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I want to start with the fact that other than this one thing, my partner is exactly what I want in a relationship. He takes care of me, is responsible with his money, a hard worker, we have tons of fun and good times together. I have only been with him 7 months, but I honestly have never been happier in my life and he is supportive of most everything I pursue.
I love animals, and he readily puts up with my horses, rabbits, foxes and various other animals. He helps care for them often and enjoys their company.
However; He absolutely cannot stand dogs. He had several bad experiences as a child and just never liked them in general even before hand. When we got together, I told him of my wants and that eventually I wanted to try and get a service dog to help with my severe anxiety and fainting spells. He did not say anything much about this.. so I assumed it was okay. Bad assumption. Fast forward, I brought home (He knew previously) a puppy, he finally blew up just days before (had already paid for the pup) and told me how much he hated dogs. At this point we decided we would try. Things went okay at first, then the puppy bit him because he went to potty on the floor and boyfriend scooped him up quickly and scared the poor thing. After that he wanted nothing to do with him and basically gave me an ultimatum. Because of the puppies biting (happened a few times, actually bites not regular puppy bites) we re-homed him. I miss him terribly.
I have tried to get along without a dog, but even if I can't have a service dog I ache so badly for the company of a dog that I don't know what to do! I have dreams that he agrees to let me have one and they are torture to wake up from. He doesn't understand... And I do not hate or resent him for this. I totally understand that not everyone likes the same things. But this does not escape the fact that I am still unhappy. I can't bear the thought of not having either in my life.
Tips, opinions? I really really want to be with this man for the rest of my life. Marriage material.. but I know that if I am miserable I can't 100% make him happy either. Here are some compromises I have tried to come up with... let me know what you think. Thanks in advance.
Build dog an outside enclosure (20x40) and heated dog house.
Dog can come inside to sleep during bad weather but will stay in our spare room that is totally unused.
Boyfriend currently works 2nd shift.. I spend a lot of lonely hours, so dog could come inside and give me company when my boyfriend is asleep or at work, and stay outside when he is home.
I have 3 acres the dog can roam when I am home but the fences are only 4ft so I wouldn't want to leave him unattended. My dream dog is either an Australian or German Shepherd. I am very active outside so he would still get lots of attention and exercise.
thanks for any tips or imput...
I love animals, and he readily puts up with my horses, rabbits, foxes and various other animals. He helps care for them often and enjoys their company.
However; He absolutely cannot stand dogs. He had several bad experiences as a child and just never liked them in general even before hand. When we got together, I told him of my wants and that eventually I wanted to try and get a service dog to help with my severe anxiety and fainting spells. He did not say anything much about this.. so I assumed it was okay. Bad assumption. Fast forward, I brought home (He knew previously) a puppy, he finally blew up just days before (had already paid for the pup) and told me how much he hated dogs. At this point we decided we would try. Things went okay at first, then the puppy bit him because he went to potty on the floor and boyfriend scooped him up quickly and scared the poor thing. After that he wanted nothing to do with him and basically gave me an ultimatum. Because of the puppies biting (happened a few times, actually bites not regular puppy bites) we re-homed him. I miss him terribly.
I have tried to get along without a dog, but even if I can't have a service dog I ache so badly for the company of a dog that I don't know what to do! I have dreams that he agrees to let me have one and they are torture to wake up from. He doesn't understand... And I do not hate or resent him for this. I totally understand that not everyone likes the same things. But this does not escape the fact that I am still unhappy. I can't bear the thought of not having either in my life.
Tips, opinions? I really really want to be with this man for the rest of my life. Marriage material.. but I know that if I am miserable I can't 100% make him happy either. Here are some compromises I have tried to come up with... let me know what you think. Thanks in advance.
Build dog an outside enclosure (20x40) and heated dog house.
Dog can come inside to sleep during bad weather but will stay in our spare room that is totally unused.
Boyfriend currently works 2nd shift.. I spend a lot of lonely hours, so dog could come inside and give me company when my boyfriend is asleep or at work, and stay outside when he is home.
I have 3 acres the dog can roam when I am home but the fences are only 4ft so I wouldn't want to leave him unattended. My dream dog is either an Australian or German Shepherd. I am very active outside so he would still get lots of attention and exercise.
thanks for any tips or imput...