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Old 08-05-2014, 01:05 AM
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i've resolved the landlord restriction issue

i have given my notice to move out at end of 30 days ... i'm moving now into a condo i plan to purchase! it has lots of grass areas for the puppy to play in! and lots of dogs were out when i took her! at the moment, she is only on her 2nd round of shots, and has two more to go. until then, vet has recommended that she not be around other dogs ... so i'm following that ...

at my present apt community ... she met EVERYONE ... and everyone loved her! and she, being taught to be loving, loved them excitedly back!

my room mate is switching schedules to work nights ... so he will be able to spend time with her during the day while i work, and i at night ... that was awesome! ...

i will read section on socialization and greatly appreciate any pointers .. like i said, i'm brand new to "puppydom" but i'm doing the best that i can .... she has calmed down a lot at seeing me frequently and often! i made sure to return more frequently all day today ...

i should add, i own my own business and therefore have great flexibility over my schedule ... i just DO need to put the hours in to obtain my financial objectives ... but i figured, exactly that ... other people, including this family's relatives live in apts and make it work ... if it means she will be happy i'm taking steps to do my part ...

i'm still taking her to family later this week .. i want to see her reaction to them ... like i said .. she has yet to "meet a stranger" excitedness with all people she has met before ... if she does not exhibit that with them, it will be the very first time and very telling ..

i'm going to allow her to direct this ... and taking steps on my part to accommodate her needs if she chooses to stay with me

i should add, that today ... she peed on comforter again ... went outside several more times than normal and at each outing peed or attempted to pee no less than 4 times! instead of her usual once! .... she also refused to eat much until just a few hours ago ... and now i'm concerned that she might be ill (as i said they DO have other dog she played with ... although they said he had all his shots! ... or perhaps stress?

made appt with her vet to rule out physical ailment for tomorrow!
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Old 08-05-2014, 01:13 AM
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interaction with vet and people

oh, and my puppy loves her vet ... the vet remarked on how calm she is .. despite the temperature thing in the rear and checking of stool again in same area! she was as sweet and friendly and excited as she is with all people she meets .. the only thing that caused her slight concern was other dogs barking ... but i did as i always do ... gently told her "stay" which has her sit ( i told you i'm not great at the proper commands thing) and put my hand at base of neck gently reassuring her "its ok baby" petting her and kissing the top of her head and calming her til her heart stopped beating fast ... she never even barked ... she's never barked at anyone! ... except me, to indicate she need to relieve herself (i finally figured that out! since that is the only time she barks) ...

a dog whisperer told me, i'm a natural ... and she feels very safe and loved with me .. i don't know ... i just do what comes to me instinctively ... i don't like her being scared so i have always been right the to reassure her and make her feel 'safe'

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i'm still taking her to family later this week .. i want to see her reaction to them ... like i said .. she has yet to "meet a stranger" excitedness with all people she has met before ... if she does not exhibit that with them, it will be the very first time and very telling ..

i'm going to allow her to direct this ... and taking steps on my part to accommodate her needs if she chooses to stay with me
If you plan on keeping her it's not fair to get this family's hopes up. And I wouldn't let a puppy make its own life decisions. No one can tell you what to do and you seem dead set on keeping this puppy. Just read the stickies, talk to your landlord about the upcoming 30 days to make sure you can have her during that period of time and seriously and objectively weight the pros and cons. Try to think only of what's best for her in the long run and leave her (and your) feelings out of it.

Also, anyone calling themselves "dog whisperer" is to be approached with a critical mind. Not to say you're not a natural (I've not met you or your dog so I have no idea), just maybe don't train with this person...

Good luck!
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Old 08-05-2014, 09:57 AM
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Ditto. Really you need to make the decision to keep her (if your new place will actually allow a bully mix) or give her to the family.

Someone is going to get hurt regardless of your decision. It's not fair to anyone, pup included, to draw the process out. If you continue on the way you are you're only going to be letting the family get attached and then devastate them if you decide to keep this pup.

Something else that commonly happens when rehoming is drawn out like this, is that the family eventually backs out realizing that it's not worth it and get a different pup. If this happens and you need to rehome this puppy then you're going to have to work at finding a different home. And the older this puppy gets the lower her chances at finding a forever home...
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Old 08-05-2014, 11:43 PM
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update! looks like baby Stella is going to go to new home after all!

the family's mother got very sick and they are probably going to have to move her and not take Stella! but the neighbor downstairs's brother and his girlfriend who have known and loved Stella and played with her since she was 4 weeks old want her!

They've been actively searching for a puppy! They are young and don't have any children, so I feel that she would be the center of their attention! And she feels and looks happy with them!

And honestly, that's what I wanted! Someone to love her as much as I do! And if I couldn't find that for her, I wasn't going to have that taken away! They also live close by and said I can visit!

I would love that! I feel really good about her getting the attention she needs and that she would adapt quickly! Plus, she loves his brother already! He also wanted her and has said often "I love that dog!" but has small little girl and baby! And just didn't feel she'd get the attention she is used to ...

I also, just sometimes "feel" stuff and go with my gut feelings! My gut feeling is that this would really work for her! It may be answered prayer! So I'm going to give it a shot! ALL I want is for Stella to be happy!

And ha! ha! about "dog whisperer"! ... I actually know this woman from another organization I have been heavily involved with, and her instincts with humans (in my perception) have been way off .. (the organization IS about people ... so ... ) BUT she DID nurse her dog who had fatal condition back to health, is an author on dog book from that and felt that what she lacked in human interaction she made up in dog interaction! She definitely loves dogs! And until Stella came into my life, I had no idea how beautiful and rewarding that could be!

please pray (or intend or just send good thoughts) that Baby Stella will have a home where she is cared for and loved and happy forever! I hope this is it!

Otherwise, you all are darned right! I AM intent on keeping her! ~ pfffft!

I didn't give my little princess all this love for her to just be thrown by the wayside! and I feel happy inside for her!

I'm not feeling the sad and morose thing ...
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I am glad to hear that you are having a better reaction to these new people. I hope everything works out for your pup.
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so far it is working out well! we are taking it slow with 2 hour visits and Stella is adjusting just fine! ... i think we may have found her forever home! AND she is NOT feeling abandoned!
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