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Old 10-11-2011, 06:00 AM
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my first puppy is making me overwhelmed

First of all he is the easiest puppy.. I got him Sat night and he is house trained already (well I know they have to have no accidents for 4 weeks but he knows that he poops and pees outside, as soon as I take him out he tries at least. He is crate trained (though he did cry this morning at 4 am cause I got up to go to the BR.. and went back to bed) He plays with the kids and rests too.. he is starting to get the hang of the leash.

I am 30 this is my first dog ever.. I did TONS of research before I said ok to my husband and 3 kids who were begging for a dog.. I researched the work load, the breeds.. decided on a cavalier king charles spaniel.. learned what to ask the breeder to make sure she was ethical and reputable.. asked my aunt who is the president of all paws rescue to help me and to tell me more about having a puppy.

Finally we did it. and he is a great puppy.. even last night one of my cats (they are having a hard time with it) came out and was ok around him, and sat with us while the puppy was in the room, for a while. he ran when she hissed and knew his boundries) the other one who has been worse came closer to walking in the room too.

But even with the great puppy thing.. I feel so overwhelmed. my husband who swore he knew dogs, (owned 3 before) is acting clueless.. the two dog things I asked him to help me with he screwed up.. (didn't take him out when I asked him to, and I got to clean up the poop and over fed him this morning and I got to clean the puke) The kids keep him busy so it is not a lot of work for me play wise.. I just run him out to go potty, supervise and feed him basically lol.

I just have that sick lost appetite what the heck did I get myself into feeling. I want to be happy and thrilled with him, but instead I worry constantly that I Am going to do something wrong, or he will get sick, or what ever. He starts puppy class the 18th. my 3 year old is coming along, now I Am worried that having him there is going to just make it super distracting. (I do not have a sitter)

Then a woman told me yesterday when my daughter was at dance class, that I will probably feel overwhelmed like this for 18 more months.. I thought it would just last for a week or two.. am I really going to be so overwhelmed like this for that long?

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First of all he is the easiest puppy.. I got him Sat night and he is house trained already (well I know they have to have no accidents for 4 weeks but he knows that he poops and pees outside, as soon as I take him out he tries at least. He is crate trained (though he did cry this morning at 4 am cause I got up to go to the BR.. and went back to bed) He plays with the kids and rests too.. he is starting to get the hang of the leash.

I am 30 this is my first dog ever.. I did TONS of research before I said ok to my husband and 3 kids who were begging for a dog.. I researched the work load, the breeds.. decided on a cavalier king charles spaniel.. learned what to ask the breeder to make sure she was ethical and reputable.. asked my aunt who is the president of all paws rescue to help me and to tell me more about having a puppy.

Finally we did it. and he is a great puppy.. even last night one of my cats (they are having a hard time with it) came out and was ok around him, and sat with us while the puppy was in the room, for a while. he ran when she hissed and knew his boundries) the other one who has been worse came closer to walking in the room too.

But even with the great puppy thing.. I feel so overwhelmed. my husband who swore he knew dogs, (owned 3 before) is acting clueless.. the two dog things I asked him to help me with he screwed up.. (didn't take him out when I asked him to, and I got to clean up the poop and over fed him this morning and I got to clean the puke) The kids keep him busy so it is not a lot of work for me play wise.. I just run him out to go potty, supervise and feed him basically lol.

I just have that sick lost appetite what the heck did I get myself into feeling. I want to be happy and thrilled with him, but instead I worry constantly that I Am going to do something wrong, or he will get sick, or what ever. He starts puppy class the 18th. my 3 year old is coming along, now I Am worried that having him there is going to just make it super distracting. (I do not have a sitter)

Then a woman told me yesterday when my daughter was at dance class, that I will probably feel overwhelmed like this for 18 more months.. I thought it would just last for a week or two.. am I really going to be so overwhelmed like this for that long?
Also should I be using a harness for him? I have a collar and leash combo now, I feel like the harness might be better for leash training him.
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Hiya Meg.

I SO understand where you're coming from. It IS overwhelming. Our pup is about 6 months old but we've only had him for 3 weeks and it's a huge responsibility. I feel very similar to how I did when the kids were at the crawling/climbing stage - ie couldn't look away for a second, weight of responsibility on my shoulders, scared of getting it wrong, with the added worry about mouthing and him possibly hurting the kids by accident, so it's even more full on in some ways.

