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Old 12-07-2015, 09:17 PM
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Hey all! I literally just made this account after being inspired by other people posting about their puppy blues. I honestly, just need people to talk to people who are in similar situations or have been in similar situations. Also, this is the first time in a week where I have gotten some time to myself to just sit down and be on the computer for fun
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My name is Jackie and my husband and I recently bought a male english bulldog 4 month old puppy about a week ago. We named him Watson and he is seriously the cutest thing ever. He was not rescued and I know I'm going to get some judgment from that. I have never had a dog in my entire life let alone a puppy. I actually used to be allergic to dogs as a kid but grew out of them as an adult. Having a dog is something I have always wanted and i always envied my friends who had them. When my husband and I started talking about getting one it was very exciting to me and I was all for it. It was mainly his decision to buy this breed because he thinks they're adorable and funny (which they are.) Although I agreed with him, I was definitely aware of all the health problems they have prior to getting him. I can learn to live with this health problems though. It's mainly the puppy phase that he's in right now that's getting to me.

The main reason why I'm posting on here is because I feel ashamed and guilty for sometimes being annoyed by my pup. Sometimes I feel like I'm a horrible pet owner and have actually cried about it when i get so annoyed with him.
Prior to owning Watson I would come home from school, relax, do my thing, not worry about cleaning up messes, etc. Oh and did I mention that i have horrible OCD when it comes to cleanliness? yeah...i'm gonna have to get used to the messy bulldog personality as well. I think I'm just freaking out because my life kind of changed over night. My days are consisted with stopping him from chewing on things, taking him outside to go potty every 2-3 hours (We live upstairs in an apt. building and i have to carry him to go potty because he's too scared to go down them himself), trying my best to get him to learn his name, cleaning up any pee pee accidents, feeding him, making sure he's happy, etc. On top of doing this my husband is at work most of the time AND I have to study for finals. This past week I have missed so many classes because i have to be at home with Watson. I'm just stressing out so much and now i'm sure i'm coming down with a cold. Sigh.

I love my new puppy soooo much and i am very grateful to own such a beautiful and sweet dog. He rarely barks and I have not witnessed him being aggressive once, but damn this is hard work. Any advice is welcome and just to talk in general!
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Old 12-07-2015, 09:57 PM
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You won't get judgment here about buying instead of rescuing. We're not that sort of forum, people here have bought and even breed!

It's normal to get annoyed with a puppy. Being cute and young doesn't suddenly change our emotions any. Even parents get annoyed at their babies crying and being babies! He'll grow out of chewing on inappropriate things with the right training, and slowly extend his potty breaks.

Don't feel you can't leave your puppy for a few hours to attend your classes. Quite bluntly many happy dogs are raised by people who are gone eight or more hours a day and they don't really suffer for it. Just close your little anklebiter in somewhere he can't get into trouble, like a cleaned up bathroom with nothing but toys to chew, with a light on and some music playing and he will be okay.

I got to experience the uh, joy, of raising a puppy through my own finals. It's doable, it's also important to remember that a week or two of having to be by himself a bit more while you solidify your LIFETIME education, will not in any lasting way hamper your puppy. Housebreaking might take a touch longer but some dogs take months and months anyway even with people around all day.
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Old 12-08-2015, 09:48 AM
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Oh, yes, this is very common!

I'm going through finals myself. Is there any way you could find a dog walker or friend to leave your puppy with for a couple of hours, maybe so you could peacefully hit the library and study? I know it's a stressful time but you'll have more time to enjoy your puppy on the other side of it!

I've gone through the puppy blues with every single puppy, but it was especially bad with my last one. You mainly just have to hang on and trust it will get better, because it will. In the meantime, take care of yourself and take lots of pictures - this time will pass quickly!

If you haven't considered a puppy class, that may be an option too. It would be good for both you and your dog, and having people fawn over your puppy and rain down compliments will make you feel better about him.
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The puppy blues is extremely common, it happens to the best of us! While I have never had to juggle working/school with taking care of a puppy, as I am a SAHM, it still isn't easy even when you are home most of the time.

I honestly found taking care of a puppy, especially a very young one, was much harder than having a newborn in the house. But as with everything it too shall pass.

I remember when I first got my boy, I was constantly fantasizing about returning him to the breeder, it just felt so overwhelming having to care for a very energetic, biting, pooping and peeing machine - and my boy was actually a quick learner when it came to house training, except for the fact, he had diarrhea for the first week he was home, due to the fact I was giving him dried liver as treats, once I stopped that things improved dramatically.


So, be gentle on yourself, adjusting to life with a puppy can be challenging, but soon you will bond with him and get to the point where you can't imagine how you could have ever lived without him. They give back way much more than you can ever extend to them.
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Thank you so much for your positive reply! I feel encouraged, as I have been reading articles that make it seem like I shouldn't be gone for more than a couple of hours. I felt so guilty about going grocery shopping for the first few weeks I had my dog.
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You are not a bad person. You are just overwhelmed, and I don't think that means that you are doing anything wrong. Life is just overwhelming, and finals time(s) are always a bit more stressful than other times.
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OMG sorry for the lateish reply! I just wanted to say to you all THANK YOU SO MUCH for all of your advice and just for replying in general! I greatly appreciate it. Let's just say I have been having a much easier time this week and on Sunday it will be two weeks that I have had him! He is learning his name AND he is able to climb up the stairs in my apartment now so i don't have to pick him up each time!!!
Everyday he is learning something knew and he is catching on to commands...the chewing is still a problem but I have learned to relax and not go too insane. He's a puppy...they chew. I have been buying him a few different toys and when he chews on his toys i give him a little reward.

We are slowly bonding and I am so happy for that <3
Again, I know for a fact that you guys helped me get through these past couple of days. Every time i was getting down or frustrated I would just come back to read your guys posts.

Thanks again <3
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