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Old 08-13-2012, 10:17 PM
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My adopted dog isn't working out

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Please don't bash me.....there is nothing you can say to me that I haven't already said to myself. I had a dog for 16 years until I had to have him put down in March of last year. I wasn't ready for another dog until now. I went to a few local breeders asking if they had any available older dogs that were rehoming. I only got one response and it was that they don't rehome to people they don't know. So I went on my quest and found a dog that was listed on a SPCA website as an outside adoption. I thought he would be a perfect fit as he is 10 years old. He lived with two other dogs and the man was ill and couldn't look after them anymore. I can bet my life that these dogs were let to roam all day as they lived in a small community. I did not know this. I never got to speak to the man himself, only the home care worker who didn't know much about the dogs. So, I went ahead and adopted him anyway thinking, how much work could a geriatric dog be. I got this dog here with me 2 weeks now and I am physically and emotionally exhausted. The poor little guy just wants to walk and walk all day long. He is not satisfied with just being in the yard. He won't pee in my yard. He whines and paces all day long. I think he is fretting for his previous owner. So after much thought and consideration.....I made the extremely hard decision to rehome this dog thinking that if he had an owner who was home with him all day, he would be better. I found new owners, one who worked from home and the other had experience with rescued animals.....Great I thought, how could I find a better home. They brought him back to me the next day saying he wouldn't work out because he was whining and pacing all night. Which I found really odd because the only time this little guy is settled is at night. Then I met with another woman who owned a dog like him before and said that she would take him and we would transition him into her home. The first time I left him with her for 1/2 hour, she said she couldn't take him. So then I contacted the SPCA that had the courtesy posting, they basically washed their hands of him. I am at a loss. I feel so guilty about taking this dog in the first place and upsetting him even more. I have tried everything to calm him.....ignatia, DAP Collar, gravol, Pet Eeze, Bark deterrent, Thunder shirt. He needs a LOT of work and I wasn't anticipating how much work he would need and don't have the time nor the patience to work with him. He won't pee in my yard....I even bought a pee stick and put in my yard. I wiped his pee off of a pole and put that in my yard along with his poop. I tell him to pee when I see him peeing to try to train him to pee on command. This isn't working either. I brought him to a vet today to get something to calm him....while he was whining and pacing, she said he doesn't seemed too stressed and wouldn't give me anything for him because she said he is still getting used to his new surroundings. I am exhausted and I can't get anyone to take him. What am I supposed to do? I didn't realize I was going to have to put so much work into an older dog. That is the reason why I didn't get a puppy. I knew I would have some issues with him but wasn't expecting to have him wanting to walk all day long.....I believe he thinks he will find his previous owner.

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Old 08-13-2012, 11:06 PM
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I'm sure that you've already thought of this, but, given all that you've already done, is there any chance of trying to contact the former owner of this dog? It seems that this dog might also be trying to "tell" you something, but the question is...what? How long have you had this dog so far? Could it be that it's a separation anxiety - and the dog is pining away for his former person?

Also, the vet you took him to - is this your regular vet (the one you took your old dog to) or a different vet? Why not call up the regular vet and tell him/her ALL of what's gone on with you and this dog. He/she might have some additional insight.
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Old 08-14-2012, 08:42 AM
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I phoned the "contact" person this morning who informed me that the real owners are in another province and the dog was with her father. She said that she would get the woman to call me but I haven't got much hope of her contacting me. There was also another dog from the same house that was adopted and I have contacted the SPCA and asked them to give me their contact info or contact themselves and ask if they would be interested in adopting this dog too.

I do believe the dog is pining for its former owner. I think his need to constantly walk is him trying to get back home. I have had him for 2 weeks now and have tried everything to calm him, to no avail. He will settle in the night and sleep....guess he is so exhausted from whining and pacing all day.

The vet that I took him to was not my regular vet. I couldn't get in to see him this week and he is going on holidays for 5 weeks after that.

I am just so physically and emotionally drained and this poor dog is not happy here. When we visit with my daughter and son-in-law, he lies down and doesn't make a peep. I have asked them if they would take him but they don't want to.

When he finally settles down here during the day, as soon as I move or pay attention to him he starts the pacing to and from the door and whining. I can't just ignore this dog all day and not move. I feel so bad for him and I feel like a horrible person.
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Old 08-14-2012, 10:51 AM
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If the dog is pining for its owner, there is not much you can do except to try and distract the dog and of course patience. My moms dog still cries for her after 2 1/2 years. Two weeks is not a very long time (although I am sure it seems that way to you right now). Try teaching him some new tricks, so that he will start to trust you. Maybe hand feed him so he knows you are the one that will be taking care of him. This will be a long process but if you can hang in there, I am sure it will be worth it. If you honestly can't keep him, call some of the rescue places. Be very honest with them, sometimes they have people who will work with the dog so he can be rehomed easily. If not try to get in touch with "The Best Friends Animal Sanctuary" I believe they are in Utah. They are a great place and take all kinds of animals.www.bestfriends.org/ Good Luck which ever road you take and please keep us posted.
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If you are set on rehoming, I would start contacting local rescues in your area, and see if they would be willing to foster him (for a donation, if necessary). I don't think you really need to feel awful about it. I had a similar case, and tried to work with the dog for 3 months before I finally rehomed him because I was getting panic attacks. If you are sure it won't work, it's better to rehome now than later (for you and the dog). Look on Petfinder to find rescues in your area, and start calling around and explaining the situation.

