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Old 02-13-2011, 01:54 PM
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I have the opposite problem... Cattle dogs are often called shadow dogs or velcro dogs...I have a velcro dog... she loves other people and will gladly great them and play for a bit... then she looks over at me and its like "sorry... my mommy looks lonely" and prances over... Its super cute the look she gives, but some days its like LOOK IM 5ft AWAY GO PLAY!
Yes, I know some people with this problem. I'd like to find a happy medium. Not one extreme or the other.
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Old 02-13-2011, 02:05 PM
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Yes, I know some people with this problem. I'd like to find a happy medium. Not one extreme or the other.
So would I!

Your pup will come around :-) you will see some day in the future when she's not such a ADHD little puppy... your going to look down and say MAN I have a great dog. :-) from all the posts you make it sounds like your doing every thing to give her a good life... keep it up!

You can try carrying treats with you to give her when you want to pick her up that way its not always you ending fun or something that she wants to do... or even just randomly picking her up and setting her right back down so you keep her guessing :-)

Oh! I just wanted to mention that Zoey will sometimes do the same thing showing preference to my fiancÚ. Especially after I have corrected her. She has more respect for me and for my authority that she does with him. He is her playmate, not necessarily an alpha power she has to obey(although we are working on that)

Im sure its a similar situation with your boyfriend :-)
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Oh! I just wanted to mention that Zoey will sometimes do the same thing showing preference to my fiancÚ. Especially after I have corrected her. She has more respect for me and for my authority that she does with him. He is her playmate, not necessarily an alpha power she has to obey(although we are working on that)

Im sure its a similar situation with your boyfriend :-)
Bingo! She won't even sit when he commands her to haha. He refers to me as "mean ole' mommy" when talking to the pup about me because I have to be the disciplinarian while he's the littermate.
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I think its funny when J takes Zoey outside, she gets all in to playing running around the yard and she wont come back to him. Hes like will you PLEASE call your dog... Im like nope! get a treat and make her come to you :-)
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if by disciplining, you mean correcting, you could stop doing that dogs can learn A LOT about how to get along in the world, without ever hearing a stern word... if you reward her for doing things that you like, and ignore her when she does things you don't like, she will learn pretty quickly, and you won't have to worry about her associating you with the corrections. as tulip pointed out, if you condition her to enjoy things like you grabbing her, she won't see that as punishment/the end of fun. there are lots of ways you can do that. and ditto the others, be thankful you don't have a super clingy dog, cute as it is, it can get annoying pretty fast



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if you reward her for doing things that you like, and ignore her when she does things you don't like, she will learn pretty quickly, and you won't have to worry about her associating you with the corrections.
The trouble with this is that when it comes to other people, they don't know what I do and do not want her to do, so they allow it. For example, we had a bunch of people over here last night, and she jumps up on them for attention. They immediately duck down and pet her and "ooh" and "ahh" all over her, but I don't want her to jump on people. It's not gonna be so cute when she's full-grown and jumps on a toddler. You know? And they allow her to nibble their hands, but I do not want her biting. And I don't want to be like "don't let her jump up please!" "don't let her bite please!" "get her off the couch please!" ya know? I just want her to NOT do those things to begin with.
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The trouble with this is that when it comes to other people, they don't know what I do and do not want her to do, so they allow it. For example, we had a bunch of people over here last night, and she jumps up on them for attention. They immediately duck down and pet her and "ooh" and "ahh" all over her, but I don't want her to jump on people. It's not gonna be so cute when she's full-grown and jumps on a toddler. You know? And they allow her to nibble their hands, but I do not want her biting. And I don't want to be like "don't let her jump up please!" "don't let her bite please!" "get her off the couch please!" ya know? I just want her to NOT do those things to begin with.
The trick here is for you to assume the role of "Grand Master Trainer of the household!"

