Originally Posted by Lostpuppyowner
Ok, sorry I asked for help and stated my frustration. I am taking alot what you have said to heart and refocusing my efforts.
I will NOT however be rehoming her. And I would like that suggestion to be removed from the table as what it is increasingly sounding like the only choice I have according to you people.
Its great that you are committed to keeping her.
So now you have loads of suggestions on how to work through all these troublesome puppy issues. The only thing I have to add is the thought that the more time you put in early on, the faster things get easier.
House training is the perfect example of that. It really only takes a couple of weeks to house train a puppy if you work at it very intensively based on the two important principles: PREVENTION of accidents through confinement/supervision, and REWARD for pottying outside with a treat given within 2 seconds of her action. One suggestion I have for folks is to "keep score" to measure your progress. Put a penny in a jar for each Rewarded success of potty outside. Take 5 pennies out of the jar for each Accident inside. Your goal is to save 2 to 3 dollars.
It takes that sort of number of repetitions for the puppy to get the HABIT of house training. (Where to pee is not a "revelation" or "understanding" for a puppy... it is a habit.) So you can see that if you work very diligently on this project for a couple of weeks, you'll get to your goal, but if you have a looser routine, with more accidents, the house training could drag on for weeks, because the "accidents" set you back so much. The 5 to 1 ratio is really useful as a measure for how it works in a little puppy's brain.
Hope some of that helps.
We really are on your side with all this, and are here to help!
We wish there were easier answers to puppy raising issues, but in fact they are just a darn lot of work for a while, just like human kids! But in the end, you have a lovely adult dog.
To the extent you can let go of your former expectations of how this was all going to go, I think that will help ease your mind. There is some saying out there a friend told me once about like this "The roots of all suffering is the difference between expectation and reality."
I have two dogs, neither of whom was what I was hoping for in many ways. Our male is reactive to other dogs and not comfortable with strangers. I cannot leave him with a dog sitter or in a kennel. He has such high prey drive there are times it is very problematic. For example, the other day the cats brought a live chipmunk into the house and in pursuit of the chipmunk, the dog totally destroyed a bookshelf, to the extent I had to rebuild it. Our female is also reactive to other dogs, and quite hyper and she also has some health issues. I had to get over the disappointment with each of them that they were not the friendly, relaxed, totally healthy setters I had, had for the last two dogs. Once I accepted them for who they are, and started to enjoy their positive traits, my life got a lot better.
Anyway, It is clear you have the best of intentions so I wish you the best as you raise this puppy. If you would like any book recommends just let us know.... if you are an avid reader.