ETA: Dogs generally take 6 weeks to settle, so he's probably just getting used to his new environs. If you are considering keeping him, it will be a lot of work, but he will settle into your routine eventually. You just need to be consistent with positive training and patient.

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Old 08-14-2012, 10:18 PM
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You have my sympathy. I'm sure you have done everything you could for the dog you adopted and I would never bash anyone who comes looking for help, to vent, whatever. I also know the feeling. I'm drained. We've had Nat for, hold on and let me count, almost 4 weeks now and it seems like more than that. Please don't feel badly, you tried.
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Old 08-17-2012, 07:14 AM
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Thank you all for your understanding. It's so hard doing this alone and I was looking for a support group for adopted dogs and I couldn't find anything. So to update, the dog is doing a little better. He is not pacing and whining as much. He HATES being left alone and I have to put him in an expen when I leave. He doesn't like this at all. I have taken him to the dog park a few times and he seems to enjoy it there. He doesn't play with the other dogs but he sniffs around and tolerates them. The second time I had him there, he started growling....at first just a warning growl. But then a big boxer came in the adjacent dog park and came over to the fence and my small dog got very aggressive. I had to pluck him up out of the middle of the dogs because I was afraid that a big scuffle would take place.....you know how dogs are pack animals. That ended that visit to the dog park, although we were there a long time then.

The SPCA finally posted him on their wall as a 10 year old, un neutered male. Has issues with being left alone. Is a wanderer, requires lots of exercise, friendly with people. I don't hold out much hope of anyone wanting this poor little guy but if I found the right home where someone would be home with him all day and have patience with him, I would let him go because he deserves better and he may be more happy.
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And to joyouspetals, it is very draining to adopt a dog. I had no idea how hard it would be. I feel so bad for the little guy. I hope you and Nat are doing better.
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I hope you can find it inside to really tuff it out and see what happens..From you initial posts sounds more than just a little better already..But keep us updated either way. Good luck!
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Here's an update. I rehomed this poor little dog on Aug 20th, only to have him returned to me 12 days later on Sept 1. When I took him back, I decided that I was not letting him go anymore, that I was just going to deal with whatever comes. I took out the expen figuring he would be more comfortable in that. The first day, he peed on the side of the expen so that it went outside the expen and onto the laminate flooring. Second day, I fooled him, I put a 12 inch layer of cushing flooring around the inside of the crate up the sides of it. So I come home that day and low and behold, he had all of the flooring torn off of the sides of the expen and torn to shreds! So then I made him some belly bands. That worked! Yeah! I only had to clean the pee around his belly then instead of all over him as he was peeing and lying in it before so all of his legs and belly were full of pee, even though I had pee pads in the expen. So things were going pretty good....not wanting to go out walking so much. Got the walks down to 3 times a day....one long walk and 2 shorter walks. He started peeing on my floor when he came back to me so I just had a bucket and mop handy at all times. It mostly happened in the mornings....maybe because it took me 2 minutes to get out of bed instead of 10 seconds! But that didn't bother me.....something that we would work on. So the first week, I was working 7 am - 3 pm. When I would put him in the expen, turn on the radio and close the bedroom door, he would start barking. So I video taped him one morning and he was barking for about 7 minutes, then lied down then start barking about an hour into when the memory ran out. I thought okay, well, at least he settles down some times. Then one morning, I was leaving, he was barking and the neighbour upstairs was banging on the floor because he was barking. Nothing I could do and I knew he would stop in a few minutes. I gave him Rescue Remedy each morning as well. So first week goes by and the second week, I was work 3 pm - 11 pm. Nothing all week and then I came home on Friday night and there was a note stuck on my door telling me to keep the dog quiet as not everyone has the weekends off! I knew it was only a matter of time before I was served an official notice so I frantically tried to find him a new home over the weekend and tried to get some rescue groups to take him. It broke my heart but I ended up bring him to the SPCA on Sunday afternoon. I have been worried sick about him but when I called today, they said that he was doing fine and playing with his ball! Wow, he never played with toys here....I guess he likes being around the other dogs. I used to take him to the dog park and he didn't seem too excited there but I guess he likes them near him and not able to touch him! Anyway, they told me that about an hour after I dropped him off, they had an application filled out for him and they will let me know when he gets adopted. Please say a little prayer for Brody that he finds a good home where he will be very happy. I miss the little guy and his gentle kisses in the morning to wake me up.

Thanks to all of you for listening.

Oh, and btw, the note was not signed but I know who it was and I left a note in her mailbox yesterday just saying "The dog has been dropped off to the SPCA" I just wanted to let her know that I know it was her and hope she feels guilty. Even though I had a really rough start with him, I did finally decide to keep him no matter what and fell in love with the little guy. I will keep checking on him to make sure he is doing well.
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