Originally Posted by jamkos
I want to let her sleep in the bed but partner doesn't. Looking for potential compromise. Thanks!
Can the compromise with your partner be that your dog will sleep on your side only... or at the end of the of the bed on your side only?
You can certainly train your dog to sleep in a certain spot on the bed, if your partner will agree. I have trained my Puma pup (now 54 lbs) to sleep on my side only, right next to me. Most nights I literally spoon her to sleep. We tell her, go to your spot, and she happily plops down on that spot all night long. Initially she got treats every time she went there on cue... or on her own. Sometimes we still give her some small treats as reinforcers for her good choices.
But----I absolutely crate trained her as a pup!!! Sure made potty training so easy.
My Gracie dog sleeps on her own bed in our bedroom. Or she can sleep at the bottom of the bed-- on my side only! She startles easily and thus can "grump" or tweak, so it is far safer for her to only be on my side. But I actually prefer her to sleep on her own bed, so I don't have to worry about touching/kicking her by accident in my sleep. Our cue is "Gracie, time to go to your Dingo bed!" and then she gets a few pieces of cat kibble as incentive/reward/bribe to get off our bed.
She gets to hang out with us on our bed every night as we wind down and watch some tv before "lights out" time. Generally first I give Gracie some nice massage before she gets sent to her bed. Sometimes, she initially resists if it is super late and she is tired and all snuggled up on our bed. But we do our lil routine with her gently and then she will go. I get it. I hate moving off the couch to get up to go to bed when I'm tired. I figure it is the same concept with her at night.
Sparky, my sweet lil 15lb chihuahua doggie gets to sleep anywhere in our bed. Most nights he sleeps undercover, as we like to say at our house, in my butt
Thank heavens my sig other (we live together) is totally fine with our dogs sleeping with us. Honestly, I don't think I could have a relationship with someone that wasn't cool with it. My biggest dilemma at night? Do I spoon oneof my beloved doggies.... or my sig other??? Hahahaha. Your guess who I choose........................