06-20-2018, 11:36 AM
Join Date: Nov 2015
Location: Stouffville, Ontario, Canada, Earth, Milky Way Galaxy
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If it is not the result of aging out of play, yes I think it's the price of being overbearing. Dogs naturally want to get out ahead & run and run free.
You can never take back the past, but I would see about the future. Dogs are mostly resilient, but you may need to re-frame things.
I have a rescue dog that is naturally very submissive and was likely 'trained differently' from folks on this forum.
They can regain their confidence, you don't need to be permissive of innappropriate behaviour, you need to set aside times and places where your dog can 'be a dog', and you can be 'undominant'.
All dogs are different, but here are some things I do with my dog.
1. tug of war, dog wins all the time. My guy is a reluctant tugger, so I use a toy with a food pouch, lots of tossing away from, no eye contact, often a two fingered grip, I run away, always, never towards. Sometimes I just sit on the ground and let him bring me the toy, toss it, there are many other tricks to getting this game to work.
2. keeping it easy, easy commands, high value rewards, 1 or two commands (assuming your dog knows these) & reward & freedom. Tossing the reward, a tidbit or toy is even better, as the dog is encouraged to chase & move away from you.
3. Look up pushing exercise natural dog training (it's a thing). I'm not into the method, but the pushing exercise teaches the dog to feel comfortable to push into you for food in your hand, it's a confidence builder and easy and dog oriented.
4. don't beat yourself up for your mistakes, feeling guilty does not help your dog one little bit, instead, make it a goal to lead your dog towards fun, right now it may be as small as tossing tidbits across the ground and once he grabs one, toss another.
5. Look up Collared Scholar (my favourite), and see if you can sign up on her Dogpark Facebook group. You will get non-judgemental help to increase your dogs confidence & joy in training.
Good luck, and have fun with your dog.
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