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Old 11-07-2014, 03:34 AM
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10 Month Old Labrador Puppy Hates Me

I am trying to determine whether my 10 month old Lab hates me.

It's not really bad behavior that she's representing. She's not biting me or anything like that.

It's just the way she reacts to me.

Her mother, my sister, when she calls her "come here Lady" she comes over bouncy and wiggles her but.

Everyone else she gets super super excited.

With me, she wags her tail, but usually doesn't do anything other than that.

She just sorta doesn't seem interested in me at all.
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Old 11-07-2014, 07:27 AM
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Have you compared your body language to that of others she's reacted well to? If you are staring her directly in the eyes she might be reading you as being unfriendly even though you're not (in human terms).
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Old 11-07-2014, 07:33 AM
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Some dogs naturally bond to some people; there isn't always a reason. It's not that they don't like a particular person, more that they like a person but love another person.

It's also possible that you're unintentionally doing something that makes her uncomfortable, as ScaredyScarlet mentioned. How do you generally interact with her? Do you do any training? What type? Do you play? Go for walks?

My dogs are often more animated with my husband, but that's because he's more animated with them. He'll roll around on the floor, rough house, and generally be more fun. I'm more reserved and calm, and that's reflected in their interactions with me. Well mostly, the puppy launches himself at me when given the opportunity.
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I feel your concern! I have thought the same thing about Cobber, especially when I see him go totally full-body-wiggle bonkers for the lady who runs the day care he goes to. He LOVES her He accepts me. The only time he ever wags his tail and acts happy to see me is when I arrive home at the end of a day when he's been home alone all afternoon. I suspect he'd be happy to see some total stranger at that point - LOL!

But just when I start taking it all personally, he'll do something to let me know he actually does enjoy my company, like almost purring when I scratch his tummy or giving me a kiss when I'm putting on his harness or best of all coming over to me on the couch and cuddling up (he's a very non-cuddle dog most of the time).

So yeah, sometimes I wonder if he'd really care all that much if I let him trot off with a new person, but then I see that he relies on me and enjoys being with me even if he doesn't consider me the funnest person he knows (that will always be the day care lady).

I think you'll find as your dog grows older that more and more of a bond will develop.
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Are you a male? If yes, that may be why. Men tend to have deeper voices and can sometimes come across as intimidating to a dog. Men also tend to have stiffer body language when interacting with dogs. Note what you look like from her perspective to help you understand her reluctance to interact with you. You may ask someone to observe you and how you interact with her. Often another person will notice something you're not aware of.

Try rewarding her with super yummy treats every single time she comes to you or even looks at you. If she never comes to you, for any reason you have to think about what may be causing that. Do you play with her? Do you feed her her meals? Do you do fun training with her? All of these things will create positive associations in her mind.

Do you scold her for any reason? This can cause a dog to make a negative association.

How long have you had her?
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Nemo is actually my sister and my dog together. We went half on his vet bills, food, and purchasing costs. He is, however, 100% my dog. He pays little to no attention to her. I feel bad about it, but I'm the source of food and I give him a lot of undivided attention. I take him to the park, which she's never done. Just be more fun than your sister. You'll bond and it'll even out.
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Well my sister is often at work, but she loves my sister. So I babysit her, I take Lady out for walks, I feed her, give her water, I play with her, I trained her alongside my sister. She listens to me, she just never excitedable with me like she is with other people.

Like when I want to get her excited like my sister gets her excited, she kind of wags her tail and then goes back to whatever.

She does come when I call her. But she's just not generally as excited to do so.

We've had her for 3 months now.

The only time she gets in trouble is for the same things my sister gets her in trouble.

She isn't allowed in the kitchen or on the bed. So you tell her a strong worded No and Down.
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Are you the only one who does this? Or, as Grabby asked, are you male? A strong word from a man can be much more frightening to a pup than a strong word from a female. Even if others use firm tones with her, you may want to stop (work on preventing access to off-limit areas and training a "place" cue) to see if that helps. There might be something about you that she is uncomfortable about and being firm is only making it worse.
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Are you the only one who does this? Or, as Grabby asked, are you male? A strong word from a man can be much more frightening to a pup than a strong word from a female. Even if others use firm tones with her, you may want to stop (work on preventing access to off-limit areas and training a "place" cue) to see if that helps. There might be something about you that she is uncomfortable about and being firm is only making it worse.
Oh I forgot to answer that. Lol.

Yes, I am male.

I didn't think she'd be that affected by it. I have actually a lighter voice than other male guys.
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Still could be the whole package: deeper voice, bigger body, more intimidating presence. Even if you're generally softer-spoken, smaller, and less intimidating than other men, you may be more threatening and looming compared to your sister. I don't know how much interaction she has with people outside your family, but she's probably not comparing you to The Terminator, she's comparing you to the other people she sees most often.
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