10-23-2017, 12:15 PM
Join Date: Nov 2015
Location: Stouffville, Ontario, Canada, Earth, Milky Way Galaxy
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Sounds like you and he are doing fine for the beginning. You are showing a keen understanding of his need for some space and time. He's brand new, nervous and scared and may be guarding his 'safe space'.
Since that kind of behaviour is not one you consider acceptable, and neither would I, I would find him a more acceptable 'safe space' for the night time. Many dogs love crates; give him a covered crate (or gigantic box) so it's dark and cozy inside with a cushion or blanky, and put it in the bedroom. Maybe he'll go inside on his own and feel safe and undisturbed. If not, put it outside the bedroom, and block off the bedroom with a baby gate (leave a gap below so the cat can come & go).
He may just need a few days to settle in. He may be just fine sleeping on the bed with the both of you some day in the future, but I'm guessing that right now he's feeling super insecure and that bed, and maybe even your wife represent LIFE and SAFETY and he's afraid you are going to take it away.
At the same time, you don't want to be growled away from your own wife and your own bed, nor do you want to be get into a confrontation with a scared insecure dog. This is where 'avoiding the situation' (what dog trainers call management) can be a handy easy to use tool.
Time may be all he needs. Google 'two week shut down', I think that will pull up a bunch of articles that address the 'new dog' thing.
Last edited by Artdog; 10-23-2017 at 12:18 PM.
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