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My first foster dog got adopted on Sunday. He went with a really nice family with kids and another dog. But I can't help but miss the little guy.

I am so happy for him but I keep thinking about him and starting to cry. I hope he wasn't confused in the process. Does this get any easier?
 

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I think it will for you. A big part about being able to foster is knowing that he's better off in his home that he found, and that you're still free to help another dog. He's all set up now with a great family-you can free your time and energy to help the next one.
 

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It does eventually get easier. I had my foster dog Buddy for 9 months while he was repeatedly treated for heartworms. He was the snuggliest little boy ever. He left in September and I was a wreck. I had to drop him off at the airport and stick him in a travel crate and his little face all confused KILLED me. I cried for days! But it's gotten easier. I miss him terribly still, wish there was some way we could've kept him, and worried about him being confused, but in the end it was for the best. I know he was adopted by a very old couple who don't have cell phones or facebook, so I'll most likely never get another update on him, which is the hardest part. If they can keep you updated from time to time, it'll make it much easier!
 
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I agree with what Kwenami said completely! As a foster myself, I can understand how you feel. I remember with my first foster it was so hard saying goodbye, but I knew she was in a good home and I could now help the next one. It has gotten easier for me over time, and I'm sure it will for you as well. Glad to hear that you are fostering and giving so many pets a second chance! :D
 
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I don't know, but my dog was fostered, and I am so gratefull to such kind people. From Sonic & I, thank you. Yours is a great kindness.
 

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I really admire who is a foster, it's a really honorable thing to do. I know it can't be easy, but try to think that he's with a good family and he'll be treated the way he deserves. When I kept a baby kitten for some weeks, his owners then let me visit him some times and that made it easier for me.
 

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On the day we had Jasmines Birthday reunion, 8 of the 10 puppies were there and the foster carers were very emotional seeing them all again. I hope we can do it every year.

A BIG thank you to all who foster dogs!
 

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@Hellothere1234 You're awesome for fostering! I'm guessing you're working with a rescue - is there anything set up for contacting the adoptive family after a few days to check how things are going? Are you able to be the person who does that? Hearing he's doing well would probably go a long way for you, and you could help with any uncertainties or questions they may be having.
 

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I adopted my dog Jaya from a rescue group. Due to Jaya being almost feral and in extreme fear all the time, the lady that ran the group took her into her home for 3 months before putting her up as a 'special adoption' - saying she could only go to a 'quiet home with someone knowledgeable about dogs'

Being I was 600 miles away, I only saw Jaya in photos, but I talked with the foster lady a number of times about what Jaya was like and the difficulties that she would present being the way she was. After I sent in an adoption screening form, and some photos of my yard, fencing and interior of my house, along with my own thoughts on how I would handle this abused/feral dog, I got a phone call from the gal saying the group decided to let me have Jaya. And then she started to cry...she said she fell in love with Jaya and she was both sad to see her go, and so happy she found the right home.

We met half way...each of us driving 300 miles and met in the parking lot of a Denny's where the foster lady, transfered Jaya from her truck into the back of my sister's car...then sat back there with Jaya for about 15 minutes and cried and petted her.

I remember she kept apologizing, but my sister and I told her to take her time, and we all had tears in our eyes before it was done. It was really heartbreaking to see this woman having such a hard time in saying goodbye to Jaya.

She said she's fostered a lot of dogs, but something about Jaya stole her heart, but there was just no way to keep Jaya as Jaya needed a calm home, and this woman had a number of other fosters, plus her own dogs, and rescue group meetings at her home, along with family members and to Jaya, that was just all chaos that caused her to be on edge all the time.

About ever 3 to 4 month, I do send the gal an update on Jaya, and am very pleased that with each letter I've been able to inform her that Jaya's improved, and is now even showing me affection. Neither one of us thought that Jaya would ever be able to bond with anyone, given how much she distrusted people. It's take over two years, but I think Jaya is pleased to see me now when I come home from shopping and things like that. And she sometimes runs to me before I can even call her in from outside...and she runs with her tail up and wagging and just happy looking.

Anyway, after reading about the OP crying because missing their foster dog, I think it's time for me to send another note to Jaya's foster and just let her know that Jaya is still progressing and most of the time now, a happy and relaxed dog and to once again, thank her for saving Jaya from a kill shelter and taking her in for those 3 months which were probably very difficult given the way Jaya behaved back then.

I wish someday that the foster gal could come visit and see Jaya here in my home and see how relaxed and happy she is..as she never did get to Jaya in that way, and I think that would help her too. I mean, she knows from the letters and photos, but actually seeing it...might lighten her heart in a different way. Like I said, she was just so sad and happy at the same time in putting Jaya into my care.

It takes a special person to foster a dog...turning it over to someone who's going to give it a forever home has to be one of the most bittersweet feelings ever. But, it's due to people like that, that so many dogs get a chance to be adopted and don't have to wait around in a noisy kennel till someone adopts them.

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Ah Stormy, your post made me cry. I volunteer with a local dog rescue and at one adoption event there were a few dogs who needed fostering. We had no plans to have another (and a one dog limit) but I took one terrified, shut-down little guy home for a week to help out. After 2 days my husband said we had to keep him, so we'd know he was safe and loved. As time went on, I couldn't imagine giving little Javva up, and after a month of fostering, we adopted him. I've seen others who brought their fosters to be adopted after a month, and one woman really had a hard time with it, but luckily she and the new adopter were similar aged and, became good new friends.

Anyway, after reading about the OP crying because missing their foster dog, I think it's time for me to send another note to Jaya's foster ... I wish someday that the foster gal could come visit and see Jaya here in my home and see how relaxed and happy she is..as she never did get to Jaya in that way, and I think that would help her too. I mean, she knows from the letters and photos, but actually seeing it...might lighten her heart in a different way.
I'm so glad you send those updates! Any chance you can take some short videos and send them along? Just upload to Youtube and send a link even - would be a wonderful gift. :)http://www.dogforum.com//www.pinterest.com/pin/create/extension/
 
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