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Old 04-15-2014, 02:41 PM
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well... I mean it really doesn't matter how responsible other teenagers are. This is about me and my ability and willingness to care for a dog.

Anyway, not only do I not think I'm ready, I think a lot of you are ignoring some of the really important things I've said, like how the dog is too big for his crate and my grandfather refuses to get him a new one. He's hunched over when he's in it. That's got to be uncomfortable, and I can't afford to get him one myself. On top of that, we don't have a fenced back yard, so I'm not able to let him just run around. We did get a stake to put him outside with, though.

I am very well aware that I shouldn't have brought a puppy into my home if I wasn't ready to care for it--or I am now. I wasn't when I brought him home. I was excited because oh boy! a cute little fuzzball! And it will definitely hurt if I give him up. I'm not just tossing him out and turning my back. I do love the dog. And I'm going to be sad about him being gone. But I also think that it might be best for me and the dog if he had a better owner who was more willing to tend to his needs and ready for the ownership of a puppy.
Rain has some fab suggestions about the financial aspect. People with low incomes can still be fantastic owners- they just put their dogs first, and save up.

But to be honest, it seems like you're now trying to reverse-justify your decision to give him up? You knew BEFORE you got him about your money situation, your dedication levels, the lack of back yard, and you should have known just how far your grandparents would be willing to foot the bills. It's good that you recognise that you can't provide an adequate home for your dog, but that doesn't absolve you of the the responsibility of knowing your situation and STILL deciding your desire for a cute baby fuzzball trumped his future welfare. Yes, well done for realising now. But it would have been better for your dog if you realised before you bought him into your life.

Oh, and to respond to your edit: An older dog will still need a responsible walker and trainer, a secure place to be exercised, a sufficiently sized crate, and someone who can afford the ongoing costs of dog ownership. I wouldn't even think of owning another dog for a good few years if I were you.
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Old 04-15-2014, 02:52 PM
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Like I said, I didn't think of those things before I brought him home. I knew my grandparents would pay for the things he needed, I didn't expect my grandpa to automatically say no to getting him a bigger crate. Back when I got him, I thought that I WOULD change. I thought I would get out and walk him and that I wouldn't NEED a back yard because I could exercise him myself, but that didn't happen. I thought that once I got the dog and started to love him, I'd change overnight, and I didn't.

And the thing is, I'm not low income, I'm no-income. If my grandparents don't pay for something, I have no way of getting money unless I wait until christmas to get a few 20 dollar bills stuck in some cards.

Also, I know that an older dog will still require responsibility. But by then, when I decide to get one, I'll be ready for that responsibility, and I'll have a job so that I don't have to worry about someone else saying no when a dog needs something.
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I have to disagree with you blakeandsam. I've known quite a few teens who are very responsible and trustworthy with their pets. Teenagers aren't babies. I've even known some teens who got pregnant and raised their children responsibly. The OP doesn't want the pup and he or she doesn't want to change. I hope the pup finds a good home and the OP doesn't get another pet until he or she is more mature and responsible. We're not all cut out to be good dog owners, sadly enough.

Can confirm, I was 16 when I got Jayne and did everything except pay vet bills for her. It's not about being a teenager, it's about being lazy.


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Hi Sensiblesoap,

I appreciate that you're starting to reallly consider whether you should keep this puppy, and based on everything you've written, I agree that you should find him another home as soon as possible.

With that being said, I hope that you'll do your best to find him a loving home with an owner who can make a longterm committment to his care.
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Like I said, I didn't think of those things before I brought him home. I knew my grandparents would pay for the things he needed, I didn't expect my grandpa to automatically say no to getting him a bigger crate. Back when I got him, I thought that I WOULD change. I thought I would get out and walk him and that I wouldn't NEED a back yard because I could exercise him myself, but that didn't happen. I thought that once I got the dog and started to love him, I'd change overnight, and I didn't.

And the thing is, I'm not low income, I'm no-income. If my grandparents don't pay for something, I have no way of getting money unless I wait until christmas to get a few 20 dollar bills stuck in some cards.

Also, I know that an older dog will still require responsibility. But by then, when I decide to get one, I'll be ready for that responsibility, and I'll have a job so that I don't have to worry about someone else saying no when a dog needs something.

I just want to tell you something about a backyard, it does nothing to help the dog get exercise unless you are back there with the dog. Most dogs once they've been out in the yard and sniffed around then lay down somewhere and sleep. That's no matter how big the yard is.

Change takes commitment. For the last year of my old dog's life he didn't require a lot of exercise, he was 17 years old and sleep most of the time. We went on one short walk a day. Then I got my new dog, he's a year and a few months old, he has lots of energy and I've had to get up off my lazy butt, walk him, and play with him. On my own I've no real interest of going on walks most days, but I've made a commitment to him, and I'm willing to put in the effort even when I'm not feeling good. If the weather is bad then I'm having to put in even more effort to wear him out with indoor play and training. If you put your mind to it, decide the pup is worth it, and become determined to meet the pups needs then you will change.

You can't get a part time job? I had one back in high school and worked on a Saturday making around $40 for the day. Get creative, ask people what you can do for them to earn money, ask friends and fellow students what they do, look in the classifieds in the paper and see if there is any job you can do. The store I worked for for years used to hire high school teens for after school work. Even if you rehome the pup I suggest you do that, it's good to earn your own money, and a part time job helps teach responsibility and work ethic, and looks good on your resume.

