Originally Posted by kakite
So true. My husband used to kiss Nova on the head and she always turned her head away and then he stopped doing that because she obviously did not enjoy it. Now he gives her belly rubs which she looooooooooves. Find ways of showing affection that your
doggie enjoys. Normally they let you know what they want more of and what makes them uncomfortable. Nova loves putting her head on us, getting hugs, pats on the back and belly rubs, whereas kisses and patting her on the head aren't something she enjoys. We let her come and snuggle up to us, so we know the position she is in, is comfortable for her and she wants to be close. If she moves away ,we let her. It's nothing personal at all
Yuppers, good advice from @kakite
I personally think @silentkinght
, you seem like a great doggie momma! The fact that you are actually watching your dogs body language-- and are concerned how she actually feels about interacting with you, well that speaks volumes to me about how you care about your dog. Call her your baby, your doggie, your pup, your dear dog, your beloved dog, your child...it matters not to me! Just shows how much you love your dog. We all probably have a zillion pet names for our dogs, right? Or at least I do... At my house my Gracie is also called Grace Dog Millionaire, Mills, Millsywillsy, Grace, Sweet doggie, My Brave Doggie,etc etc....And yes, you can frequently hear my significant other telling my "babies" (dogs) "To go see Mommy!"
Anyway........ Here is something I wrote earlier about this subject that you may find helpful.... How do you know if your dog is actually enjoying your petting or kissing or hugging him/her??
Some dogs enjoy being pet on the head, kissed, hugged, etc---and some are just not comfortable with it. And some dogs are fine with it over time--- if you condition them to love it by pairing the petting/kissing/hugging with some yummy treats, calm happy talk and lots of genuine praise. Not all dogs are born loving over the head petting, or kisses or hugging contrary to popular belief.
I personally think there should be a "Me Too' Movement for dogs. Where the dog has to give consent to being touched, especially by strangers!!
How do you know if your dog is giving you consent to pet/kiss/hug him or her? Pet(or kiss/hug) your dog...then stop! Say nothing at all. Then watch what your dog does next! If your dog wants more petting
, she will let you know by means of pawing you, looking at you in a relaxed mode, leaning against your leg or body, making a sound etc.
My shy Gracie will actually sit in my lap and back herself deeper against my chest to say "More please, Mom!" if I stop petting her. Pretty sweet, especially since she is a touch sensitive doggie of 40 lbs.
Or she will very gently use her paw to take my hand to guide it to her body to say "More rubbies, please". But, on the other hand, if I am combing her and she is becoming increasingly uncomfortable, she will let me know that too!
! A "look back" from Gracie means "Ummmm Mom ya know, I'm starting to feel a bit creepy about this combing and touch business, I've been patient with you up til now, please stop soon!"
I usually try one more time gently, and if she does a second look back, I stop touching her---even if I really want to proceed. I respect her and appreciate her and I acknowledge all the progress that she has done to be so much braver in this touch arena. Touch sensitive dogs are hard cases. Lots of patience required.
So, try different places and methods of touching your dog--- and really watch his or her body language to know how your doggie is really feeling about it. And of course, I find that sometimes my dogs want hugs and kisses from me and they will will generously give me kisses...and sometimes NOT! Depends on their mood I suppose...Just like us humans, right? Sometimes we want to be affectionate and be touched...and sometimes NOT!!
PS. And sometimes, when Puma pup is drowning me with her abundance of precious kisses (no slobber, thankfully) in the morning next to me in bed, I know she really is saying "Mom, I really love you, BUT--can we pleeeeeze wake up and go see my squirrel buddies out in our yard??????"
I would like
to think of those kisses from Puma as pure love, but I'm sure there is that, plus a whole lotta squirrel love there as well.