Originally Posted by pkelley
Maybe it's fear biting due to another dog biting him??? Rule out medical first of course....
The day care guy (Tyler) made it pretty clear Cobber was the problem. It seems this happens when he's on their couch (for example) and another dog comes up and nudges Cobber to play, Cobber will lash out and bite. Or if Cobber's sitting by the side of one of the staff and a dog comes up, Cobber lashes out and bites. It sounds bad, and I don't blame the staff for suggesting maybe this won't work out. I can't even believe it's my dog they're talking about. This is not the sweetheart who's lying next to me right now - he's never lashed out at anything before that I've seen, and he has lots of dog friends here in the neighborhood, always gets totally worked up when he sees them, but just wants to play.
Part of what I'm dealing with tonight is the feeling of being totally blindsided since the day care staff have never said one word to me about anything like this before, and now it just sounds like Cobber's horrid. Tyler tried to give Cobber a cookie while we were standing there talking, and Cobber wouldn't take it -- I've never seen that happen before.
I need to apologize, first I disappeared off this forum awhile ago after someone didn't like one of my posts, so I'm coming back with my tail between my legs cuz I'm at a loss right now and need some advice.
And I also tend to be the type of person who likes to have a plan, wants things to go as planned, and gets really out of joint when the plan falls apart. Hence my reaction tonight. Doggy Day Care was just going to be what Cobber did during the day because (I thought) he loved it and they loved him. Now I'm suddenly having to rethink everything, and I'm not entirely sure what to do about it.
Best thing is to not have a knee-jerk reaction (I'm really good at those) like never going back there again! But Tyler did suggest maybe not 5 days a week. So next week I'll see if maybe every other day is better. Maybe if Cobber spends Tue and Thu here in a crate all day, he'll better appreciate the M-W-F when he's at the day care.
Or maybe it really is time for him to just become a house dog. But since he just got to the point with housebreaking where he hasn't had an accident in a couple months (tops), I'm not at all comfortable with just leaving him here alone all day to get into god knows what
and probably have a few accidents, too.
That leaves crating, which I was trying to avoid for all-day situations. I don't live that near where I work and where the doggy day care is, so that makes it easy to drop him off before work and pick him up after, but it makes coming home mid-day to let him out a real problem. Of course, I could hire a dog walker to stop by once a day for less than the cost of a day at the day care... so that's another option I guess.
I just wish I understood what brought all this about. Is is possible Cobber's just not particularly happy there anymore now that he's a year old? Just tonight he was playing with me and chasing a toy like he was still a puppy. And when I drop him off at the day care every morning, he's so happy to be there, he runs to the door and greets the owner like he hasn't seen her in months.
Sorry, long-winded, I'm feeling very sad and just trying to process this whole situation...