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Old 07-21-2012, 08:09 PM
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I don't understand. How can your mother say she cares about the dog, but be simultaneously terrified of her and plan to keep her confined for 22 hours a day? Those two things are mutually exclusive (the latter I would consider animal cruelty).
Either she cares about the dog and will understand her needs and help you give her a better life, or she thinks of her like a toy or an accessory (not a living, breathing animal) and she needs to stop acting like a spoiled child and let you find the dog a more suitable home.
To quote Bell Hooks:
Love is an action you continuously perform, not a fixed immutable state of being. You cannot abuse something and still claim to love it.
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Old 07-22-2012, 01:11 PM
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Shes kind of a crazy.person, lol. She says she loves the dog.that its "her dog " bc I left her living here when I had moved out for 4mo. But I couldn't have dogs.at my.apt. Anyway.she says all that but either wants her hooked to the run or in the cage, never free in the house. But shes told me if I get rid of her or the cage.she'll say I stole them from her. She got off the run last night and she and my 3y old were crying worrying.about her getting hit.yet.as.soon as she was.retrieved my by husband she had her back in the cage. Shes listed at the vet in my moms name bc I was given her by a friend when I was 17, at the time in was all about having the cute puppy but now that im older and trying to do right by the dog she wont.let me.
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I'm taking a risk writing this, but this situation is making me very uncomfortable. Some people love living in this kind of drama, it is just too bad that the innocent ones in such situations, animals and children, do not have the power to escape it on their own!

You are now an adult, you have to figure out how to talk to your mother to make her see the (non)sense in all of this. Maybe even get the vet involved, report yourself to the Humane Society, ask the help of some of your mother's friends or family! You also are now a parent and you have little eyes watching you, they learn more from your actions than from your words!

You came here asking for advice, and I imagine deep down you already knew what the responses would be, deep down you know how this should go. We are supporting you in your gut feeling, but the steps toward bettering the life of your dog are yours to take!

I'm sorry if my words sound harsh, but everyone involved deserves so much more, talking in circles is not going to move things forward!
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Old 07-22-2012, 07:06 PM
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None of her friends or family will help, she has them brainwashed into thinking of my husband and I.as losers. She desperately wants.us to live with her so shes not lonely but treats us like dirt. Moving out isn't possible right now, I've said from the beginning of this post I want to have the dog out in the house, but know that when we move we won't be able to take her ...I'm ok with getting rid of her, except for my son being upset but idk anywhere she could go. And if she'll be living in some row of kennels wouldn't her current life be better? Also my mom would make our lives hell if we got rid of her.
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Old 07-22-2012, 07:27 PM
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Alternatively, I could let her on the run sat and sunday and try to walk her during the wk and.keep her out in the house. Even that of course will change when we move..
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