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Old 11-29-2017, 10:06 AM
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Should i let her go?

My newly adopted stray dog is downright depressed. Won't eat, sleeps almost all day and is wants to run away. Ran away once i just found her close to home. It's only been 4 days since i brought her home. Help please. Im lost.
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My newly adopted stray dog is downright depressed. Won't eat, sleeps almost all day and is wants to run away. Ran away once i just found her close to home. It's only been 4 days since i brought her home. Help please. Im lost.
Did you just find her in the street or was she from a rescue? If she was wandering for a while she would be used to constant freedom and being confined will be a shock to her. Don't take it personally, if she really wanted to get away from you, you wouldn't have found her nearby last time.

One of my dogs was on the streets for at least a year before I took her in, and it took a long time for her to adapt. On one occasion she disappeared for 3 nights before OH found her begging in a bar 5 kms away (the same place we originally found her). She barely gave him a nod, but when he was leaving he opened the car door and she jumped straight in, univited. She came home looking very pleased with herself. She has sometimes disappeared for the odd night since, but she always comes back of her own accord. After eight years she still looks uncomfortable in the house, and although she comes in and out all day she doesn't like to stay in for long and has a kennel outside where she seems happy in the worst of weathers.

Don't give up on your girl just yet, it's early days. Abandoning her will only make her more depressed and I'm sure she will settle eventually.

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I've been feeding her for about 3 month now. The temperature fell and after almost begging my family to take her in they agreed. She always seemed to want to follow me up to my apartment. Everything seems so overwhelming now. My dog can't share her space with her. She constantly paws at the door. My dog bites her. She then looks scared. I don't want to give up on her. And i am not planning to. Is there any chance that she will never get used to being confined? And will my dog ever get used to her? Both of the dogs are female.
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She lived very close to my building. From what i found out, workers from the building site used to feed her. After the construction finished they left and she was abandoned. She has never been in a home probably. Is 1-2 years old. I understand that being in an apartment that is only 120 sqm difficult for her. But at least she has shelter warm home food and love. I don't know how to make it work.
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Is there anywhere well fenced where she could have a good free run every day? An hour or two of freedom and exercise could work wonders.

I think it's inevitable that your other dog will be jealous and unkind to her at first and it's possible they will never get on (think of personalities - some people you will just never get on with no matter what) but it's more likely that they will get used to each other and hopefully even become good friends - I've seen that happen with 2 of my dogs.
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Is there anywhere well fenced where she could have a good free run every day? An hour or two of freedom and exercise could work wonders.

I think it's inevitable that your other dog will be jealous and unkind to her at first and it's possible they will never get on (think of personalities - some people you will just never get on with no matter what) but it's more likely that they will get used to each other and hopefully even become good friends - I've seen that happen with 2 of my dogs.
Yes there is and i take her there. She's not interested in playing. My heart is breaking for my first dog. I feel like i am letting her down. My first dog has lots of toys and i thought i would give some of those to new dog. Dog one kept snatching all of her toys from dog twos mouth. I took all of them away.
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Do you mean you took the toys away from both of them?

Do you have seperate rooms where you could keep them apart for an hour or two each day? and buy one or two toys just for the new dog to play with when they are separated? If the new dog is depressed because she's afraid of the other dog, some time alone feeling safe and with some toys to play with may help. if it's just because she hates to be confined then she will just have to get used to it. And she will eventually.

I think it's really just a matter of time. It must be very stressful for you and your family at the moment but dogs do adapt, and as I said it is early days. Any dog takes a while to settle into a new home and in the case of a dog taken into such a totally different environment it will obviously take longer. In my experience, they do grow to like their home comforts. especially regular meals.

I wouldn't worry too much about your first dog, just show her plenty of love and attention and she'll be fine
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Do you mean you took the toys away from both of them?

Do you have seperate rooms where you could keep them apart for an hour or two each day? and buy one or two toys just for the new dog to play with when they are separated? If the new dog is depressed because she's afraid of the other dog, some time alone feeling safe and with some toys to play with may help. if it's just because she hates to be confined then she will just have to get used to it. And she will eventually.

I think it's really just a matter of time. It must be very stressful for you and your family at the moment but dogs do adapt, and as I said it is early days. Any dog takes a while to settle into a new home and in the case of a dog taken into such a totally different environment it will obviously take longer. In my experience, they do grow to like their home comforts. especially regular meals.

I wouldn't worry too much about your first dog, just show her plenty of love and attention and she'll be fine
Yes i took the toys from both of them. Tomorrow i'm going to do what you juat said. There is only one room where Dog one isn't allowed. Im going to let the other dog in there. I'll by a few toys just for her too. Is the fact that she's not eating normal too? After buying her a few toys i'm going to take her and teach her fetch. About the first dog. She gets plenty of love and attention. She's always been kind of grumpy and now she seems worse. Can you give me an estimate? How soon do you think the dogs will settle in?
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The fact that the new dog is not eating is probably partly feeling unsettled and partly because she's now being given decent food which she's not used to. I'm assuming she does not seem ill, just dispirited? Have you had her checked by a vet? Having been on the streets she could have some illness that is not obvious.

Teaching her to fetch is a great idea, any kind of training will help to make her feel at home and wanted.

How old is the first dog? The older she is, the more she would probably object to a new arrival. But it's impossible to put a time on it. It's been like a revolving door here with dogs coming and going over the years, up to 7 at a time, and some liked each other, some didn't. I've always found it best to just let them sort out their own pack order, unless fights became really serious (which only happened a couple of times). Our last new arrival was too big for the 'residents' to get nasty with but they barked at him non-stop for the first 10 days or so. Then they suddenly stopped and after another week they were trying to get him to play with them and it was like he'd always been here.

Well done for taking this dog in and trying so hard to make it work, and credit to your family too. Keep trying, keep hopeful, and I'm sure it will work out before too long

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The fact that the new dog is not eating is probably partly feeling unsettled and partly because she's now being given decent food which she's not used to. I'm assuming she does not seem ill, just dispirited? Have you had her checked by a vet? Having been on the streets she could have some illness that is not obvious.

Teaching her to fetch is a great idea, any kind of training will help to make her feel at home and wanted.

How old is the first dog? The older she is, the more she would probably object to a new arrival. But it's impossible to put a time on it. It's been like a revolving door here with dogs coming and going over the years, up to 7 at a time, and some liked each other, some didn't. I've always found it best to just let them sort out their own pack order, unless fights became really serious (which only happened a couple of times). Our last new arrival was too big for the 'residents' to get nasty with but they barked at him non-stop for the first 10 days or so. Then they suddenly stopped and after another week they were trying to get him to play with them and it was like he'd always been here.

Well done for taking this dog in and trying so hard to make it work, and credit to your family too. Keep trying, keep hopeful, and I'm sure it will work out before too long

Lynsey
First two days when she didn't eat I just assumed it was stress. Then on the third day (the day she ran away) she ate something in the street. When she came home she threwed up and there were bones in her vomit. She also has diarrhea. She got checked by vet on the first day i brought her home. The vet gave her dewormers. In a week she'll get her first shot. Today i went to a vet and told him what was going on. He told me to give her electrolytes and phosphalugel and if she doesn't get better in two days i should brung her in. I avoided taking her to the vet today. I don't want to stress her any more than i have to. I think i'll take her tomorrow.
Thank you for your kind words and advices.
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