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Old 02-06-2014, 10:40 AM
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If I may also add, it can be confusing to dogs to have two people training them differently - there are stories of dogs acting up or breaking down due to two people trying to teach them with different methods. If you can, it would probably be beneficial to try to find a common ground, though I know that can be very difficult when it comes to animals.
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Is it a collie? If so then I think the only thing that really sorts out their heads is free runnng and lots of it, and then employ their brain. I can get little sense out of mine unless he has had this. Given a couple of days when I can perhaps only manage a short (I walk about 2 miles, so he probably does two or three times this) off lead walk with him, he is freaky, twitchy, demanding and can get himself into all sorts of trouble. If I walk about five miles, with some retrieving back to me and training bits as well, he is a different dog entirely. He's a long way off exhausted (consider how far he would run in a day if he was doing the job he was bred to do) but seems more content. Collies are bred to think, but they're also bred to run . Hope this helps.
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I would bet that he finds your husband intimidating, especially since you mentioned your husband is more "old school".

I do feel your pain. A year ago I rescued a very fearful but hyper dog. She was an adult but she had no impulse control she would chase the cats and was just endlessly energetic. I worked really hard with her and today she is a lot calmer and she is able to just chill. It just takes time. Your dog will get there!

When he gets crazy, you can walk out of the room or you can say something like "oops" and calmly lead him to his crate.
I do think that he is over stimulated. You can't play with him for 3 hours and then just drop it. You have to slowly disengage. He also seems to have separation anxiety from your husband. Whenever I am home alone, even with my sister, he grabs recipts and pens and toilet paper and we scold him. He seems to only stop if you play with him, slowly disengage, and then some more play, and then some cuddle time. This may work for your dog, but then again, every dog is different.

You should try to train separation anxiety out of him. My dog is going to start this soon. He is a wreck whenever we get home and he pees so much to see us. He is always crated because we think he'd just tear the house apart with separation anxiety, because he already digs in the crate.
  • Week One: Each day, do what you normally do to get out of the house. Then go outside for about five minutes every 2 hours and he will seem to get the fact that you are coming back.
  • Week 2: Slowly increase the time each day to 10 minutes. During this 10 minutes, take a short walk or something that shouldn't take long.
  • Week 3-4: Increase this time to 20 minutes on week three, and week four increase the time to 30 minutes.
  • Week 5:Increase this time to 1 hour. Go to the grocery store, or the gym, or somewhere.
WARNING: DO NOT INCREASE THE TIME TO OVER 5 HOURS AND 30 MINUTES. NO DOG SHOULD BE LEFT ALONE FOR THAT LONG OF A PERIOD OF TIME!
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I do think that he is over stimulated. You can't play with him for 3 hours and then just drop it. You have to slowly disengage. He also seems to have separation anxiety from your husband. Whenever I am home alone, even with my sister, he grabs recipts and pens and toilet paper and we scold him. He seems to only stop if you play with him, slowly disengage, and then some more play, and then some cuddle time. This may work for your dog, but then again, every dog is different.

You should try to train separation anxiety out of him. My dog is going to start this soon. He is a wreck whenever we get home and he pees so much to see us. He is always crated because we think he'd just tear the house apart with separation anxiety, because he already digs in the crate.
  • Week One: Each day, do what you normally do to get out of the house. Then go outside for about five minutes every 2 hours and he will seem to get the fact that you are coming back.
  • Week 2: Slowly increase the time each day to 10 minutes. During this 10 minutes, take a short walk or something that shouldn't take long.
  • Week 3-4: Increase this time to 20 minutes on week three, and week four increase the time to 30 minutes.
  • Week 5:Increase this time to 1 hour. Go to the grocery store, or the gym, or somewhere.
WARNING: DO NOT INCREASE THE TIME TO OVER 5 HOURS AND 30 MINUTES. NO DOG SHOULD BE LEFT ALONE FOR THAT LONG OF A PERIOD OF TIME!
I'm going to disagree here-if this were totally true, almost everyone on this board and in the world could be considered a negligible dog parent. Yes, dogs are social animals. Yes, I hate leaving Sam by himself. I wish he had a brother. But it is impractical to think that somebody with a 9 to 5 can't own a dog or has to have two for this reason.

I'm a med student with a 4 month old pup. Most of my friends and my mom thought I was insane when I said I was getting Sam. But I timed it perfectly so that I was home with him fulltime over Xmas break and he was housetrained by 11 weeks. I felt ok leaving him for 3-4 hrs in his crate while I went to class, came home to feed him lunch and walk, and if i have afternoon class-repeat. I never leave him alone for solid blocks of 8 hours. Now he is reliable to where I can leave him out of the crate for up to 5 or 6 hours depending on how tired he is from our walks/his puppy playing with the neighbor. However-this is unusual for his age.

Sam sleeps with me in my bed too and wakes me up by licking my face. He initially tried waking me up at 5 am and that didn't fly-so I retrained him by putting him in his crate until 7:30 or 8 which I consider a more appropriate wakeup time. He then learned that was a good time to wake up mom.

Unfortunately, pups sometimes pick a person to imprint on and that may be hubby. Sam picked me over Blake since I spend more time with him. He protects me but plays more tug and rougher games with him. Just because you have different roles doesn't mean he loves you less.
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