New to this forum. I am from Evansville, Indiana and my family lives here. My wife is from Odessa Texas and has visited there with the kids the last 4 summers a month each in the summer. We got a golden retriever puppy, last July from a breeder. She was amazing. We loved her so much. Unfortunately, she got out of my brother-in-laws fenced in yard (we know, my wife is beating herself up something terrible for not putting her inside, before they left for a party)...got lost, actually my wife found out my homeaway chip people called and someone had found her. Unfortunately when she called right back, the dog had already escaped, the kids left the door open too long (not blaming). She was then on the loose from 1am July 4th until a kind stranger called to inform my sister in law that she was found on the side of the road, looked like she died instantly
Needless to say, we are all heartbroken. we have 16 year old boy, 14y girl, and 12 y boy. Molly really helped Dana, our middle child, with battling depression (one of the things that has helped). My wife is worried about her tailspinning. I know that those kind of feelings can't be fixed easily, and maybe sharing grief with the rest of the family is better than sharing depression alone. idk...i've battled it 20 years and im not going to pretend i know how she feels, ANYWAY.....(as you can tell Im a mess)
We were going to get Molly another puppy from the same mom and dad. The lady does one breeding a year. We decided not to last month. Now we are seriously considering it. I definitely want another FULL sibling WHEN we get one, there is just a voice in my head saying "you are trying to replace Molly!"...can anyone relate? There is another voice (i have a lot of voices lol) saying "what if this puppy only lives a year too, can you handle it?"
I don't know how to answer those questions. So I'm asking for suggestions/advice from you guys. Our gut tells us that we are perfectly fine getting a new puppy. It will still hurt, and we won't be able to get her for 3-4 weeks anyway. It is a wonderful breeder 100 miles away that cried with me on the phone, and has sent texts and is grieving with us.
Honestly, I just want Molly back...but I know everybody wants their babies back. I had to put my 10 year old cat that lived me with while I was alone (divorced for 5 years) and was by best friend. He had cancer, and that was hard....This....this is so much more. Too soon, too tragic...and I always thought I was a cat person but Im becoming a dog person now...plus, im grieving with and for the rest of my family. Seems like I'm grieving more for her than I am when my dad died when I was 17 (23 years ago)....surreal
Thanks and love to all that made it thru this rambling,