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Dogs obsessively licking others' privates

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My problem does not seem to fit the theories of licking to appease or get the pheromones, or just "love". My trouble is with dogs at the dog park that OBSESSIVELY lick my or others' dogs' anuses or penises. This is to the point of real excitement, drooling etc on the part of the licker. I have recently seen a dog go into near ecstasy when grobbling my guy's behind. The other dog's owner said "Ohhh he's in love" and then "Stop it woofy. She doesn't like it"..... My dog is a male....

I am OK with dogs sniffing at each other, but not this obsessive, invasive behaviour. Am I wrong to take offence on my dogs' behalf?

I am sure this does not happen in wild dogs and other packs and certainly not to this extent. I have been to lther parks and it was nowhere nearly as prevalent or obsessive.

My big guy is discomforted by it, but does not retaliate. My other two dogs will have a say if it's done to them. They do not reciprocate.

Be interested to hear input.

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You are absolutely in the right to take offence on your dogs' behalf. Also, that is incredibly rude canine-wise and can start fights.

Thought that is odd. Is there anything like utis, intact status, or diet [like outside of the convential], that might be involved? Ick as it can be, I remember my cousin's neutered male having a pointedly keen interest in the intact male....
Thanks for the (rapid!) reply.

I am glad you agree that it is offensive and yes there have been a few fights about it. Luckily the owners of the lickers do not get upset, that I have seen. That would anger me.

My dogs, two males and a female, are all neutered and eat nothing unusual; meat and biscuits. They appear not to have any infections. The activity does seem to be aimed at males by males; my female gets very little more then the odd, usual, sniff.

At the end of the day, if you're in a dog park you have 4 options. One, you can appeal to the licking dog's owner to please stop their dog from doing that (highly unlikely!). Two, you can stay but try to just avoid that dog. Or three, let your dog tell the other dog to knock it off. Or four, leave.

Whether you're bothered by it or not is up to you.
Yeas I have done all four. Trouble is, the owners are so often completely ineffectual about controlling their dogs. They seem to feel that firm words are too much. I walk my guys away and the owners just let their dogs follow, not calling them back. In the end I leave.

Unfortunately, and I thought I would not say this, my big guy is at least part Huntaway and they are known for their gentle, even shy, nature. So that option is not on.

It's not all up to me. I feel that if my dogs shows discomfort or distress, then so do I.

One other thing affects me regarding just leaving. Feels like I am depriving my dogs because of the behaviour of others.

Yeah, sorry, I just reread my previous post and it came across a bit more abrupt than intended. My point was though, that getting upset IS the problem.

If someone's dog is doing something to my dog in a dog park and the owner won't or can't stop it I do. This has happened on many occassions because my dog and I have gone to dog parks frequently over the years in many different cities and states.

If you don't want to do that, and the owner won't or can't, your only other options are to try and avoid the lucky dog or leave. OR, find another location where your dog can get the exercise he needs without the pestering.

Not sure if you have something there like snifspot here in the USA, but that may be an option - basically people rent out fenced yards by the hour so you are assured to be alone. Another option might be ball parks or school or church yards, which are often fenced as well.

Not being familiar with Huntaway as a breed, I looked them up. It says they are a herding breed that requires lots of exercise. So yeah, you'll have to get this sorted on way or another; though as a herder used to working in packs I'd be surprised if your dog couldn't or wouldn't tell the other dog to back off if it were bothersome to him. Maybe if you just gave it a little time the novelty would wear off and the problem would resolve itself?
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Thanks for coming back.

The exercise thing is not too bad. We have 5 acres of mostly bush and the dogs get free reign, otherwise I would choose a different type of dog altogether. Trouble is, that puts us a fair way from dog parks, even this one at 35-40 mins each way. Fenced ones are even further apart. When we lived in town, we used to go to a riverside park that was not fenced but was well away from any main roads. There were literally hundreds of dogs there each afternoon, and very little of this sort of behaviour and very few fights.

But yeah I will look around to see if I can try one as "close" as the one that troubles me.

Been thinking about BJay the Huntaway.

I seriously take your point about working dogs maybe being tough. But we adopted two farm rescues from a pack of ten. One is the female we have now and she is what is often described as feisty. She will snarl at any affront and used to bite the other one, just when they were playing and running together. By "bite" I mean a 1.5-2" chunk out of his flank and a visit to the vet for stitches. She did that 3 times and in one instance bit him twice. The bitee, on the other hand, who was older and bigger, did not react, and the reason I did not realise the first bite was because he made no reaction beyond a bit of a moan. He could have beaten the craygap out of the female if he wanted. He was a real cool gentleman.

But I must admit that down the dog park he would not brook just that behaviour I OP'd. He would beat down on any dog that got too personal, and he was a powerful guy.....but it took a lot. In that case the owners were blaming my guy! They would walk the other way because of my dogs! Precious.

This is why I ask if my human dislike of obsessive butt-licking is wrong. So many owners take their own dog's side.

But BJay, regardless of his heritage (mixed, I will say) has led a very sheltered life, I gather, with a little old lady owner. So any breed instinct is not realised. He is undoubtedly gentle to other dogs.

I have to hope that. We had to put down our last dog after he literally tried to eat on of our other dogs, then attacked the tiny JRT next door. His were killing attacks, competitive or predatory; tear out our little guy's shoulder, and the skin off the neck of the JRT.. It was immensely sad but had to be done. To us, as seems to be so often with (pit) BT's he was the perfect companion. We adored him.

But a pack herder is a different dog from a bull-terrier -based fighter, no matter how sweet. So we have to hope.

Rant off
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