Have you told your husband how you feel?

I just realised you have a 3 year old. That's a whole huge job in itself. (Our youngest is 4 and it's getting a whole lot easier now.) No wonder you're a bit overwhelmed.

I don't know how long it lasts, but I do know that 3 weeks on I'm getting into more of a routine, learning his ways and beginning to relax a little bit. And I'm certainly finding that there is more fun than worry already.
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Re the harness/lead, I don't know at what age harnesses are recommended, but I like ours. The lead clips at the front, so he can't pull without turning towards me. Ours is a halti harness, but I think the gentle leader ones look better.
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Feeling overwhelmed is not uncommon. I still feel very stressed everytime we add a new dog. Honestly I think that many of the best dog owners often feel this way no matter how experienced they are.

I know it is easier said than done, but just relax and enjoy your puppy! They grow up so fast! Enjoy every moment you can because before you know it he will be all grown up!

Also, it sounds like you have are on the right track with him.
It's fantastic that housetraining is going well and that he is doing well with your kids! I am also really glad that you are going to take classes with him. You will learn how to train your pup and the trainer will be there to give you the help you need. Plus classes are a great way to socialize your puppy in a safe environment and will help to create a strong bond between you and the puppy!

As far as a collar vs a harness, it is up to you. Many people tend to use harnesses on small dogs. My pekes wear harnesses when out, while my Min Pin wears either a martingale or a harness depending on where we are going.
This thread has a ton of great info all about loose leash walking, including training tips, videos, and info about harnesses. I thought it might help you out!
https://www.dogforum.com/dog-training...-walking-1683/
Please feel free to take a look around the forum. There is a ton of really helpful information here and we have many members who are always happy to help!

And please share some photos of your little guy!

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awh bless you! i was EXACTLY the same and i dont have kids too! i cried for the 1st 2 weeks of having Sookie and was about to take her back to where we bought her! my partner had to tell me "no, she's our responsibility now so deal with it!". that was 5.5 months ago... now i would be lost without her!

seriously, it gets easier! i remember a friend telling me (when i got sookie and couldnt stop crying) that she hated her puppy for the 1st month, now she wont be parted with her.

i dont know whether its the whole maternal hormones/ overwhelming reality check/ reponsibility thing. My partner never really liked the dog until she started playing fetch with him, whereas once i got over the crying stage, i became fiercely attached to her.

with the puppy classes, they do tend to feel a bit hectic so you might want your little one to bring a colouring book or something to sit in the corner and keep them occupied, as it can be a bit dull for them.

I find men can sometimes be useless when they are overwhelmed or dont know where to start... your husband, I'm sure, will start to do his fair share once you have a routine in place and he knows what he's doing.

but hang on in there, its so worth it and as they get older they sort of fit into your life more easily, if that makes sense.

also, i would suggest a harness, as it seems to be more comfortable for their little necks!

also... pictures!!!!
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Thanks so much, Bentley went to the vet today and I felt so much better after bringing him and knowing that he is doing fine, and that he is healthy.. ect.. Also I talked to one of the techs who is going through the exact same thing with her kids and a new boxer puppy (she wanted a cavalier spaniel too though she said lol)

only thing I am worried about is my 3 year old at puppy class. I am going to look into a few more places and see if I can find a class that is on weekends instead for him so that I don't ahve to bring kids along.. I can still get my money back at petco class till the day we start.
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also it is like post partum when you first have a baby the first week and you are like what the heck did I get myself into? that is how it feels right now.
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Thanks so much, Bentley went to the vet today and I felt so much better after bringing him and knowing that he is doing fine, and that he is healthy.. ect.. Also I talked to one of the techs who is going through the exact same thing with her kids and a new boxer puppy (she wanted a cavalier spaniel too though she said lol)

only thing I am worried about is my 3 year old at puppy class. I am going to look into a few more places and see if I can find a class that is on weekends instead for him so that I don't ahve to bring kids along.. I can still get my money back at petco class till the day we start.
Ok so far the other dog trainers are a lot lot more money than what I paid at petco lol.. maybe we will ahve to see how next tues goes.
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