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Old 10-10-2017, 02:45 PM
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My new boyfriend has a 10 month old MALE Belgian Malinois.
He's good with everyone, very friendly.

When I go over, he jumps on me and nips at me.
If my boyfriend leaves the room, the dog comes at me and chews my arm aggressively but looks playful. The more I try to get away and say "NO" the harder he comes at me. It's getting worse.

I've went on walks with them and he's fine.

I slept over and the dog slept between my legs, I think he's keeping tabs on me.

Everyone is telling me I need to dominate the dog. Grab him by the scruff of his neck and yell NO. I'm not going to do that!

How can I make him like and trust me?

Give him attention and rewards? but how? he comes at me right away.

My arms look like they were pinned between two cars.... bruised everywhere. when will he break the skin???? HELP
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Can you make him sit down when he comes over to you that might help :-) It does sound like he is playing a rough player. Your boyfriend probably plays roughly with him and he thinks you will too. maybe sit and then pet him :-)
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Everyone is telling me I need to dominate the dog. Grab him by the scruff of his neck and yell NO. I'm not going to do that!
Ahhh Don't do this. This is a sure fire way to get bit. Also don't ever trust the people who told you to do this ever again.

Have you spoken to your boyfriend about this? Does the dog have any level of training? Sounds like something like a training class with you will build a trust that can leave you feeling comfortable with the dog. Also how much exercise both mentally and physically does the dog get? Mals are usually very high drive dogs and usually require a job. If he is now not engaging the dog because he is spending less time working with his dog and more time with you he may see a regression in his dog's training.
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My boyfriend is worried and wants to fix the problem quick.
Boyfriend trained him to sit and wait for food, basic tricks and stopping/sitting before they cross the road. This is what I've seen...

The dog gets out a lot through out the day during the week. Friends kids and neighbors go over and walk him. When Boyfriend comes home from work he runs him for over an hour. Weekends... trail walking, dog park etc.

Maybe we need to walk him more together, maybe I should walk him?
Should I walk in front of them? Lead the pack....

I've never had an issue with any animal, they all loved me. This is crazy
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My boyfriend is worried and wants to fix the problem quick.
Boyfriend trained him to sit and wait for food, basic tricks and stopping/sitting before they cross the road. This is what I've seen...

The dog gets out a lot through out the day during the week. Friends kids and neighbors go over and walk him. When Boyfriend comes home from work he runs him for over an hour. Weekends... trail walking, dog park etc.

Maybe we need to walk him more together, maybe I should walk him?
Should I walk in front of them? Lead the pack....

I've never had an issue with any animal, they all loved me. This is crazy
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First step, your boyfriend needs to stimulate the dog's mind more. Like I said, most mals usually need job. Basic tricks aren't enough. If I were you two I would look into training classes. Learn advanced obedience. The dog needs to think. He has a brain he needs to use it.

Walking together would be great. That leader of the pack nonsense is BS. Walk with your boyfriend. Put the dog between you. Have your boyfriend show you how to make him sit. Go to the classes with your boyfriend. You have to earn the dog's respect. Just like how he has to earn your.
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I'll be reading all of this to him tonight. Thank You
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Agree dont try to dominate....agree good way to get bit. Herding breeds are mouthy anyway. The boyfriend needs to be firm with dog.
Hey wait a minute arent there some malinois owners on here?
OP, try posting this in the working dogs or dog sports sections. I think I saw some mal owners in there.
You know they call them maligators right? Lol
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I think a fair amount of people say "dominate" and are misusing the word. Dominate" sounds sooooo heavy-handed and if applied in that method to a soft dog will usually result in a dog which will exhibit avoidance behavior and perhaps when pressed too hard might bite. With a hard dog, you'll just get the bite probably.

I've dealt with this issue with my current dog as she's the domineering type, she knows who she can press, who she can herd around, who she senses some trepidation in and exploits it. Basically, she used to size up individuals and proceeded accordingly and if she can get away with her domineering crap, she would.

Two solutions I have used.
1.) For my friends and frequent visitors who have absolutely no inclination to "work" my dog, I am in charge and the dog is under my scrutiny/command/control the entire time when these guests visit and she doesn't try her "routine" with them. Your boyfriend could take this position and stop any undesirable behavior which you have described BUT solution number 2 is the real ticket.

2.) This is more pertinent to your situation. You need to take an active role in making the dog earn his resources and I mean everything as in EVERYTHING. Study up on NILIF protocol and apply it consistently regardless of the situation.

Some of my friends who are a bit intimidated by my dog and are willing to follow my instructions as to dealing with my dog have soon discovered she's not pushy once the dog realizes the individual cannot be intimidated into a position which reeks of apprehension and yielding. They simply make the dog earn any and all resources, such as attention/affection/"treats" etc. There is no confrontational moments, no power trips, no harshness, just a plain and simple learn to earn environment and the dog loves it.

Dogs aren't stupid and they know who they can bluff and bully.

jclark's advice is solid. Advanced obedience training with you actively involved will make a huge difference and I have a feeling you might be rather impressed at how your dog will cooperate. Your Mal should thrive on this type of handler/dog interaction.

I always enjoy this video and perhaps it might inspire you, it always humbles me.

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Maybe we need to walk him more together, maybe I should walk him?
Should I walk in front of them? Lead the pack....
I was just thinking about this comment and the first part makes sense but I am wondering about the "Should I walk in front of them?" idea. I'm shooting from the hip here but something in me says I wouldn't walk in front as it might just make the dog feel more like it is constantly herding you and complicate things.

Treat the walk like an obedience exercise if you have the leash in your hand. The "walk" begins before you ever leave the front door and if the dog does well, he has earned some loose leash scenting at a specific place you might walk to. Have it all designed with a specific beginning and ending point per your verbal cues.
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