An older dog, (I got mine a month ago when he was 1 year 2 months old) still requires work, and some require as much or more work as a puppy. Please take that into consideration before you decide to get another dog later in life.
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If I could, I would visit every person in the US and tell them that being honest about their bad qualities isn't enough. You need to actually do something about those bad qualities.

My guess is that her grandparents are balking on rehoming the dog. They gave into her pleas for a dog, spent a bunch of money on it, and now it's a month later and she's bored with it and ready to move on. I have no doubt there is a grandparent in the background yelling, "No, you can't get rid of the dog, we just bought the dog!" and so she's hoping for backup from us.
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Old 04-15-2014, 03:55 PM
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My blanket statements about teenagers are obviously not true in all cases. I was forced to grow up well in advance of my years, but it seems that overprotective "helicopter" parents are raising a generation of self entitled lazy brats. But that's a pet peeve/rant for another thread.

I think you need to speak to your grandparents about the situation. It isn't fair to the dog to be in a crate he can't fit in. If they are supporting you and him, they need to make sure he has shots and food and proper equipment. If you're that committed to keeping the pup, an after school job is always in order as well (maybe becoming a dog walker) but it seems to me you've made up your mind. I think you've made a smart decision, as tough as it is. We all know he's adorable, and you love him. But do what's best for him.
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Old 04-15-2014, 04:02 PM
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I think you should grow up and accept the responsibility.You wanted him,now take care of him.All puppies nip,I have one right now and he does the same thing,but as he gets older it is less and less often.They do grow out of this,it's just a stage.Pets aren't disposable.You might be a teenager but you're old enough to know right from wrong and rehoming him is wrong.Give it some time it'll get easier.But in the meantime,you need to step it up a it and take care of your responsibilities.Getting a pet isn't like buying a shirt from the store,if you don't like it you can go back and return it.Taking the easy way out isn't the right choice.I think you should have thought about this a bit more before making the decision to get a dog,and I don't think you need a cat.I think that this is a good life lesson learned,take care of your responsibilities!!!Next time get a goldfish.I have teenagers and they are taught to be responsible and I when I'm not home it's their responsibility to take care of all the pets because they wanted them too.You rehome him you'll regret it.
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Old 04-15-2014, 04:22 PM
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Can confirm, I was 16 when I got Jayne and did everything except pay vet bills for her. It's not about being a teenager, it's about being lazy.


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I was 13 when I got my first dog. I had been working at a fast food restaurant (surprisingly legal in Iowa at that age) long enough to save up more than $1000. I had that dog until November of last year, when I had to put her down due to kidney failure. I have always paid for all of her vet expenses, toys, treats, beds, etc. I have always been the person responsible for all of her exercise, training, and care, except for some semesters when I was away at college. But by that time, she was 5 years old, settled down, and well-trained. My family didn't have to do much more for her than feed her, let her out, and walk her with the other family dogs.

Before my fast food job, I had a paper route. There are ways to make money if you're motivated. It really isn't your grandparents job to pay for a new crate, etc. It was very nice of them to do everything they've already done for you and your dog.

I think it would be good if you would use this circumstance as an opportunity to grow. As others have said, if you put time and energy into caring for your dog, you will be rewarded immensely. Wouldn't you rather know that you're not a lazy teenager (in your own words)?

But you're right that it's not fair to the dog to be ignored, crammed in a crate, etc. So if you absolutely do not have the willingness or ability to care for the dog, rehoming is the best option for your pup. It is far better than leaving your dog neglected and sad.
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Old 04-15-2014, 04:26 PM
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As for the "do you really want to add to those statistics", if I decide that I don't want him anymore, I will find him a home myself. Family, friends, friends of family, whatever. I will personally see to it that he has a home if I give him away. So there's no concern about finding a no-kill shelter or contributing to "statistics".

And for the expenses thing, my grandparents have covered most of it, other than the adoption fee, which I payed. I'm sure they will continue to do that. However, I cannot afford a bigger crate for him, and he's growing at the speed of light. His crate is too small, and my grandpa has said that he isn't going to buy him a new one, which isn't fair to the dog.

I know that him being a puppy is just a stage, but also I'm simply tired of taking care of him, too. Which, I can just feel some of you ready to pounce on me, but I'm being honest. I'm tired of the responsibility. I did research on the responsibility before I got the dog, and I thought I was ready, but no amount of research can prepare you for the real deal.

Also, I do know myself enough that, even if I promise I'll step up to the plate and start walking him regularly and whatnot, that I will end up not doing that. Or doing it for two days and then not doing it anymore. I know myself enough to know that that's exactly what I will do.
I do appreciate your honesty. I have a puppy of my own and it is definitely work and I'm a grown woman! This is much more than you bargained for. You probably had this romantic image in your head of cuddling with your puppy without a care in the world.
Here is the thing, puppies are also expensive. Sounds like your grandparents had tapped out because they are not willing to get a larger crate for the dog. Sounds like they want you to be pay for expenses and there will be expenses: vet visits, preventative medicine, always new treats, new toys, grooming fees etc...Can you pay for all those? Will your grandparents?

A part of me wants to lecture you, but realistic part of me tells me that you should rehome. Is possible, find a family who will take care of him, don't put him in a shelter. Too many unhappy puppies there.
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