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Old 09-25-2013, 02:20 AM
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What would you do with my mother?

The story is this: mum is 85 and lives with us, and her small 11 year old poodle cross is diabetic, which means she needs injections twice a day and a special diet. I just cannot get through to her that feeding her titbits is killing her dog and it drives me nuts! Her excuse is that it's just a little thumbnail, either that or denial. Should I just let her feed her dog to death? The trouble is that it's us that have to pick up the pieces, take her to the vet for recurring kidney stones and UTIs.
What would you do?
I'm just having a vent really.... grrrr!
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Old 09-25-2013, 06:12 AM
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Hhhmm...this is a tricky situation & I am sorry that you're in it.

I agree that it is a serious issue. An elderly dog with those sorts of health problems can't keep going through the side effect of bad food! My best advice would be to explain the situation to the vet & then ask for them to personally speak to your mother. Tell them not to hold anything back...really drill into her that the dog is at risk. Maybe a professional's words will have more impact on her...??

Good luck! Btw - out of curiosity...am just wondering what "special diet" she is on for the diabetes? I am always interested in animal nutrition.
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Thanks for the reply! Well, there's the difficult part, we're in France, she doesn't speak French, is hard of hearing and virtually housebound. Quite honestly, I don't think she'd listen to anyone. She seems to have the mindset that the dog is getting past it and she'd rather give her treats for 'quality of life' (she has the same mindset about herself, and she is also diabetic!). Mum is in the 'shutdown' stage of doggie training, she won't listen and just switches off. It's a lost cause really, I was just having a rant

Well, it's not really a special special diet, I just scoured the internet and came up with the best combination I could find - cooked chicken, courgette, carrot, and a little bit of wholemeal pasta. I've reduced the pasta since the kidney stones.
Maybe I should try giving mum a supply of healthy treats for Susie (the poodle) as well, but I can't help feeling she'd just get those as well, not instead of.
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As much as I hate to say it...there's not really much you can do. The poodle may have less time with her because of it but if she's running around and typically being happy then at least there's that to comfort you...

I think it'd be worth TRYING to give your mom healthier treats for her dog. If you notice her feeding both, then you can always hide them somewhere? She might not notice?
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Thanks, I think you're right! She notices everything, but strangely thinks that I won't. I've already stopped buying dog treats as a lot of them seem to be really bad for diabetes, so she resorts to ham, cheese and bits from her plate, so yes, maybe the healthier options would do it, I wonder what though - the cooked courgette and carrot would be a bit messy, a bit of chicken perhaps. I tried her on a slice of raw carrot once and she threw it up straight after.
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If your mother is anything like my mother, nothing you can say or do is going to change her mind and stop her from what she is doing now... My mother gives the dogs treats, food off her plate and wet canned dog food all the time. I as well as my dad and sister have told her many time that the canned food isn't benefiting them at all and she should only be feeding it to our senior dog, if that! But that doesn't matter and she spoon feeds each dog making it so the old dog doesn't get as much as he need and the younger dogs get fat.

Her toy poodle is overweight. We tell her that and she get mad. Even the vet told her that the dog is 2-3 lbs overweight. My mom just say "2-3 lbs is nothing she is fine" or "that vet doesn't know what they are talking about" -_-' Yes mom, that man went to school for 8 years and spent more money than you can imagine so he could come and lie to you because he doesn't have a clue. He cheated on evey one of those exams... 2-3lbs overweight for me is nothing, thats great! For a dog that should weigh 15lbs is quite a difference but she will never understand that.

Sorry, I guess I really didn't have any advice and just went on a rant of my own. I hope your mother will stop feeding her dog like that and will understand that she is harming more than helping.
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lol, mothers eh? Susie was very overweight but we've managed to slim her down a bit. Mum thinks it's lack of exercise which is partly true - but Susie detests going for walks. Try applying the same logic to my mother's weight problem though! (She's the one that complains about her weight - I wouldn't dare mention it!). Even the doctor tells her she should get more exercise. I guess mum and the poodle are well suited
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Are you sure you aren't talking about my mother? That seriously sounds like mine. We politely suggest she walk her dog with us and her response is "you walk her". um, what? I am walking my dog... and that suggestion was for you as much as for the dog... BUT we don't say that because we'd never hear the end of it!

Her doctor has told her she needs to lose weight to help her back problems and that if she doesn't exercising and start eating healthy she is going to be diabetic. Her solution? Stop going to that doctor..
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For the just 2-3 pounds, you could try using this site, though I'd imagine it would just be seen as more lies.
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For the just 2-3 pounds, you could try using this site, though I'd imagine it would just be seen as more lies.
Thanks! I agree I don't think it will do anything to motivate my mother but I'm going to check it out.
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