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Old 01-14-2013, 03:07 AM
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Please tell me it won't always feel like this.

I knew a puppy would be work HARD work. But before we got Bella I convinced myself and my husband that the good parts would outweigh the bad and it would be totally worth it.

Bella is so lovely. She is a complete cuddler, sleeps all night and has pretty much got potty training nailed. So, why do I still feel overwhelmed.

I miss laying in bed on a weekend and miss walking about the house without worrying where the puppy is. I know this sounds stupid as others have such big issues. But I do feel like I'm a bit trapped. My children have just got to an age where they are a bit more independent and I have effectively given myself another baby to worry about.

Sorry, I don't meet to moan

Just reading it through it does sound a little pathetic. Please tell me it does get better.

Thanks for letting me vent.
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Old 01-14-2013, 03:29 AM
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I knew a puppy would be work HARD work. But before we got Bella I convinced myself and my husband that the good parts would outweigh the bad and it would be totally worth it.

Bella is so lovely. She is a complete cuddler, sleeps all night and has pretty much got potty training nailed. So, why do I still feel overwhelmed.

I miss laying in bed on a weekend and miss walking about the house without worrying where the puppy is. I know this sounds stupid as others have such big issues. But I do feel like I'm a bit trapped. My children have just got to an age where they are a bit more independent and I have effectively given myself another baby to worry about.

Sorry, I don't meet to moan

Just reading it through it does sound a little pathetic. Please tell me it does get better.

Thanks for letting me vent.
Hi I think its a little like having grandchildren,its fine for a little while,but you are always glad to hand them back, With puppies they grow up so quick within a blink of the eye, and if you look when a puppy is a year old,they are actually in human terms 7, and just enjoy,take pleasure in the goofy things they do,take pictures and have as many happy memories as you can puppyhood is so short.gemini
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Old 01-14-2013, 03:40 AM
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Thank you. I think you are right. I just miss my old life a bit. Don't get me wrong I have three children so I know what's its like, suddenly you look back and think wow where did all the time go. It just feels intense when you are in the middle of it.
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Oh man, when we first adopted Kasper, we struggled so bad!!

We couldn't leave him because he had bad SA, he had no basic training, he was hyper, had fear issues, I could go on...it was such a HUGE change and so overwhelming. Our whole life changed, and in the first month or so we struggled A LOT, and wondered if we had made a huge mistake. We couldn't go out anymore, have friends over, there's the commitment of walking, training etc. Since then I have learned this is a completely normal reaction when a new dog / puppy is brought home!!

At some point it got easier and easier, and now we look back on those fidst difficult days and laugh! We wouldn't have our life any other way...

I think its important to take it one day at a time, and try focus on the good things...sounds silly, but it is working for us

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It gets better really quickly. She'll be a grown dog before you know it.

Enjoy the puppy stages as they don't last long.
That skunky puppy breath and those popcorn toes are temporary!

Vicky, you must be relatively young... at age 50, for me year goes by very fast.
A puppy is only a little puppy for a few months. She'll be a different dog by this summer.

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It's perfectly normal and doesn't sound pathetic at all. It won't last forever either. Enjoy her!
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Aww...I remember sleeping in my winter boots and coat so I could wake up to take Beta out at 2am....it will get so much easier....and yep...your life has changed dramatically...What will be wonderful is when your children are all doing their stuff outside the house...you will have a companion to keep you happy and cuddly!
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It's perfectly normal and doesn't sound pathetic at all. It won't last forever either. Enjoy her!
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I agree with this statement! I didn't find this awesome board until Penny was a teen (in dog terms), but I talked to a service dog breeder shortly after we brought Penny home. I told her "We want another dog eventually, but no more puppies!!!" and she told me to enjoy it because puppyhood goes by so fast. Penny just turned 1 today, and over the past two months, I've been looking at her puppy photos like a loser, remembering how sleepy she used to be, missing all that soft fur, and wishing I had video recorded more of those "firsts".

But after a particularly naughty day, I remember how tired I was those first few weeks and am glad I have a nearly full grown dog.

You're certainly not alone though. All puppy owners, new or experienced, feel this way at one time or another (or many times in my case). It's amazing how much this little furball takes you away from social interaction, and how you wish you could put them in a baby sling just so you can do some chores! But remember this--if you weren't this tired, then you probably aren't doing it right.
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When I first brought Mozart home, I spent most of the first week just sitting around the house crying because it was all so frustrating. And that was with a six-week-old little potato of a dog who couldn't even escape up the stairs.

I think a lot of people have to deal with some of that "post-partum" type of stuff (for lack of a better word) when they bring home a new puppy or dog. You don't realize how set into your routine you really are until someone or something new comes in and disrupts it, and that disruption can hit you like a ton of bricks, even if it was all planned.
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Thank you. I think you are right. I just miss my old life a bit. Don't get me wrong I have three children so I know what's its like, suddenly you look back and think wow where did all the time go. It just feels intense when you are in the middle of it.
over here we call it empty nest syndrome, but with dogs they are mostly the perfect companion,sit back and enjoy there antics gemini
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