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Old 04-16-2014, 12:06 PM
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No, I don't think you were harsh at all, I agree with you! My point was if the OP really wanted this puppy then, like you did, she/he would do everything in his/her power to find the resources. I also think it's sad that the Grandparents seem to have paid for the dog then more or less said 'it's all totally down to you now!' after all the OP is obviously quite young, maybe if they could be a little more encouraging? I would think that no rescue would adopt to a minor, therefore the Grandparents must be the official adopters?
Right! I'm also trying to understand where the grandparents are in all of this. Even the fact that they would allow or give the responsibility of rehoming the puppy to a teenager seems quite irresponsible on their part. Owning a pet should be the priority of the entire family, especially since they obviously had a huge part in getting the puppy. I'm sure they know the type of person that their grand kid is, she/he admitted to being a "lazy teenager" and I'm sure that they were aware of that prior to allowing him/her to have a pet.
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Old 04-16-2014, 12:14 PM
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Re-home the dog - it's best for the dog in this situation and puppies usually get adopted fast due to cuteness factor.

And I'm a little disappointed in the "You got yourself into this, now deal with it" attitude in this thread. On one hand people are talking about how dogs are living creatures who have needs, while on the other you are using the dog's well-being as an objective lesson in responsibility. A dog should be more than that.

OP is being realistic in their abilities to give a proper home for the dog (in this case, not). Sometimes the most responsible thing is realising that you are in way over your head, and then working to make it better.

Yes, the OP made a mistake in getting a puppy before they were ready. It sounds like they realised this, learnt form the mistake, and are trying to fix it.

ETA: also, check your adoption contract before trying to re-home the pup yourself. A lot of places have clauses where the dog has to go back to the shelter/rescue if you can no longer care for it

I agree. I also had suggested to rehome the puppy. It is a realistic and the right thing to do by the dog. This teenager is clearly not ready and it's not the time to teach her responsibility at puppy's expense.
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@JudyG I think that this whole situation might have been avoided if the grandparents had actually been less involved. Let me explain:

The grandparents' willingness to pay for some of the costs of the dog probably made the decision to get a puppy very easy and appealing for the OP. Imagine if the OP had been allowed to get a dog only when she (?) had saved enough money to pay for the dog and all of the initial costs, plus some money left over for food/vet bills for the next 6-18 months. The OP likely would have had to earn/save money for awhile before satisfying that requirement. Before she even got the dog, she would have been investing time in it (in the time spent earning money for it). After several months of consistently working towards the goal of getting a dog, I think she'd be more prepared to invest time in it once she had it.

I speak from my own experience, as I wanted my own dog for years before my parents let me get one. When they finally agreed, they made it clear that I was responsible for EVERYTHING in regards to the dog. I spent close to $1000 for my puppy and all her supplies/vet check in the first week. I was completely confident that I wanted a dog before I spent all my hard-earned money. I did lots of research to determine the perfect breed, etc. There was no way that I was going to get rid of that dog. I never even considered it.

But I do agree that in this case, it sounds like the dog would be better off in a new home. It would definitely be a shame if it was left tied up outside or confined somewhere with no attention.
This is why rescues and shelters charge for dogs. I know everyone seems to think "They're begging me to take him, why should I have to pay anything at all, let alone $250? That's insane!"

People in general do not value what they do not pay for and you don't do anybody any favors by fulfilling their every random whim.
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Sensiblesoap, I hope you come back to this thread, most people on here are trying to help you. It's obvious that you are young & maybe this isn't the right time to have the responsibility of taking care of a puppy, especially if you don't have back up at home. Just because things haven't worked out this time, that doesn't mean when you're older & wiser, you won't become an excellent pet parent, maybe this will be a huge learning curve for you. All I ask is that you do the best for your puppy, it's not his fault, puppies will be puppies & they are hard work! I wish you well.
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I am sorry you are feeling like we are picking on you but let me point out something from our perspective. You came to a forum where people love dogs, and I don't mean normal love, we LOVE our dogs, if you want a referance go check out "Why is your dog worth it" thread. Most of us would starve then not provide for our dogs. Also a lot of us are in rescue and deal with having to pick up the pieces of puppies who have been adopted and returned. So it's something that does affect us emotionally. Now also play into the fact that you are making yourself out to be the villian in it all (lazy teenager that doesn't want the puppy because you are lazy) and we see everything that most of us hate in the youth of today. So we come back rather sharp. Please see it that we do it from a good place, because we want to see the best happen for you and your dog.

Now that question. You might want to really focus on that decision sooner rather than later. 2 month old puppies are hard to place, 6 month old puppies are harder to place, 10 month old puppies are harder, and 1 year olds are really hard. The longer you wait, the longer it will take to find that dog a good home (statistically). Also the puppy needs someone who is going to work with him, and train him, and run with him and keep him active so he doesn't develop bad habbits, and if you aren't willing to do that he needs someone who is. Now on the flip side if you wanted to keep the dog, you could make it work. He needs a larger crate? Check out Craigslist. See if your grandpa would be willing to spend $20 instead of the full price of a new one. Also check out Amazon, They are half the price new off amazon.

You have a lot of options but please keep in mind that the faster your decision is made, the better chance that puppy has to having a better life.
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I'm not wanting people to "back me up" because I still haven't made a decision myself. And here's another thing--I really don't care if some of you are "disgusted" by me. I really don't. And my grandparents also aren't in the background saying "no, we can't get rid of him!" They're actually pretty sick of him too.
I'm sure the dog feels all the negativity towards him and he deserves a home that wants and loves him.

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I just appreciate polite answers as opposed to implying I'm some sort of monster. When it comes down to it, none of YOUR lives are affected. If my family and I decide that this dog isn't working for us then that's for us to decide. Not you. I asked for opinions on what I should do. I did not ask for lectures, which is basically what I've gotten. If I decide that this particular dog at this particular time not for me, then that's my choice. I should have never asked for opinions here in the first place, I had no idea you were all so rude, quick to say you're "disgusted" with me.
I didn't call you a monster or say I was disgusted with you. I said it doesn't make me think anything more of you that you were honest about being lazy and not wanting the dog anymore. I think you are being a teenager, but that's hardly an excuse. You wanted the dog, you got the dog, you are tired of the dog, dog goes away. To me, not saying anything about that isn't right, and that is what I was "disgusted" with, the dismissive attitude I felt from some of the posts. Dogs are a big commitment and letting someone back out of it and re-homing the dog as long as they are honest about not wanting the dog anymore is teaching that person they don't have to stick to their commitments. They can just pass their burden on to someone else. I think that might be part of why your grandparents, even though they are tired of the dog too, don't want to let you give it up, to help you learn some responsibility for your actions.

Maybe I was harsher than I needed to be, but there is some pent up frustration there about people who treat dogs like tissues. In this case I believe you did just make a mistake but I wanted to make sure you don't make it again. Call it a lecture but we don't often get to talk to the people who do this kind of thing, and at a point where maybe we could do something about it or stop it from happening again.

There are things you could do to save/earn money to buy a new crate and pay for things the dog needs but if you don't want to there is little point. If you want to, there have been some good suggestions on what to do. I feel like the best thing that could come of this is that you keep the dog and work through the issues. To me it's more rewarding to have a dog that was difficult that you helped to become great, than to have a dog that is a model pet from day 1.

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Like I said though, it in no way affects you. So I really don't care if you're disgusted. At least be glad he's going to at least go to a good home that'll take care of him better than me, and that's IF I decide to get rid of him.
Like people have said it does affect other people. If you do rehome him I hope he does go to a good home that loves him.
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