playful our puppy is. They yelled and left the puppy alone as punishment sometimes even how many times I told them thats not the right way of training a puppy. They thought owning a dog is all about cuddling and playing. It hurts me a lot. One thing I hate the most is when my sister said "He is your dog!" Why is it MY dog? He is OUR dog. Cause they are the reason why I got a dog in the first place they are the ones who kept on saying to get a dog but it seems like they are regretting it now. But I'm not. I decided to take care of him I cant just back out just because its hard. Im not like them. I just really feel bad to my poor puppy. But I cant raise him alone I need them. Does anyone have the same situation with me? Or what are your thoughts about this?
Hi. Welcome to the forum. :) I've removed the link to Quora, because adding links to other forums is frowned upon in general. It's like bringing the competition to your local store.

Besides, I'm on Quora myself, and given the calibre of the "advice" you often see on there, you're much better off here anyway :D ;)

Puppies are hard, hard work. They're like a toddler who doesn't know where the toilet is. Even the most caring, patient person in the world can be reduced to frustrated tears, or tears of pain. I heard of one, very experienced puppy owner who was reduced to shutting herself in the bathroom and crying her eyes out, thinking "what have I done?"

However, perhaps your family could do with reading something hard-hitting, but true literature, which was linked here by one of our brilliant members:
Kidnapped from Planet Dog

Regarding leaving the dog alone as "punishment", well... They shouldn't be leaving the dog - let alone a puppy - alone as punishment, but all dogs and puppies should be taught that being alone is OK. There's a game about 3/4s of the way down this link that teaches you how to train a dog/puppy to be OK with being alone:
Separation Anxiety - the Canine Consultants

As for being upset because your family referred to the dog as yours, I'd just shrug it off. Because if he's YOUR dog when he's "naughty", then they can't take credit for him when he's well trained and well behaved. YOUR dog when he's naughty? Your dog when he's a fine example of what true patiance and perserverance can do. ;)

Don't let your family upset you like that, and just enjoy your dog. :)
 

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I suggest that you take charge of the dog entirely. Since they have stated that the dog is yours, then you get to say how he is trained and treated, and you can tell them that the way they are doing things is wrong, and they are to stop immediately, that you will handle it from now on. Yelling is wrong. Making the puppy stay alone for punishment is wrong. Scolding the pup for going potty in the house is wrong. Tell them that since this is your dog, you will determine how he is treated from now on, and then set the standards. Anyone who violates those standards doesn't get to spend time with the puppy at all. If you do not handle a puppy correctly, especially with housetraining, there's a large probability that the dog will develop habits that no one will like or that are dangerous for the dog, so this is important.

Here is a good video on house training a dog. the same person has many, many other good training videos that will be helpful to you. this woman is a world-known expert. Maybe if you show some of the videos to members of your family they will understand that they are not doing things the right way and will change. It might be worth a try.

 

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I suggest that you take charge of the dog entirely. Since they have stated that the dog is yours, then you get to say how he is trained and treated, and you can tell them that the way they are doing things is wrong, and they are to stop immediately, that you will handle it from now on. Yelling is wrong. Making the puppy stay alone for punishment is wrong. Scolding the pup for going potty in the house is wrong. Tell them that since this is your dog, you will determine how he is treated from now on, and then set the standards. Anyone who violates those standards doesn't get to spend time with the puppy at all. If you do not handle a puppy correctly, especially with housetraining, there's a large probability that the dog will develop habits that no one will like or that are dangerous for the dog, so this is important.

Here is a good video on house training a dog. the same person has many, many other good training videos that will be helpful to you. this woman is a world-known expert. Maybe if you show some of the videos to members of your family they will understand that they are not doing things the right way and will change. It might be worth a try.



Thank you so much I will watch this :)
 

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Hi. Welcome to the forum. :) I've removed the link to Quora, because adding links to other forums is frowned upon in general. It's like bringing the competition to your local store.

Besides, I'm on Quora myself, and given the calibre of the "advice" you often see on there, you're much better off here anyway :D ;)

Puppies are hard, hard work. They're like a toddler who doesn't know where the toilet is. Even the most caring, patient person in the world can be reduced to frustrated tears, or tears of pain. I heard of one, very experienced puppy owner who was reduced to shutting herself in the bathroom and crying her eyes out, thinking "what have I done?"

However, perhaps your family could do with reading something hard-hitting, but true literature, which was linked here by one of our brilliant members:
Kidnapped from Planet Dog

Regarding leaving the dog alone as "punishment", well... They shouldn't be leaving the dog - let alone a puppy - alone as punishment, but all dogs and puppies should be taught that being alone is OK. There's a game about 3/4s of the way down this link that teaches you how to train a dog/puppy to be OK with being alone:
Separation Anxiety - the Canine Consultants

As for being upset because your family referred to the dog as yours, I'd just shrug it off. Because if he's YOUR dog when he's "naughty", then they can't take credit for him when he's well trained and well behaved. YOUR dog when he's naughty? Your dog when he's a fine example of what true patiance and perserverance can do. ;)

Don't let your family upset you like that, and just enjoy your dog. :)

Thank you that comforted me a lot. Just enjoy my puppy.
 
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