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So this is a rant more than anything but I just need to vent. I currently live with my mom and step-dad, but will be moving out with in the next month or two. I am by no means a free loader, I pay rent, buy my own food and help out aroind the house. The problem is they hate my dog and i mean truly hate my dog. They don't like that he won't do what their dogs do. He won't come inside and just lay down and not move. He wants attention, and love. He wants to play with them and the other dogs, which gets them up moving around. This is their biggest issue with him but there are other minor things. He is an extremely high energy dog who loves to get loved on. He gets daily exercise which helps but by the end of the day he is ready to play. My mom constantly complains about him and im constantly having to defend him. It just hurts because he is like my kid. We go everywhere together(something else my family hates), I didn't get a dog so he could just exist on the outskirts of my life. I got a dog to be my buddy, to hike and swim with. They just don't understand this, dogs are things to them. Im just so ready to move out of there. Thank you to everyone who reads this.

Ps how could you hate this face!
 

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Oh he's gorgeous! He sounds like such a great dog and one that must be so much fun to be around.

I'm sorry that you're going through that with your parents. I'd try and limit contact between your boy and your parents. Hopefully after you move out, and they don't have to be around him a lot, their relationship with him will improve.
 

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I already limit contact as much as possible. When im at work he is in my room, well he's supposed to be. He is a very fun dog to own and pretty much everything they find irritating I love about him. They just want a dog that goes outside all day then when they get home they want them to lay down and not move. Rocky just won't do that he has to much energy in him and it's not something I make them do. It's kind of funny because you can tell when my parents are not home because the dogs are so much more relaxed and actually play.
 

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Oh, he's a good looking guy!

Yeah, that situation sucks...sorry your folks are like that. Good that you are moving out soon.
 

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They are all over the trails in my area! I really want to get a pic of him in the ones that are all different colors. Now that i can get him to sit and focus on me, last month this pic would not of been possible! Lol
 

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Sorry that you're going through this. Just stay focused on your goal of moving out. It sounds like you and he will be much happier when the move is complete.
 

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I know how you feel.

My stepdad (sound familiar eh) didnt like my dog at all at first. Actually he didnt like any big dogs as he comes from family that thinks "big dogs = dirty creatures that should never be allowed indoors". He is a hothead in general and very poor at filtering his words. It bothered me greatly. I didnt live with them when I got my dog but I visited often. His words stung. I was hurt.

It all changed when I once put my foot down. My mother went through a very serious illness and I visited them very often to support her... I had arrived at their place with my dog again this one time for the weekend and my step dad had had a particularly hard day (does not excuse his behavior but maybe just offers some explenation as to why he reacted so strongly). He was particularly nasty/expressive about how "this big mutt should not be indoors". I felt that enough is enough and told him that this will be the last time I will allow him to talk like that about my dog. If he does it again, I will not come to see them again. Yes my mom was sick but my emotions count as well and I dont have to listen to his BS. I said it very calmly and very seriously. He knew I meant it. And he nodded and said it wont happen again.

So what have I learnt from this?

I have not been good with telling people off and esp ppl who have been in a sense an authority figure to me ... Ella has taught me about this a lot.

You need to grow up, and stand up for your values (being responsible for another living being will help greatly with that). If you do, they will respect you and back off. They will even love you more for it.

It`s ironical but today my stepdad is my dog`s biggest fan. He often sends her treats, walks her when I visit and has often asked me if maybe I would leave her to live with them (lol..no). He really is crazy about her. He has gone from "no big dogs in house" to "Ella will sleep in our room when you leave her with us for the weekend".

Just stand up for what you believe in.
 

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I have talked to both my mom and stepdad. My mom was easy after hearing how much it hurt me. My stepdad on the other is a different story. His attitude is my house I do what I want. He is so bad that he smoke's inside even though I am allergic to cigarette smoke. He just doesn't care and he also thinks that rocky's problem is that he wants to be the "alpha dog". Anytime I say something about why he does whay he does it's always, "your only 25 what do you know" and "I was raised on a farm so I know animals". He also has trouble listening to me because I am not a male. When he is home me and Rocky don't really spend a lot of time at home and when we are home we stay in my room or I keep Rocky on my lap. This is why I am so ready to get out of this house!
 
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