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Hi

I am new to the forum. My best friend just got her dog of 8 years ran over and killed. She died in her arms and she is destroyed to the point that wont stop crying because she witnessed the incident and the dog died in her arms.

If anyone has any idea as prayers for the death of an animal or something like this, please can you post it here? I dont know where to begin. She is catholic .

I would appreciate any response.

Thank you so much.

Honey
 

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:( I would just get a new cat, kitten, dog or puppy to occupy my mind and fill in a few of the gaps. They really help you through it. Poor thing.
 

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Not always a good idea, IMO...
It's a personal preference. Not to replace the one lost, but to keep my mind off the loss so it isn't interfering with my daily routine. I work with the public though, so it's a little harder to fake happy. New pets definitely keep you busy. IF you're in the position to have a new pet in the first place.
 

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:( I would just get a new cat, kitten, dog or puppy to occupy my mind and fill in a few of the gaps. They really help you through it. Poor thing.
depending on the person, I agree with this...When Scooter died we went out and got Kiwi very soon after. I still grieved, and she wasn't replacing him...but having a new dog kept me too busy to stop functioning altogether, which is what would have happend. I already had missed work and needed to get it together.

It's a personal preference. Not to replace the one lost, but to keep my mind off the loss so it isn't interfering with my daily routine. I work with the public though, so it's a little harder to fake happy. New pets definitely keep you busy. IF you're in the position to have a new pet in the first place.
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Thank you

Thank you for the replies and the link. I appreciate it.

Actually she has three other dogs and one stray she takes care
of. She is always worried about her dogs and
everyone elses so you can see how much love for animals
she has and this to happen in front of her was horrendous.

The driver did not stop.

I want to give her something to hold on. Like prayers for her
pet and to know it wasn't her fault. She feels guilty because it
was a series of events that shouldn't have happened and did ,ending
in the accident. She wasn't even going to give the dog a walk
and says had a bad feeling but the dog loved going
to her daughter's house and she made a sacrifice feeling
bad herself to take her


A mess. I hope it gets better. Thanks for your comments

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I could just imagine myself breaking out into tears in the middle of a foil highlight, then they're stuck with me for two hours. Baad bad. It's gotta happen someday but I don't even like thinking about it. :(
 

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Welcome!!

I have some poems that always help me. I would also let her know that her being there for the dog while he died-while truly truly upsetting to the core, helped the dog so much. Can you imagine how many owners cannot be present when that sitution happens? How the dog has to die alone and scared? Though sooo upsetting, she was there for her dog -and should be proud.

This is a wonderful support site
Pet Loss Grief Support, The Rainbow Bridge Poem, Monday Candle Ceremony,

Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.

When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge.
There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together.
There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.

All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by.
The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.

They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent; His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....

Author unknown...




Do not stand at my grave and weep;
I am not there. I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn's rain.
When you awaken in the morning's hush,
I am the swift uplifting rush
of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry;
I am not there, I did not die.



Weep not for me though I am gone
Into that gentle night.
Grieve if you will, but not for long
Upon my soul's sweet flight.
I am at peace, my soul's at rest
There is no need for tears.
For with your love I was so blessed
For all those many years.
There is no pain, I suffer not,
The fear now all is gone.
Put now these things out of your thoughts,
In your memory I live on.
Remember not my fight for breath
Remember not the strife.
Please do not dwell upon my death,
But celebrate my life.



Dear Lord, please open your gates
and call St. Francis
to come escort this beloved companion
across the Rainbow Bridge.

Assign her to a place of honor,
for she has been a faithful servant
and has always done her best to please me.

Bless the hands that send her to you,
for they are doing so in love and compassion,
freeing her from pain and suffering.

Grant me the strength not to dwell on my loss.
Help me remember the details of her life
with the love she has shown me.
And grant me the courage to honor her
by sharing those memories with others.

Let her remember me as well
and let her know that I will always love her.
And when it's my time to pass over into your paradise,
please allow her to accompany those
who will bring me home.

Thank you, Lord,
for the gift of her companionship
and for the time we've had together.

And thank you, Lord,
for granting me the strength
to give her to you now.

Amen.


 

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it is really nice of you to help your friend out like this...here are some sites that may help you and your friend:

Grief Counseling American Academy of Grief Counseling, Certified Grief Counselor

Ten Tips on Coping with Pet Loss

The Association for Pet Loss and Bereavement

the most important thing..imo...is to validate her grief and encourage her to grieve the loss rather then suppress it...some people feel guilty when they grieve a pet or they think it isn't normal, but it is perfectly normal/natural to feel the way that she does, especially under the circumstances you described...good luck!



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Good point Fawkese!!!

It's the most hurtful thing when people say 'oh it's just a dog' (not that you would Honey :) she might hear it elsewhere) but really validating is a good point.
 

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Im back

Thank u so much! I am coming every few minutes to gather new ideas and information. Thank you.

Its true that she got to be there and the dog knew it . I cant think about it much without feeling a pain in my heart. I cant stand these things . I love animals and have one that I adore, but I cant think of this part. I am really not prepared for any of this. Animals for me hold a very special place in my heart since we are their voice and they are for the most part defenseless. Its so hard when these things happen. It is amazing to have them, but when faced to something like this is when I am now worried and thinking about my own dog's fate.

Thanks for all your support

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A few years ago two of our fur babies died one month apart. One was 10yrs old the other one was 13 yrs old. Then soon after we got a puppy. He died of Parvo. I was grieving so much. I ordered a book that I read about in a book club. That book was a God send for me. It helped me get over my grieving. The name of the book is "Animals in Spirit" by Penelope smith. This book is about our companions transition to their afterlife. She also wrote other books. One was "Animal Talk". If your friend could find this book, I think it would be a big help to her. God bless her.
 

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I too am catholic and have researched extensively the question as to what happens to animals upon their death. First of all God never destroys what he creates. And if we are so imperfect can love so deeply, how much more so God who is perfect and all loving. I sincerely believe God will recreate in heaven and give us back in paradise what we loved so on earth. I an paraphrasing Prof. Peter Kreeft, a prominent catholic theologian who has written many books.
 
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