So you meet your guests outside and let them know how you want the greeting to go with Lola. Explain to them that you want them to come in quietly, not fuss over the puppy, and in fact not even make eye contact initially. Tell them to give you a minute to get ready.

Then you go back inside and put Lola on a leash (c/t!). Then you sit on the floor with Lola and call your guests in. Ask them to pick up a handful of kibble or treats that you leave in a bowl nearby.

They come and sit on the floor in a circle. Before you let Lola greet people, explain how you want them to react. Have them work on the "default leave-it" in the kikopups channel. First you demonstrate with Lola. She is still on the leash and under your control. Once you think people understand what to do, you can walk Lola over to one person and let them do the default leave it. Go around the room one person at a time.

Now the puppy has met everyone, and also learned to be polite with the default leave it.
She did not learn any bad habits and you were not frustrated. She's probably calmed down now, so you can let her go and allow people to let her snuggle on the floor.

You've also taught your friends how to train a puppy.

Ta da!

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The trouble with this is that when it comes to other people, they don't know what I do and do not want her to do, so they allow it. For example, we had a bunch of people over here last night, and she jumps up on them for attention. They immediately duck down and pet her and "ooh" and "ahh" all over her, but I don't want her to jump on people. It's not gonna be so cute when she's full-grown and jumps on a toddler. You know? And they allow her to nibble their hands, but I do not want her biting. And I don't want to be like "don't let her jump up please!" "don't let her bite please!" "get her off the couch please!" ya know? I just want her to NOT do those things to begin with.
Its harder to train the people than the dog!
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The trick here is for you to assume the role of "Grand Master Trainer of the household!"

So you meet your guests outside and let them know how you want the greeting to go with Lola. Explain to them that you want them to come in quietly, not fuss over the puppy, and in fact not even make eye contact initially. Tell them to give you a minute to get ready.

Then you go back inside and put Lola on a leash (c/t!). Then you sit on the floor with Lola and call your guests in. Ask them to pick up a handful of kibble or treats that you leave in a bowl nearby.

They come and sit on the floor in a circle. Before you let Lola greet people, explain how you want them to react. Have them work on the "default leave-it" in the kikopups channel. First you demonstrate with Lola. She is still on the leash and under your control. Once you think people understand what to do, you can walk Lola over to one person and let them do the default leave it. Go around the room one person at a time.

Now the puppy has met everyone, and also learned to be polite with the default leave it.
She did not learn any bad habits and you were not frustrated. She's probably calmed down now, so you can let her go and allow people to let her snuggle on the floor.

You've also taught your friends how to train a puppy.

Ta da!

Here is the Kikopup video

YouTube - kikopup's Channel
ditto this. planning out visits/meeting people in advance like this will also help you to relax and set lola up to succeed more and more plus, every good interaction she has with people is a huge plus for her future behavior... think of all good interactions as deposits into the bank, and every encounter where she is punished as a big withdrawal, you want to bank as many good times as you can if a human isn't playing properly with her/greeting her properly etc, it is hardly fair to punish lola for responding, better to prevent it all together (ie the leash) then allow the situation to frustrate you (people will too! omg! i have people trying to get into my large, reactive dog's face all the time)



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I have the opposite problem... Cattle dogs are often called shadow dogs or velcro dogs...I have a velcro dog... she loves other people and will gladly great them and play for a bit... then she looks over at me and its like "sorry... my mommy looks lonely" and prances over... Its super cute the look she gives, but some days its like LOOK IM 5ft AWAY GO PLAY!

My Australian Shepherds are the same way. Their "velcro" nature seems to get worse in close spaces . Wyatt, my puppy, took a long time to show any attachment at all which seemed strange to me considering Male Aussies have a tendancy to bond closely to one person. It wasn't until I started seriously working on his obedience commands that he started to show his lovey, shadow dog side. On the other hand, my female Aussie has been under my feet from day one.

I'm sure Lola will come around. Try increasing your productive one on one time, if possible. Teach her something new, food rewards do wonders
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