11-20-2017, 07:41 PM
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First, I am sorry to hear about your dogs diagnosis. I know that the loss of a friend is difficult. I lost a dog to cancer a few years ago, but knowing the diagnosis gave me time to cherish every moment.
Second, I work for a veterinary clinic. I think what you are feeling is understandable but at the same time I think you are asking a lot of your vet. Your vet has lots of patients, and they probably spend a good part of their day rushing from one patient to another. They may get to sit down for lunch while finishing charts for half an hour if they are lucky. On a bad day they don't get to sit down to lunch at all. I don't doubt that your vet is sorry to hear about your dogs diagnosis. That said, they may not have the time in the day to sit down and express their sadness and talk to you. We have had wonderful pets, owned by fantastic people who have received a cancer diagnosis. This hits the doctors hard. The other day, the doctor I work with said she had gotten the pathology results in on a young dog with an aggressive cancer. The owners were stretched to even do the surgical removal of the lump, its highly unlikely that they can afford chemo. The doctors had cut the cost of the surgery so the owner could send the lump out for pathology to say in the owners budget. The doctor had put off calling the owner for two days because she wasn't ready to tell the owners yet and have that conversation.
Doctors are trained to process the emotional loss of a pet in different ways. It does affect them. I grew up in a veterinary practice. My father, a vet, is profoundly affected by euthanizing a pet. When we are alone in a euthanasia he always pats the dog or cat on the head and tells them he is sorry. I know its a hard euthanasia when he mentions it outside of work. If the pet is really special he buys a bottle of gin. While you may feel like you are alone, if your pet is a frequent flier at the veterinary hospital you are not alone.