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Old 12-08-2012, 08:44 AM
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Adopted a golden retriever - former owner wants him back

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We are new to the forum but not new to pet ownership. We had a golden retriever for 14 years, lost her due to old age and have had a void in our lives since. Last weekend we adopted a golden retriever from a family who had to downsize their lives. They explained to us that they had moved from a larger place to a small two bedroom house/apartment. The former owner said two adults, two children and two golden retrievers, one male and one female, were too much for their small place. They had given it much thought and decided the male needed to be adopted out. He could not even turn around in any of their rooms without bumping both his nose and his bum.
I told them about our home, yard size, ability to take him out of the city and how much love he would receive from us and our three boys. I asked them repeatedly if they were sure, if they had discussed this situation with their children and gave them 4-5 times per conversation and meeting to change their minds. They continued to assure us this was the right decision for the dog.
We went to meet this beautiful boy and our family fell in love with him immediately. While we were there, we asked again if they were sure. The husband indicated yes so off we went. He has settled into our routine, hearts and lives without a hitch.
Our problem is now the former owners have contacted us and want him back, citing that their children have not stopped crying for their former dog. Our issue is we know he has much more space to live, is not showing any signs of "missing" the former family and seems quite happy here. Adopting a pet was not a decision we took lightly and have met a few other dogs while searching for the right dog. We found him in this fellow and do not want to give him up.
What to do???
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Old 12-08-2012, 08:56 AM
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I should clarify, we are not prepared to give him up as he is deeply embedded in our lives and our hearts. We are also his third family and he is only one year old. Our feeling is that his boy needs stability and a family who will do everything in their power to give him a good life. We are committed to being that family.
Thanks in advance for your thoughts and feedback,
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Old 12-08-2012, 09:00 AM
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Welcome to the forum.
How many days have you had him? Some states have it if you have fed and cared for a dog for 72 hours it becomes your responsibility.
Though possession in some states in 9-10th of the law. Without a written contract you may have to give him back. I am sorry for all of you. You could try and stall saying you can not bring him back till ? due to schedule to give the children more time to get use to him being gone. Again I am sorry you are having to go through this.
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He has been with us since last Sunday.
Also they didn't just give him to us, we bought him from them. Does that make a difference?
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He is yours now bought and paid for.
I would not give him back they should have thought about this before selling him.
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Yep, he's yours. Don't give him back. What if they were to change their minds again? It's their fault for giving him up in the first place. I've had to rehome dogs before. Never would I ever try to take a dog back from a place where he is loved and well cared for.
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bought and paid for. He is yours, tell them nicely, please do not call anymore.
Did they sign papers for you?
Congrats. You own a new member of your household.
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Did they sign papers for you?
Unfortunately we didn't ask them to sign papers, rather took their word and exchange of money at face value. We adopted our last dog, when she was 9 months old in the same manner without any issue so it didn't occur to us to do paperwork. I'm regretting this now.
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You could possibly ask them if they just want to make scheduled visits (or meet up at a park) to see him rather then giving him back.. eventually the kids will "get over" it.
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Something signed would have been ideal, but it isn't necessary. If they were his second home in less than a year, they probably didn't have him for very long, either. Ditto on the stability and quality of care. The kids will get over it. Suggest to them that they focus on the dog they do have.

I would feel rotten in the situation as well. I think if you had taken the dog for free it wouldn't be so black/white. But dogs are still considered property and you bought him... so little issue I'd think.

If you are concerned, you could also call up a local animal control or shelter and ask them what your laws require.
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