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Old 01-10-2017, 10:30 AM
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I agree that it's difficult to know if a dog will work out based on a short meet-and-greet, especially with a second dog!

If you keep Stella, things will start to settle back into place and you will create a new "normal." The first week is by far the most overwhelming and things should start to get better. Aside from the allergic reaction, Bubba has done all of the things you listed and he has gotten better with every single one. I have had him for almost 2 months and that first week seems so far away now.

If you bring her back to the shelter, I'm sure someone will take her. She seems like a great dog, and someone else will see what you saw in her! The guilt of bringing her back will subside, especially when she is placed into a new home.

One thing that helped me was to think in terms of time frame. How will you feel a month from now, or 3 months from now? Either you will adjust to having a new dog, or the guilt from rehoming her will begin to subside. Either way, there is a light at the end of the tunnel!

Obviously the allergic reaction is a more serious issue, and if it's not something your partner can address or live with, then that should be your deciding factor.

Good luck!!
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thank you all for your responses.

As I write this I am crying and feel like I'm on the verge of a panic attack because I think I have no other choice but to take Stella back to the shelter. Tonight I started to get a rash. My partner has gotten three flare ups for about an hour or so each and now I had one on the back of my neck. We have never had this happen before getting this dog. We have a border collie lab and haven't had this reaction but I've read that you can have allergies to certain dogs because the dander differs.

I put an ad on Kijiji stating that I'm only fostering at the moment (as I couldn't adopt until my other dog is fixed in feb) but that she needs a good home and my recommendations for her training needs, desired home needs and that she needs a good loving forever home. I also said I would pay $150 towards her adoption fee of $300. Only reason why I didn't want to pay the full amount is because I want whoever wants to get her to be committed and serious enough to pay money and not just get her for free otherwise they might not be so good. I explained they would have to go through adoption at the shelter but hopefully we could do this the same day as I return her so she doesn't have to go back to a cage for the third time.

I'm so sad. I can't stop crying thinking how hard this is for me and her. She doesn't deserve this. I love animals and feel so stupid for putting her through this. I just really wish someone would take her, and love her.

I can't believe I have to do this to her....
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I'm sorry.

Don't beat yourself up too badly...allergies are no joke. I definitely am allergic to some breeds and others less and some not at all. The worst for me is the Golden Retriever for some reason.

Hang in there
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Hi KerriAnn,

You're making the right decision to return Stella. Your husband and you really can't live with a dog that is causing such severe allergic reactions.

When I rehomed my first dog, I knew that I was not the best owner for him. He needed an owner with more training experience and a more active lifestyle. He deserved a family who would enjoy having him and would appreciate him. I wasn't that person, and I wanted to give him a chance of finding a home of his own. The private no-kill shelter had a policy of always taking back their dogs, and I checked their website every couple of days for over a year. He was never relisted so my hope is that he is living and perhaps even thriving with his new family.

In addition to posting Stella on Kijiji, I might suggest that you send off some emails with photos to local rescue groups in your area. Let them know that you're having to regretfully return Stella to the shelter because of your husband's allergies, but that you think she'd be a wonderful addition for the right family. Perhaps a rescue group would see her, pull her from the shelter, and place her in their program.

Be kind to yourself. With your husband's allergic reactions, you really have no choice.
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Old 01-11-2017, 11:42 AM
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You're not stupid for taking a chance with a shelter dog. Blogs and so on tend to make it out to be this magical process by which you form a bond having saved a life. The reality is that the dogs are not always a good match and there it's extremely hard to predict success in a shelter meeting. You did a good thing with good intentions and now you're going above and beyond to help find a good fit. You have improved this dog's chances of finding a good home just by sharing your knowledge.
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I'm sorry this isn't working out, @KerriAnn. As someone else said, don't beat yourself up too much.

The barking may be a product of the shelter and not her true personality, and crate training/being home alone in general can take a LOT of positive reinforcement training before things smooth out. The biting and play (both with your dog and you) are just puppy things that will require some training. But the allergic reactions are definitely a big concern. You're doing the right thing.

I echo what others said about the shelter not really being a great place to decide whether a dog is for you. You spend so little time there, and dogs don't always show their true personalities there. It's very hard to know if a dog is for you until you've had it at home for a little while, and there was absolutely no way to predict the allergic reactions.

I'm sure Stella's perfect family is out there.
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Thanks everyone. I really appreciate your kind words. It still really stings thinking that she will have to go back in a cage until someone adopts her. I'm hoping the right family will take her asap. I can't help but cry every time I think about it.
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