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Old 01-30-2019, 06:20 PM
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Help my dog is scared of me.

So, this is my first post on the forum, and I am pretty freaked out right about now. So my dog and I are really friendly and we've had her for about four years (her names lucy) and I have not had any behaviour related problems lately. So I was sitting on my couch about a week ago and I noticed a rather large strange lump on her right side, I didn't know what it was so I looked it up and it might have been a pimple or something, so I squeezed it, probably not my best course of action, but that's what I did, I think it hurt her so I stopped immediately, but now Lucy is scared of me, I've tried to drop treats and be non threatening but she still seems scared. HELP!

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Old 01-30-2019, 06:51 PM
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Will she let you pet her and give her a massage in her favorite places? My dog loves chest and belly rubs and rubs behind the ears and shoulders but every dog is different.
Wheny dog shuts down a bit and acts scared I try having him do very simple basic commands that he knows very well and making a huge fuss in a happy positive voice with tons of praise, pats and his favorite bacon treats as reward for simple things. When he gets all wiggly with tail wagging and jumping around I know we're all good again. I usually have to use a silly puppy voice.
Playing fetch with his favorite squeaky toy and me running around like an idiot squeaking it and acting like it's pretty and playing tug first with it usually helps too.
The key is doing something fun and positive with her again.
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Will she let you pet her and give her a massage in her favorite places?
When my dog shuts down a bit and acts scared I try having him do very simple basic commands that he knows very well and making a huge fuss in a happy positive voice with tons of praise, pats and his favorite bacon treats as reward for simple things. When he gets all wiggly with tail wagging and jumping around I know we're all good again.

The key is doing something fun and positive with her again.
@Shadowmom is right on with this advice, in my opinion! I would do the same.

Lots of relaxing massage or petties or huggies or whatever comforts your dog.

And----Immediately go to the kitchen load up on amazing food bits like steak or chicken or whatever your dog loves and start running your dog through her easy tricks!! Set her up for success so she gets to earn the treats by doing her fun tricks! Praise, praise, praise. Make it super fun! Let her know she is loved and valued, and that in no way would you ever intentionally hurt her.

Distraction and fun really help! Think of when a little kid is crying. If you wave a puppet or toy at them and talk all happy, most times the lil kiddo stops crying and refocuses on what you are doing.

Now this works best of course when you have already established a nice, safe, trusting bond with your dog. Since you said you have this with your dog, this should work and I'm betting very soon your doggie will be your best friend again!
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Yeah my dog is sensitive and I think was abused before so shuts down very easily. Well in my opinion. Quite the opposite from my rough and tumble last dog of almost twelve years that was bold and brazen and very tough in every way. Didn't care if you yelled at him, never took anything personally, was kind of like "what's your problem? Get over it and have fun!" No matter what or would just give you a time out lol or lick your face off to make people happy.
This dog will run and hide in his crate if he even thinks that my tone starts to sound frustrated if he doesn't do a command the first time. Or if I'm trying to medicate my cat with cancer, who's fearless and hates medication so bites, claws, cuffs, runs, spits it in my face, and fights like a caged tiger every day, or stop another dog from chasing a cat, or eating his food, he runs and hides.
Or if another dog in the park jumps on me or nips and I tell it a strong no or off he gets worried.
Even when it's not directed at him, he gets stressed at hearing me firm or angry.

If he hears anyone else yelling or raising their voice, he will bark and growl and lunge at them because he thinks they're threatening us. Unless I praise him for being quiet and give him bacon treats.

So we do a lot of bonding stuff, especially since I have to medicate my cat two or three times a day and it's always a struggle. Hard not to say ouch and knock it off when you get bitten and scratched daily. He really hates meds but it's crucial he gets them. Sweetest loving cat for everything else.
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Did anything come out when you squeezed it & how big is this lump? It would be a good idea to get any lumps checked by a vet. If the bump is painful all the time, it will be reminding your dog of what you did & until this bumps not sore- your dog may not want you to come near. My dogs had bumps & I had the vet analyse it, when I would take out the ointment to put on it from the drawer- she would leave the room. It turned out to be a cyst & your not meant to squeeze cysts.
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