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Old 08-29-2018, 09:44 AM
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Does my dog not like me?

I got my puppy in December from a breeder. Shes a shihtzu, 11 months old currently but she turns 1 in about a week. I did a lot of research on shihtzus when she first came to my home, and I read in several different sites that shihtzus are known to have separation anxiety and such, but my girl, Fendi, is so aloof. When she was younger, she liked to play with me, but now that shes older, all she wants to do is walk around and sniff the house and the carpets where she has already sniffed every day. She plays sometimes, but shes not really enthusiastic. She'll lick me and sleep with me at night, but it doesn't really feel like love? I thought this was just a phase she was in when she was like 8 months or so, but now I'm worried it's just that she really doesnt love me as much as I love her. I feed her, I groom her, I play with her and cuddle her, train her, but shes just not interested in me.

Does she need to be spayed? I heard that spaying/neutering has made dogs stop wandering and such.
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Old 08-29-2018, 12:24 PM
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My old family dog is aloof as can be. He's 13, we got him when he was 2. He doesn't play, he doesn't usually come when called (he sometimes doesn't even look at you), and if someone's on the couch with him and they try to cuddle, he'll get up and walk away. Like you, we walk him and have trained him to do all sorts of things.
I have learned to see his love for me and my family in various, more unusual ways. He's scared to death of thunder, so when he comes out of this hiding place in the middle of a storm to see me when I come home (even though the greeting is subdued), I feel loved. When he gets off of his beloved couch to quietly lay down at my feet, I feel loved.
My advice is to find your dog's love in her actions, and also to appreciate your dog for who she is. My dog isn't playful or snuggly, but he's an easy keeper and polite to every person or animal he happens to meet.
My other dog on the other hand, was almost a culture shock. He's extremely playful and loves to cuddle, and sometimes I want him to be more like the older one.
Maybe somebody will have more practical advice, but that's mine. Good luck with your pup!
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Old 08-31-2018, 01:32 AM
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I'm sure your dog loves you, here's some other possibilities - averaging every 6 months is her heat cycle, hers is due soon, this is when other dogs become MUCH more interesting than you. If you spey your suposed to do it mid cycle, 3 months after her heat. I havn't speyed mine & for all those people who think I should, it's a personal choice, my right. It's not illegal like some people are acting like I'm breaking a law or something. She has not got preggy either & there's actually only about 6 days a year she can get preg. Not a big deal. I don't go removing my lady bits just cz I MIGHT get cancer one day either & I'm not doing it to my dog. It sounds ludicrous to me. She's fine the way she's made.I think this is just scare tactics. If you look into it it's a 1 in 4 chance which is not high risk.There seem to me to be just as many fors as against. Remembering everytime a dog goes under for what is quite a major surgery for a female (SPEYING) there are RISKS including death. Other possibilities are your dogs bored & or depressed, whats the weather like? To hot or too cold weather can make them mopey. But your dog might just be growing up & thats her adult self. Speyed dogs can have problems getting fat which causes a lot more health risks. Is your dog within her normal recommended weight? This could cause lethargy if over or if way under, won't be getting enough food - energy. Make sure there's fresh water every day, (tip out the days before) or filtered or cool boiled water. You could try dome different treats & teach her some tricks to extend the challenges & bonding. is offline   Reply With Quote
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i think that is probably just her personality. I am sure she loves you.

There are reasons to spay, but I don't think wandering around would be one.

I did have my dog neutered because I don't want him to get another dog pregnant.

What you are describing is so much better than seperation anxiety. I know people who can not go out for long because the dog gets so upset
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All I can say to the spaying issue is how devastating it was to care for and lose my mom's beautiful perfectly healthy cat to mammafy cancer at not quite sixteen. I've had cats live to twenty and she was in perfect health so could have easily lived that long if not for the mammary cancer that rapidly spread to her lungs and made the little beauty gasp for breath and stop eating everything but treats and bites of tuna fish. When my mom finally let me spay her she had a horribly infected and painful uterus, very common the older they're spayed and had to stay overnight and be given three weeks of antibiotics twice a day. Of course my mom who was so adamant about not spaying her and so possessive about "her cat" expected me to medicate her twice a day. I has to wear protective clothing from head to toe after she jumped on my face trying to escape.
After more than three heat cycles the risk of mammary cancer later in life is much higher than 25 percent so ask your vet about that. There's no treatment and it's aggressive and spreads to the lungs and causes suffering very fast one to several months. Horrible way to die gasping for breath and not eating. I had a hospice vet come to the house and treated her with comfort meds for two weeks then euthanize her at home so she wouldn't have to go through a stressful car ride.

Better to be overweight than that agony. Those last two weeks caring for her and handfeeding her treats made me how to spay every cat and dog I ever own and never be selfish like others with the "it's natural" bs argument. So is cancer.

To the op, your dog probably loves you a lot but may naturally need some space or have trust issues from previous bad experiences. My dog took over a year to start showing affection to me despite having separation anxiety. He wanted me with him but would ignore me! Talk about complicated lol. Now he's very affectionate and loving but now I've had him 2.5 years.
I have an ancient horse it took me over a year to start to bond with. 22 years later she's literally part of my soul and we don't need words to communicate, but she's very opinionated and strong willed and understands lots of English and let's me know exactly what she thinks all the time lol. Some animals and people take more time to open up and get close and show love than others. Some just aren't very clingy.
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A vet visit wouldn't hurt, the behavior you are describing here sounds a little compulsive.
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My dog is becoming like this, and frankly i prefer it. I love her but i don't want her to be all over me like how she was. She still follows me around the house, i still can't leave her for longer than 1 hour alone in the house. She cries if i leave her in the is too much clingyness.

So instead she is attached to my husband, which is great. She sees me as the alpha and the disciplinarian...awesome...that's what i want. My husband is the cuddly cushion! =]

I guess i am just weird, I don't care for my puppy's affection...i certainly don't complain when she cuddles up to me at night...but frankly the less she clings on to me the better lol.
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Old 12-11-2018, 09:19 PM
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If you look into it it's a 1 in 4 chance which is not high risk
There is a risk with surgery, but I don't know of any vet that doesn't recommend spay/neuter. From what you're saying, you see their view as wrong. A 1 in 4 chance of cancer is high. If you had a 1 in 4 chance of winning a car you'd consider that to be a great chance at winning. A 1 in 4 chance of cancer is a horrible chance in losing.

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As said, it could just be her personalit. As a matter of interest, is she overweight?
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