I don't see any non civil wording on either side, its a discussion.I haven’t lectured you. You asked for opinions and I shared mine? Can you explain what extra input and judgement I’ve brought up? And what things have I said that is not true? You came for opinions on which option to choose. I gave you mine. Why would you complain over that? I brought up all the different pros and cons for the two options you faced, to help you make the decision.