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Hey everyone, new here and badly in need of help.
We have a 7 month old Yorkshire Terrier who is a fun, loving, attention seeking dog 98% of the time.
Except when I’m home and my husband comes in the room.
It’s not that she doesn’t like him, because when I’m not around she will jump up on him and let him pet her and sit with him. But when I’m in the room she will just all of a sudden growl at him and back away or under something. And this doesn’t happen every time either, about 75% of the time.
I was just gone for a weekend and left her home with him and the kids, and he never had a problem with her all weekend, except that when he needs to take her outside to go potty she always runs away, which only pisses him off.
As soon as I’m back in the house, she growls when he comes in the room. I’m scared that he’s going to hurt her because he gets so angry about it every time she does it.
I’m sure this must be fear based, I just need help with how to fix it ASAP
 

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I’m scared that he’s going to hurt her because he gets so angry about it every time she does it.
You probably don't want to hear this, but I am just as concerned for your safety as your Yorkie is. It's none of my business, but I would not try to train this out of her completely if there is the slightest grain of truth in what she and I are saying.

That said, you can manage a dog's inbred tendencies by thanking them for doing their job. My trainer has also suggested distraction for my dog's barking, the same way you would distract a toddler without destroying their love of what they love.

If your husband gets that angry at a dog, he will also get angry at a child. You could always rehome the dog if that makes things easier for you to protect your own.
 

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Maybe you can set up a different system, where it will be easier for your husband to manage with the pup when you are not there. Perhaps putting her on a long leash before opening the door to let her outside. Anything to reduce/avoid any possible frustration!

I think your pup is picking up on your husband's lack of patience and is reacting to it. I wonder if there might have been an incident where your husband scared her by walking towards her threateningly, during one of those times where he was annoyed with her. Now she is making an association with this incident whenever the situation is similar.

It is really important that the relationship between those two is repaired, so your pup can feel safe with him in any situation.
 

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Not a good feeling when your dog growls at your partner. It's happening in my house along with Frank doing some "resource guarding" of me.:(

I'm working with my gal on taking just 5 minutes a day to interact with Frank and have met almost daily resistance on her part. It's taken me a year to get her to even sporadically use the commands he knows and respects when we have a meal and he begins begging and laying his head in her lap. Frank learned to lay down with a command or hand signal in a few days after arriving. He learned to lay down with my eye signals in a week. He's very easy to manage inside and around food if one simply directs him. He lays down for my gal if she directs him, but sometimes I feel like she can't be bothered by having to direct him.:ponder:

That's my problem and it is complicated (I believe) by my gal's body posture and physical movements. She is not coordinated and moves awkwardly... almost like a kid who can't decide which way to go.. and I'm pretty sure Frank gets nervous about where she's heading or what her intentions are. Then he'll get between her and me and cry or whine or even sometimes growl. :(

So round about way to get back to the OP... Only you know if your husband is trying to conceal some kind of ongoing resentment about having to "deal' with your dog. If that's the case, well, your dog is probably going to have an opinion on that. If you're thinking that your husband just loses his patience sometimes, like many of us do, then...

… observe your husband's posture and bearing and how he presents himself when he comes into the room. Some people have a way of taking up more space in a room than others.

The human human dog love triangle makes life complicated.
 
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