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Old 08-16-2016, 08:13 AM
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Any advice for someone in "ill doggie limbo"

Afternoon all, Iím just after some advice from people who have been in similar situations to myself. Iíve got a 15 year old staff/lab, Suki, who is my life. Sheís my shadow, and I love her more than anyone or anything on this planet (and yes my partner knows)
Anyway, she has a list of ailments; chronic bronchitis for which she takes steroid tablets, she has arthritis in her back legs so has supplements and tramadol to help with that, and sheís also got the onset of dementia, as well as cataracts and depleting hearing. Apart from these, with medication and supps, sheís actually doing very well and is still alert and happy.
The issue I have is sheís had a few close calls recently, which have involved myself and my partner saying our goodbyes, but then she has a turnaround and gets better. Donít get me wrong, this is great and Iíve love to have her around forever, but Iím not silly and I know the inevitable is coming. Itís the feeling of limbo weíre finding difficult to deal with. I canít concentrate in work, I canít motivate myself to do anything in or outside of work. We canít plan any trips etc or do anything without making sure someone can watch our girl, and thereís only one person who we trust with this.
Iím just wondering how anyone in similar situations dealt with this? We try so so hard to remain positive and happy when sheís around, but the lump in my throat is constant and has been for two years, I feel like Iím constantly on a knife edge just waiting to fall, itís like a horrible limbo I canít get out of. Whenever I go to the vet I tell her that Iím relying on her to tell me when she thinks Suki is nearing the end because Iím biased and would hate to keep her around when she should be sleeping.
Any help or advice greatly appreciated guys and girls.
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Old 08-16-2016, 08:59 AM
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Maybe counseling might help, not only for your relationship with your wonderful dog but for future relationships as well. All of life is for one day at a time and that especially goes for relationships with living things.
It is difficult, knowing how much you love her and knowing the end is inevitable and near, and I'm hoping that you can discuss the issue with a professional that can help make the situation less stressful for you.
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Old 08-16-2016, 09:18 AM
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Thank you Lucille, I think that could help. For all I know she could stay with us another two years, so need something to help us. Thanks again for the reply.
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Old 08-16-2016, 01:16 PM
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My best advice is to just enjoy the time you have with her and make it as special as you can. Keep track of her good days and bad days, and when those bad days start out numbering the good then consider letting her go.

I got caught up in the River Denial back when I had my little old dog. He was much like your dog minus the bronchitis, he had bad arthritis and was on Rimadol for it, he had had a stroke and while he mainly recovered it took his eyesight and confidence, and he had canine cognitive dysfunction (dementia), but none of those alone or together were life threatening. So for two years I played the waiting game, and watched him slowly get worse. I probably should have let him go around 2 months before he passed away but I was too involved in the, "no, he'll be O.K., he'll pull out of it." mentality. What happened was he slowly stopped eating but I convinced myself that it was just him slowing down, that he did not need as many calories, that he was getting picky.

If you catch yourself doing something like that then have someone who knows Suki well give you an opinion on how she's really doing, just how bad has she gotten, and is it fair to keep on fighting for her, or is it time to let her go.
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Its a very difficult situation, as all of us that truly love our dogs know. All I can advise is to enjoy each and every day you still have her, but when her quality of life is gone and there is no hope of recovery, you have to be ready to let her go, as impossible a choice as that seems. When that day does arrive, you can take some comfort knowing what a great life you gave her, and all those wonderful memories of her will be yours forever.
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Thanks both. I agree with you 100%. We are enjoying our time with her, and like her we have bad days and good days. She still loves her food, and last night when I brought fish pie into the lounge, she skipped after me faster than I'd seen her do in a while

She's perked up today and the good days still outweigh the bad days, but will always seek advice from "outsiders" who can offer an unbiased opinion.

She still loves company and to chill with us. This was her yesterday evening in the garden

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Thanks both. I agree with you 100%. We are enjoying our time with her, and like her we have bad days and good days. She still loves her food, and last night when I brought fish pie into the lounge, she skipped after me faster than I'd seen her do in a while

She's perked up today and the good days still outweigh the bad days, but will always seek advice from "outsiders" who can offer an unbiased opinion.

She still loves company and to chill with us. This was her yesterday evening in the garden

Oh she's beautiful, I love that little face! Thanks for sharing the picture with us.

It's great that she's still doing so well.
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She is beautiful, and every minute you spend with her is special and irreplaceable. From the pic, she looks happy, comfortable and content. Keep doing what you are doing, I wish you more happy years together with her.
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Aww thank you guys, she is a happy girl and I do cherish every minute with her. The last few days posts on here have really helped, just chatting to some other "parents" who can empathise has been a great help
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She is a lovely little girl. I know you'll cherish every moment with her

A couple of years ago I lost my Sheltie in February and my Lab mix in September. It was absolutely heart wrenching. It's been particularly difficult because I have an Aussie mix who is/was a year younger than my Lab mix and my Sheltie was only two years older than the Lab. They were all so close in age it wasn't surprising they went close together but I wasn't expecting THAT close and I constantly worry about losing my Aussie now.
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