06-04-2012, 12:29 AM
Join Date: Oct 2011
How strange that this thread got new comments today. I don't use the email address that this site sends alerts to, and literally haven't logged into it (or here) for months. I happened to log into that email today and saw I had a new reply here - weird!
Anyway, I LOVE MY DOG SO MUCH! We are SO happy together. Our only major behavoir issue is, ironically, separation anxiety! (It's sort of mutual - we can't stand to be apart!) And, yes, we're working on it. : ) I don't think it's cute or anything. It's just funny to see what a 180 we've made from the early days. Lumi is going to be one year old in two weeks!!
Farmgirl, as far as if I did anything different or changed anything that made things better, I think it was just about waiting it out (puppies are crazy!), *and* letting go of a lot of anxiety. I had to stop stressing every time she jumped on someone even though I was trying to teach her not to, or every time she chose to sleep on the opposite end of the couch instead of on my lap. I had to just observe sometimes and let her do her own thing, and guide her the right way without expecting perfection from her. I had to just accept her for who she was, even though certain aspects aren't what I would have "designed" in my perfect dog, and just watch her grow. She's changed a lot naturally. She's a very affectionate dog, even though she really wasn't as a puppy. She loves to cuddle and be pet, but she still flips in a second to bitey, crazy puppy sometimes! A lot of her less favorable traits, I'm seeing, she's grown/growing out of. I'll be getting a second puppy someday (not soon!), and I plan to give the puppy at least several hours a day separated from Lumi. I would worry about a puppy bonding more with the current dog than the humans. It's just natural! If your older dog doesn't mind being crated, then maybe she can take a few naps during the day while you and the pup can get some bonding time. Even it's just hanging out and not active training. And, like Pawzaddict suggested, you might want to creat your own thread to get more feedback. : )
Jpcrosby, thank you for the input! I did have to just let her be herself, you're absolutely right! She's a great dog and I realize now that the *biggest* problem we had was my own expectations and worries getting in the way of just enjoying her great qualities. : )