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I posted this in general dog stuff and after checking out the site maybe this is were it belongs.....Sorry for the length.....

I have been in a relationship with a wonderful man for over a year now. He has a Great Dane who is 6+years old. I am an avid dog lover and have a Pug.

From the start he told me that he dog had bit his ex-girlfriend in the face and was told by the state of NC that if he bit again he would have to be put down.

I wasn’t happy about the biting thing especially considering the dog bit her in the face and needed stitches but thought well maybe it was a fluke as the dog seemed very friendly. I have had dogs my whole life including 2 Rotti's and have never had an incident were they bit someone or showed aggression.

About a month into the relationship my brother came to visit and my BF was at the house with his dog. For no reason the dog went towards my brother and growled. We don’t know why and my BF scolded the dog for this. A few weeks later my BF called me at work and said that the dog had bit him in the hand and was worried that he would have to put him down. I asked if the skin was broken and did he need a doctor, he replied no it just hurt like a throbbing pain and that was that.

2 months later I was awaken by a disgusting smell in my bedroom and to my surprise I had 3 piles of poop from his dog. In the mist of cleaning it up his dog got in my face and when I grabbed his collar to move him he tried to bite me in the face. Of course this was my fault for grabbing his collar my BF said...Not in my eyes!!!! I didn’t hurt the dog in any way!!!!! We had huge arguments about this and it almost caused the end of our relationship. After that I compromised and explained that the dog needed to be crated whenever at my house while we are sleeping or out and my BF agreed to this.

At this point I am now in the process of buying a house and 7 months have gone by. His daughter has a friend over and the dog bites her in the hand. Again not enough to break the skin but painful. Her mother didn't feel the need to take her to the doctor (I would have if it were my child). When my BF stated to his kids that he may have to get rid of the dog his son flipped and started accusing this little girl of doing something to provoke what had happened.

I have since bought a house. Since the last incident I have not allowed the dog at my house. I cannot risk the chance of it biting a family member or a neighbor and getting sued. The dog spends A LOT of time alone now. My BF goes back and forth to take care of him. We do not live together but he has proposed to me and I said yes. I assumed he had figured out what he was going to do about his dog but I was wrong. Regardless of how I feel about the dog this is unfair to the dog. I believe now that it is the dog suffering having to spend so much time alone.

The dog has not been to the Vet in over 2 years now. No shots, nails are way to long, etc. My BF doesn't walk his dog either. I know Great Danes do not require a lot of exercise but all dogs need a little walking at least a few times a week.

My BF is a wonderful man but not a good pet owner. I don’t know what to do about this. I cannot let him move in with his dog and I hate to ask him to choose but what else can I do? I suggested months ago looking into a trainer and he said he is almost 6 years old you can’t teach a dog new tricks!!!! Like I said wonderful man but horrible pet owner.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Do I suggest re-homing or putting the dog down? Either one my cause the end of our relationship!!!
I don't know what to do!!!!!!
 

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Thank you so much for your response...I cannot do it alone. My BF will have to agree to do it too and SPEND the money. I have told him several times about taking the dog to the vet with no resolve. I stopped saying anything. As horrible as it sounds it is not my responsability to make sure he takes care of his dog. I have my own dog to tend to. I do feel awful for this dog though and will talk with my BF about all of this. This dog is scared of his own shadow too. He freaks out when it storms and hides in the bathroom and at other times he just hides like he gets spoked or something. This is a very skidish dog. Sometimes I wonder if my BF got him from a shady breeder as he got the dog really cheap for a GD.

If he truly loves his dog as he says he does he should be willing to do whats needed. If not well we will either break up or he will decide to re-home (with full disclouser of course) or PTS...I cannot decide he has to. Thank you so much for taking the time to reply!!!
 
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