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Old 04-19-2013, 06:50 PM
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Postpuppy depression.... Puppy blues

So me and my boyfriend just bought the most adorable 8 week black lab puppy. We have both been previous dog owners but never owned just one dog. So puppy Training was much easier with older wiser dogs to look up to and play with.

I have read lots of training books and was so excited to mold our little puppy into the "perfect dog". So far the puppy has been great only a few accidents in the house and after 6 days of having him home he now barks at the back door if he needs to potty. Amazing I thought! He's smart, already sits before going outside coming inside and on command for the most part.

However I have been crying almost every day I feel terribly overwhelmed and like a failure. Kennel training over night is going well now over night only up every 4 hours to pee and settles quickly back to sleep after. However I am finding it to be a real challenge to leave my new puppy. I have a puppy proof area off the kitchen and he cried for over an hour while I was doing house work. I know he is able to hold his bladder for at least 2 hours. I felt terrible. I only leave him in his area when he is calm. I also didn't want to let him out of his area while he was barking... I ended up just walking through his area to the back door to let him out to pee. He then whimpered for an hour...

I am lost between house training and conditioning him to be alone for periods throughout the day. But worse I am a mess tired all the time no appetite I constantly feel a lump in my stomach and throat.

Any suggestions for leaving my puppy alone without putting him though sooo much stress? Anyone else had any feeling of "postpuppy depression"? If so when did it pass? Anything you did that made it better? He's so cute and I know he won't be small for long and I want to enjoy him!"
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Ahhhh YES I know this feeling well, nearly everyone does. Read through some of the other threads in the puppy forum. You are in near-universal company.

To help him deal with alone time, have you tried crate training him? As a bonus, it helps with housebreaking. We have lots of info on how to do crate training here! It's really awesome. You actually train your puppy to love their crate and feel safe in it, even when you're not around.

I really do think crate training will change your life. Also, of course, and as you seem to recognize, the other key is time. 8 weeks is still a baby. Give him time. And even if you are sad and mad, take TONS of pictures while he is little, as you will definitely want them later!

As for what made me feel better...well, I took lots of pictures of baby Calypso and looked at them to calm me down when I was super-frustrated (because, y'know, pictures don't whine and nip and bounce all over everywhere). I also started clicker training with her when she was very little (I got her at 10 wks), which gave us something to do besides fetch. It helped me feel better to see my little furbaby learning and enjoying herself, even though she couldn't go on walks yet because of vaccines.

...And, of course, I got on the Internet and showed off pictures of her, because other people cooing over her, too, made me feel like I was doing something right.

(The followup to all that is...PICTURES PLEASE!)
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We've almost all had our "what have I done? Why isn't this easier/more fun/the way it should have been???" days/weeks/months with our dogs. I did an entire year+ of obsessive reading before getting my adult rescue and then was horribly depressed for a few months afterwards because a) she wasn't exactly what I was hoping for and b) I thought I was failing at training. That pretty much lasted until we had our first real break-through with training - about 4 months in for me. Of course, puppies learn faster and are cuter (which helps when you're out in public), so likely the "I'm so overwhelmed" period will be shorter for you.

Look up kikopup on youtube - I've found her very helpful with things like working with separation anxiety, crate training, etc...

And remember a) your puppy, while sounding miserable, is probably a lot less stressed than you think he is (puppies are too good at getting what they want because they're so adorable and pitiful at the same time) and b) if you do make a few mistakes, it's not like your pup is going to hold it against you and be ruined forever and ever. We all make mistakes with our pups, but you can fix them later.

Also, take breaks without your puppy! I had to leave Bree by herself for short periods while I went to the park when she was a new rescue because dealing with her plethora of issues was too challenging. That let me relax so I could be more objective when she was "misbehaving".
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You're not alone in feeling the way you are. It's really overwhelming to be completely responsible for a new pup. It doesn't help that on top of being stressed you're a bit sleep deprived from having to get up with him to let him potty.

Buy some earplugs, and if you KNOW she's been fed, watered, doesn't have to potty, and is not sick or hurt, feel free to put in the earplugs and ignore her for a while. Think of it like being a new parent and you know nothing is wrong with your baby, it simply doesn't want you to put it down but you need a break so you put it in it's playpen where you know it's safe and can't get hurt, and go out on the front porch and sit out there for 10 or 15 minutes so that you can calm down. Meanwhile the baby cries for 10 minutes then get's quiet, you peek in and see that it's fallen asleep. A pup's like that, sometimes you just have to let them cry and remember that you're not doing anything wrong.
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Oh my goodness, what you are going through is so normal when you have a puppy! You might want to print this out and put it on your refrigerator...
Being a new mom is sooo difficult and you are experiencing very typical new mom emotions...worry, anxiety, overwhelming need to nurture 24/7! I used to wake my new human baby up to be sure she was ok, LOL. Be sure you get enough sleep and time for yourself, it will be better for the puppy! Crate training, our dogs LOVE going into their crate, it is their home away from home!

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I cried every day for months after getting Remy. She was a terror! It really does get so much better (Remy is now 4) my best advice is : keep calm and breathe!

You will not screw up your dog, everything will be just fine

PS check out kikopup on YouTube
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I hated Garp's puppyhood so much. Love the little turd, but COULD NOT WAIT for him to grow up. Hang in there, you'll make it through.
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Yup, I agree with everyone here. Its HARD! The most difficult thing for me and my 10 week old pup is the lack of sleep made me groggy, impatient and just darned tired all the time. I am a sleep lover so i realized i began to almost resent our little cutie pie after the first week or so. I felt awful about that!!

One thing that helped was to trade off over night duty. A few nights my partner would do the pee breaks then a few nights I would do them. This way at least one of us would get some solid sleep a few nights a week. Made a huge difference.

As for the whining - tough love is what got me through it. Plus now she absolutely LOVES her crate and wants to go in of her own volition. YAY!!
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Oh man, I'm so with you Chantal. I have a almost 13 wk old Black Lab/Collie mix that I've had since she was 9 wks. I literally had moments when I thought Tessa (avatar) was trying to kill me. She loves her crate at bed time, and is fine in it when she's left alone (I work 3-4 hours a day out of the home), but the second you pop her in her crate to take a shower she wails (more like screams bloody murder). I swear if my neighbours hadn't been warned previously, the cops would be at my door for noise violations lol.

It does get better though. Tessa has nearly doubled her weight and size, can hold her pee/poo through the night (well till 5:45), loves to learn new tricks and is now a total cuddle bug. You won't be sleep deprived for long, trust me; However your in for new adventures when your lab starts learning to jump up on the counters/tables, has the puppy Zoomies, eats nearly everything in sight (this is gets a little worse as they get older because they can reach almost EVERYTHING) and the nipping begins (trust me puppy teeth, not cool). But just around this time you'll be able to really socialize with other vaccinated dogs, and maybe take in a puppy class, which will cause massive sleepyness and amazingly long dream filled naps!

I still have moments that I wonder what the hell I was thinking, but then Tessa does something incredible sweet and I know that this is going to be the best adventure I could ever ask for; I just have to repeat the mantra "a tired Tessa is a good Tessa" Good Luck! and please post pics!
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Thanks for all the helpful tips and support. Still feeling a little blue and sleep deprived. It makes me feel better to know that eventually this will settle down. Thanks for the kikopup tip; been watching the videos. Also I was looking through the picture I have on my phone at work which actually made me miss the little terror!

Teething though man oh man. Today he bit me sooo hard I bleed any tips? I have a bully stick and kong type chew toys and even froze a wet wash cloth.... However out finger still seem more appetizing !!

Thanks again everyone really glad I found this do forum!!
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