03-24-2018, 02:47 PM
Join Date: Jun 2017
Location: Cambridge MA
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Medication is the best and quickest way to help severe separation anxiety. And a lot of gradually increasing exposure to him getting used to you leaving him. There's links on this site. But you build up by leaving for thirty seconds, then a minute, etc. The behavioral training takes weeks or months. Medication is an immediate help. My dog had severe separation anxiety and broke out of a crate. Some dogs can't be in a crate, mine can't. I kept him in a small room and kept all windows and blinds closed.
The antidepressant Zoloft helps my dog and is longer acting so takes four to six weeks to work. Many behaviorists will also prescribe an immediate short acting sedative like a benzodiazepines or trazodone, to knock the dog out for four to six hours so you can continue to leave it and go to work.
My dog had bad reactions to those shorter acting meds and I had to spend more money and put him in doggy daycare which he loves. He was too dangerous to leave at home alone. So it was either that or bring him everywhere, which I also did and sometimes leave him in my car for short periods with the heat or ac running and a note saying he was under the care of the behaviorist and couldn't be safely left alone at home. He was calm and fine in the car.
Personally I could never trust or stay with anyone that took my dog to a shelter and let it be euthanized because it chewed up some objects. If you're going to save this dog, your gf doesn't sound very helpful or committed to the dog's continued longevity. I'd limit her access to the dog if you're able to get it back, and make sure that she fully understands that it's your dog and she has no right to take the dog anywhere, let alone surrender the dog to be killed.
I'd personally be so angry I'd want to press charges against her for animal cruelty and theft and I couldn't even stand to look at this person again, but that's just me. I've ended any relationship IMMEDIATELY where my animals weren't treated well.
Sorry to be judgmental, I just feel really bad for the poor dog, but I commend you for trying to do the right thing.