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Old 06-01-2014, 08:19 AM
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Hi, My toy poodle is 4 months old. I have had him for three weeks. He is very timid, and nervous with loud sounds. I live alone so in my home very calm which TJ has adapted well to. He loves his bed. Very well behaved when just TJ and I. Two of my friends constantly try to get him going and are loud. I have told them repeatedly to please respect my rules on how to behave around TJ but they refuse to listen. Any advice on how to deal with this would be appreciated. My TJ is cute smart and funny and responds very well to a structured day. Very playfull, loves to fetch and loves to cuddle. Thanks
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I would put him in another room when your friends come over so they don't bother him.
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Thank you. I have tried that. After we have played outside TJ gets tired and once inside he waits before going into his bed to sleep, for his treat. If they come over when he is sleeping (even if I have him in another room), they immediately go and wake him up and startle him which really upsets him. I was thinking that I should tell them that they can't come over when he is sleeping if they are going to continue to do this. My vet previously suggested I do this, at least until TJ is well accustomed to his new home. Your suggestion was a very good one. Thank you. What kind of dog do you have?
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Another great idea. I probably should get new friends. Just a beginner on this Dog Forum. Not really sure how it works, and definitely not a computer whiz!
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Yeah, you need to be VERY FIRM with these people. I wouldn't tolerate that behaviour even with a non-nervous dog. Give them the house rules, and if they refuse to listen, tell them you'll see them later and get them to leave. It's your dog, your house, and these people are being super rude. It's ok to get mad at rude people! And it's great that you want to protect TJ from their inappropriate behaviour
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Another great idea. I probably should get new friends. Just a beginner on this Dog Forum. Not really sure how it works, and definitely not a computer whiz!

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Seriously, we've got to be an advocate for our dogs. It's not easy speaking up forcefully to friends but it's sometimes necessary.

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Welcome to the forum more poodle people yay! Im saving for a toy poodle pictures please.

As for your friends you are the only advocate and protector of your dog and you need to be firm. Explain that this is TJs home imagine if you were asleep in your bed and some random persons comes in and starts to being loud and scary. This is worst case scenario but most dogs that bite do so out of fear if TJ bites you are liable, if his nervousness gets worse you are the one who has to deal with it not your friends.

I don't think your friends truly understand the seriousness of this or are capable of emphasising with little TJ. Probably think it's just innocent fun but it's not and you need to be working on getting TJ comfortable in his new home and be more confident and he needs lots of socialisation, good experiences with other people and dogs so he can grow up into a confident and lovely adult poodle.

Its vital that your friends either back of or are not allowed near TJ at all.
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