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Old 02-08-2017, 04:57 AM
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Very concerned about my partner's dog

Hello, thank you for allowing me to join up.

I'm wondering if I can have some advice please. My partners dog is a 16-year-old border collie she is a lovely old lady.

For the past year her health has rapidly deteriorated. Her back legs do not support her properly, and she tends to go around in lots of circles. So much so that she cannot be walked. She has lost control of her bladder and bowels, and whines quite a lot as she struggles to get on and off her bed.

My partner and I have had a lot of conversation about her health. She needs to see a vet but we know that it is likely that she won't come home. My partner probably loves his dog more than his kids LOL, he has had her since she was six weeks old and he is really struggling to come to terms with The fact that her time has come. He gets very angry when I beg him to take her to the vets, I can understand why he is getting so upset, but equally I am really concerned that she has no quality of life. He loves her dearly, and has mentioned that he wants to have her cremated which is costly, and this is his excuse for not taking her. He is saving to have her cremated properly.

I'm at my wits end I don't know what to do. Has anybody else been in a similar situation? Please, no comments about him being cruel to her, I already know this. Any advice or experiences with this would be very much appreciated.

Many thanks in advance.
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Old 02-08-2017, 02:38 PM
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Sorry you're having to go through this. The decision on when it's time to let go is not an easy one. What we always tell clients who are struggling with this decision it to make a list of all the activities your pet enjoys doing and/or start tracking their good days vs. their bad days. When your pet can no longer enjoy those activities or the bad days outnumber the good then you know it's time. Somethimes writing it down just helps to give you a clearer outlook on the subject.

In regards to the cremation and cost, I would contact your vet first, but often times they are able or willing to hold the pets body for a few weeks until you have made your decision on the aftercare options or can afford the cremation. When it comes down to it vets don't want you to use that as an excuse for keeping a suffering pet alive.

By the way 16 years is an amazingly long life for any dog. I'm sure he had some awesome memories and experiences with her. Sometimes making a memory book helps people to cope with the loss. Maybe you could suggest doing the with him. Going through old pictures of better days may help ease the pain of the inevitable.

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Tell him to at least take her to the vet, unless he O.K's it she will not be put to sleep. She at least deserves to be as pain free and comfortable as possible and the vet may be able to give y'all some medicine to help with that.

The going in circles has me wondering about vestibular disease and if it's that then there's medicine that should help with it. Getting on and off the bed sounds like it may be arthritis getting the better of her, and again the vet can prescribe medicine that will ease the pain and discomfort. Losing control of her bladder and bowels is a bit more worrying, especially the bowels, the bladder may be incontinence, and again there's medicine that can help with it, but throw in the bowels and it's much more worrying.

I will tell you that one of my greatest regrets is not having my 17 year 8 month old dog put down when he stopped eating. I opted to try a last ditch effort (I shouldn't have) to get him eating when my vet said some medicine may help. He hadn't eaten hardly anything for 2 to 3 days before I took him to the vet, just picked at the food. I took him in on a Wednesday, Tuesday was the last day he ate anything, Friday I was on the phone asking if it would be best to take him in to be put to sleep or if he'd be in any discomfort or pain passing away at home. I was told that he should be alright passing away at home. Let your Partner know that they do not always pass away peacefully in their sleep, that death isn't always a peaceful, or quick, Shadow's wasn't. He held on till Sunday, and it was 2 of my worst days, he lost control of his bowels, let out a couple of eerie howls, never ate again, got weaker and weaker. There was nothing I could do to help him. On Sunday I carried him out to potty, and when I picked him back up to take him in he let out one last howl then died. Tell your Partner to spare himself that.

If he wants to let his old gal putter around, and she's still overall healthy, that's fine. Shadow went two years like that, he was blind, had canine cognitive dysfunction, and bad arthritis, but he still loved to eat and seemed pretty content. If his old gal's appetite starts to go it's likely time to let her go soon.
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