| Hey Pam. I am so sorry for your loss. I am in the same place right now.
My beloved collie cross Fly was euthanised on 27 January this year. When she was still alive I posted on the health section of this forum kind of a living eulogy for her - I wanted to remember her and for people to remember her as the loving, excitable, crazy, beautiful pup she was before her illness. She was diagnosed with bone cancer and a secondary cancer in her bowel. Towards her last days she could not stand up on her own or get in and out of the house on her own. To compound this her bowel was obstructed by some sort of tumour and the poor soul was up 40 times a night trying to poo and she couldn't. I spent hours trying to coax her into eating something so I could get her to eat her steroids which kept her going.
I feel your pain, Pam and your touching account of Dakota's final moments reminds me so much of our experience that I am crying right now. In retrospect I really wish I had had the vet come to our home (they offered to but I thought I didn't want it). We took Fly down to the vet's surgery and she was put to sleep on the cold steel table. I know it was the only option as she was suffering and the steroids were the only thing keeping her going... but I feel like I betrayed her somehow. I feel like I failed in my duty to take care of her and keep her from harm. And I miss her so much every day. The world is moving on without me, people have started looking at me like "Enough already, it was only a dog". She was so good, so sweet, so loving, so fun, such a part of my heart and she's gone.
I really hope that you can work through your grief and come to a place where you can remember Dakota and the happy times you shared without your heart hurting too much.
xxx |